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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/confuseddepartment on 2024-01-15 07:18:13+00:00.

Throwaway account because I feel like this whole situation is really just that dumb.

Last night I (21F) cooked dinner as I usually would for my partner (20M) and I, and it was a chicken dish. If it makes any difference, chicken breast I had bought packaged from a supermarket yesterday and was still relatively fresh according to the use by date. Between my partner and I, if one cooks the other will wash the dishes and put left overs away, and so later that night my partner was washing up and went to put the leftovers away but for whatever reason decided to leave the dinner leftovers in the saucepan. I had noticed before I went to bed and asked what he was planning on doing with the leftovers and he just replied “I’m taking them to work tomorrow for lunch”. Fair enough I thought and I just went to bed.

Come the next morning and we’re both getting ready to leave for work, and by the time I had made my way downstairs my partner had already packed his lunch and was just getting ready. I thought nothing out of the ordinary and we both head off for the day.

Posting in real time, I not long ago get home and I find my partner glued to the loo, groaning and moaning and some other unpleasant sounds. I ask what’s wrong, and he starts going off about the chicken. I just said “well I’m fine, did you heat it up enough before eating it?”, and in return got a meek response of “no, I ate it cold from the saucepan”. I’m not gonna lie, I was a bit confused on why he was eating it from the saucepan and even more confused because I didn’t see him LEAVE this morning with the saucepan so I asked about a container, he said apparently all of our food containers have vanished from the cupboard and he hadn’t washed any others that night so he just left the leftovers on the bench overnight and took them to work today. I really didn’t mean to sound the way I did when I said it but I replied “why the FUCK would you do that, did you want food poisoning?” and he fired back angrily with “well last night when you asked you didn’t say anything about it”.

YEAH well I thought it was common sense that leaving chicken out for over 12 hours (16 hours I believe by the time he actually eats lunch) and then eating it would lead to a bad situation but apparently not, so AITA for not warning him of the consequences of eating old, unrefrigerated chicken? Or is there circumstances where that’s okay and I should have warned him?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ZealousidealCold7321 on 2024-01-15 07:13:55+00:00.

My (46F) daughter (15F) has been going out with her boyfriend (15M) for just over a month. It’s clear they are both absolutely head over heels in love but I think that he has autism because of a few small things that happens with him. He’s constantly looking deadpan, whenever he’s with my daughter in her room, I constantly hear her say “how dare you” as if he’s insulting her and not meaning to, he has had an obsession with planes and TopGun for years and wants to join the airforce because of it, he also is extremely socially awkward with me and my family. AITA?

Edit: I haven’t told him I think he is, but I heavily suspect he is. It doesn’t matter at all whether or not he is, so long as he treats my daughter well.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/One-Sir6210 on 2024-01-15 07:10:11+00:00.

I work hybrid and have to go into the office two days a week, whereas my partner works from the office four days a week.

Therefore, on Monday we are both commuting to the office via train and travel to the train station together. We get separate trains: his 06.52 and mine at 06.56.

Our trip to the station takes about 8 mins - 5 min drive and 3 min walk from the car park, although this obviously can be slightly elongated by traffic lights etc. The most it has ever taken is about 11 mins.

I am the only person who drives (my partner can drive, just won’t and hasn’t driven since passing their test 7 years ago) and therefore we only depart when I am ready.

I had said we would aim to leave at 06.30 (arr 06.38-06.41) as my partner gets anxious about missing trains, but that realistically as long as we are out of the door by 06.35 (arr 06.43-06.46) we will be fine.

This weekend I have been feeling really sick, and spent most of yesterday in bed. I am feeling better now and, as my company is strict on us having to come into the office on our days, we were both travelling into work.

Still feeling somewhat naff, I took longer than usual to get out of bed so was on the later side and we didn’t depart until 06.35. This has led my partner to be angry - irritable, demanding I need to set more alarms and giving me the silent treatment. I feel this is unreasonable because:

1. They were still well on time for their train, as we arrived at 06.46 - they had to spend 6 mins on the platform waiting for the train to arrive

2. I was feeling ill and deserve a bit of empathy for the situation, rather than them pushing all their feelings of anxiety on to me

3. Frankly, given they won’t drive there is a bit of beggars can’t be choosers going on here - if they want to be super super early consistently they can drive themselves rather than micromanage me to this extent

I snapped at their behaviour and basically told them they lose the attitude or get the bus as I got them there well on time, but now I feel bad at this disagreement. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/CapMaster3056 on 2024-01-15 07:08:17+00:00.

This is a bit of a lighthearted post.

My (27f) husband (27m) have a daughter who is 5 years old. My husband loves pizza, it's been a ritual for us for years to get pizza every other weekend. My daughter used to love these dinner nights as well. One day my daughter asked me if I could get her pizza. I didn't want to order one in the middle of the day, so I instead made her a pizza sandwich (a sandwich with cheese, tomato sauce, onion, corn, all that good stuff).

Well, she fell in love with the pizza sandwich. It's become a treat that she asks for on a regular basis and she started disliking regular pizza as a result of this. Now on our pizza nights, she keeps asking whether I can make her a pizza sandwich instead. Don't get me wrong, if I'm too tired to make a sandwich she'll suck it up and eat the pizza. I indulge her when I have the ability to.

My husband thinks I should stop making her pizza sandwiches during pizza nights so we can eat the food together like we used to and to show she can't always have what she wants. I told him that i don't see the harm since these sandwiches are very easy to make and are similar to pizza anyways, but he thinks she should appreciate the food that's already in front of her. I think she should be allowed to enjoy pizza nights however she wants in her own way. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Outrageous-Offer-148 on 2024-01-15 07:05:43+00:00.

Some back story The recipes in question were my favourite treats I grew up having Some are old family recipes some came out of a cook book from the 90s

I asked mum when I moved out if I could have a copy of the recipes she denied my request as she was going to make them on Christmas and my birthday as treats for me and to keep me visiting her

Several years past I had been visiting her nearly every weekend without fail

She missed a few birthdays like forgot about them It's not the first time she has done that she forgot my 18,21 and recently my 30th and 31st

I was in my 30s and she had me feeding her pets whilst she was on holidays Given she just forgot my 30th I found the recipes and took some photos as I wanted to make sure that I can get my birthday cake

I told my sister some time later when she asked me what I was doing for Christmas as I was uninvited that year as mum wanted to have a Christmas by herself but she spent it with my brother and sister instead Luckily I had the recipe for those Christmas desserts

My sister immediately told mum asap then the next time I visited mum she went after me she changed the locks to the house and put a security cameras inside and outside the house I had no right to the recipes I grew up eating she told me

So reddit am I the asshole

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Throwaway6353-7 on 2024-01-15 07:00:56+00:00.

I (22F) and my wife Naomi (21F) just moved in together. I noticed how Naomi was very messy after the first week as well as doesn't clean up after herself.

I don't like mess and cant stand it, but I also hate cleaning so its been quite un-pleasant having to clean up after myself and Naomi. I love Naomi very very much and could never imagine my life without her.

After the first month Naomi started to assume I would always make her dinner so she just stopped cooking and buying food to cook. Info: Both my parents have owned restaurants and worked in many so I grew up in kitchens and cooking. Due to that I'm quite good at cooking and I make holiday dinner every year.

I am a lawyer so I work a lot which is why we haven't lived together (my house is cluttered which bothered my constantly so I stayed with her for a lot of the time, though her house wasn't messy at all).

Two days ago, Naomi came home and blew up at me for not having dinner ready when she got home from her long day at work (she's a video game designer) and it really upset me as I had a long day, up from 4am working to then 9pm just for my wife to yell at me.

I was still making Naomi her dinner and when I finished cooking she thanked me for the food and we went to sleep.

Yesterday I woke up quite exhausted and have been feeling sick all day. I didn't intend on skipping making dinner but I fell asleep on the couch trying to work. I woke up to Naomi hovering over me yelling curse words and slurs, pissed that I didn't make her dinner.

Today I woke up to my phone blowing up with texts and missed calls from mine and her family, my family was mostly on my side but none of Naomi's family were on my side.

Naomi's mother is letting her stay with them until I apologize, which, I think is absurd but at this point I'm still getting texts about apologizing and me being an asshole.

So the only logical thing was to come to REDDIT for judgement.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/InevitableShip9451 on 2024-01-15 06:54:22+00:00.

Short version: I’ve been dating someone for 5 years and we’ve never been overseas together. I was over it and a friend asked if I wanted to travel with them and I said yes. Now partner is mad and said I’m in the wrong and should have checked with him first.

Detailed version: We’ve done a few trips within the state together, but never a proper holiday afar. While Covid certainly impacted travelling for a couple of years like everyone else, there’s always been a reason he couldn’t go somewhere.

This included: it’s too expensive, too busy with work, I don’t want to go or I rather go here instead. If we explored an option it quickly fizzled out and nothing happened. For their birthday, I knew they would love to do Vietnam.

So I put together 2 options with everything from flights, hotel, tours, etc. to choose from. Everything was literally planned out and they just had to choose A or B. Their reason this time was “I don’t know what’s happening at work, I’ve got a bit on.”

I’ve always wanted to do a cruise somewhere and it wasn’t for them. They saw it as full of old people and gastro - each to their own.

Then a good friend of mine booked a solo cruise and asked if I wanted to go with. I said yes and booked the same cruise - different rooms of course.

I told my partner about it and he was shocked. They were mad and ignored me for a couple of days. When I tried to talk to them they said not right now. Eventually we talked and they were angry that I didn’t tell him them first before booking an overseas trip. They were mad that we haven’t been overseas together and I’m choosing to go with a friend instead. They felt I should have seen this from their angle.

To keep the peace, I apologised just to move on.

But AITAH? Was what I did honestly wrong? There’s no romantic connection with the friend or ever gave a reason to think I’m unfaithful. Keen for any advice.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ModeratelyMeekMinded on 2024-01-15 06:52:24+00:00.

I (20F) still live with my parents and we’ve been hit by COVID for the first time ever. My dad and brother tested positive and have flu symptoms, but my mum and I have no symptoms and keep on testing negative. She announced last night that she was going to sleep in my bed because she didn’t want to get sick (my parents converted the 4th bedroom into a study awhile ago so there’s no extra bed) and I winced.

My mum is TERRIBLE to sleep with. She snores loudly, she’s one of those people that will madly kick just as they’re about to fall asleep all the time and, while she won’t be woken up by her own snoring, she’ll be woken up by something as minor as a car driving by or my cat scratching around and yell: “BUGGER OFF!”, unaware that her exclamations are twice as loud as the original noise. Plus, her and my dad share a queen bed and I don’t think she understands that my double bed is quite a bit smaller and she can’t sprawl out.

Last night was… painful and I probably got about three hours of cumulative sleep. I had to go to work early this morning (I’m still fine to go in so long as I have no symptoms and I keep on testing negative every morning) but my mum has taken the opportunity to have the week off. I was dead tired when I went in so my shift was awful and, when I got home and my mum was around, I just said: “You have my bed tonight. I take out the blow-up mattress and sleep on that.” My mum just shook her head and said the blow-up mattress is so terrible it’s only for camping now. I said: “Okay, then I’ll just sleep on the couch.” My mum said I can’t sleep there either, the couch is too hard for me to sleep on. I, ABSOLUTELY FED UP, simply asked: “Okay, then why don’t you sleep on the couch?”

My mum immediately looked at me like I had put a curse on her and said it’s technically her bed and her house (touché) and she’s not going to be relegated to the couch or be forced to share a bed with our COVID positive father. I told her bunking in with me is not sustainable because I have to be up early every day this week and my work can be grating enough without being EXHAUSTED . My mum said that I’m not easy to sleep with either and said that why should I be the person who’s sleeping normally and she the one sleeping terribly when we can just meet each other halfway and both keep sleeping just okay for the rest of the week. I said that that’s where she’s wrong. There is already a person sleeping terribly and it’s me. She asked why can’t I just be a little more considerate and I had had enough at that point so I just left the room.

AITA for asking her to take the couch?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/cruelsummer_89 on 2024-01-15 06:49:43+00:00.

Last year, my friend and I ticketed for Taylor Swift in our country (Singapore). She got us tickets in the front of the second level for day one and I was able to get us good floor seats for day four. We are both University students. I babysit to earn money and once a week do some work for my uncle.

Last week, the keyboard on my laptop stopped working just 6 weeks after my warranty expired. I took it to Apple and they said it needs to be replaced. It will cost about $1000 to fix it as it is out of warranty. For that, I might as well just pay a few hundred dollars more and buy a new one, as there are a couple of other issues with it, notably and annoying crack in the screen from when I tripped over holding it.

I have decided to sell my floor ticket and just go the first day. I will get at least $2500 from selling it due to how close it is, more than enough to cover the laptop and the rest I can put into my savings account to have some savings handy in my account. This will be helpful for me for times where I need to babysit less because I am busy during exam period.

My oldest sister is 10 years older and a lawyer. She was unable to get tickets. When she found out I am selling mine, she got angry I did not offer it to her for face value. Face value is not going to pay even half of a new laptop. She said I am being scummy by buying tickets to sell for more. That was not my intention. I'm upset to have to sell the ticket but our parents are not well off and I really need a working laptop for my studies. If the keyboard didn't stop working, I wouldn't be selling the ticket. I'm only doing it for necessity because I really need this laptop for university. She said I should get a cheaper brand than Apple instead of scalping but everything is interlinked with my iPhone & Apple calendar and I really don't like Windows OS and want to be stuck with it for years. I plan to buy extended warranty this time and keep it for 3 years if possible.

I said if she buys me a new laptop with the extended warranty, she can have the ticket, but she refused it is unfair. So I plan to sell it. But she keeps putting up stories on instagram about how I am a trashy scammy scalper so IDK if I am being a jerk. I didn't buy the ticket with the intention of reselling it, I'm selling it because something crappy happened and I need the money for my studies.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Conscious_Form_9880 on 2024-01-15 06:47:52+00:00.

I (37f) and my husband, Ethan (37m) have been together married for 1.5 years. He has three kids, 10m, 8f, and 4f, with his ex-wife, Rita. Their marriage ended when Rita found out she was pregnant with the youngest child, she confessed to having an affair. They were legally divorced before she gave birth. My husband and I met when his youngest was 4 months old.

Ethan and Rita share custody with a 5-2-5-2 schedule. I am a stay-at-home wife/mom while Ethan runs a demanding business. I happily care for the kids full time, wake-ups, breakfast, school drop-offs and pick-ups, homework, lunch/dinner, play dates, soccer games, birthdays, family trips, etc. I love them and have a great relationship with all three of them.

My step-daughter (8f) had a dance recital last week. Rita, her mother, my SIL (Ethan’s sister), Ethan, and I attended the recital. There was a grazing table after the recital and when another parent chatting with us asked me how many kids I have—I told her that my husband and I have three children.

Rita overheard us and completely flipped, she caused a scene. We kept quiet and met with Rita later that evening where Ethan told her off and said that they are “our” kids too because I care for them half of the time.

She’s been having a smear campaign on social media saying that I have no right to claim her kids as mine. I’ll be honest, it hurts.

Reddit- AITA for saying that my husband’s kids are our kids? Should I have phrased it differently?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NJ_Citizen on 2024-01-15 04:01:10+00:00.

Stupid argument, but I think I have a fair point. On Saturday morning, we ordered 2 bagels.. one each. They made a mistake and gave us 4. Common sense would say to have 1 each on Saturday, and 1 each on Sunday. On Saturday morning I said I only wanted the 1 I was going to have on Saturday. Sunday morning comes along and I have a change of heart and I go to get “my” bagel. It’s not there, so I ask wife and she said she had 3 yesterday (Saturday) so there are no more left. I said she could have been considerate and double checked with me before eating the last one. Then she got offended and stupid argument followed. I know I said I didn’t want it, but I didn’t even have a chance to change my mind on Sunday. And also 3 bagels in one day is kind of ridiculous…. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ill_Food_9629 on 2024-01-15 02:36:44+00:00.

I [Nb 22] work as a dishwasher in a restaurant. One of the servers [F24?] came up to the dishpit and put some plates down, I grabbed one and started rinsing it. She then proceeds to say "Hey can you put the plate back and pick it back up? I'm really OCD about how dishes are picked up." I responded with "I'm sorry you have OCD, but that doesn't mean you can dicate how I pick up a plate." Server then says "Oh no, I don't have OCD. I said I am OCD, it's a metaphor." I said "no it's not, OCD is a actual medical condition people have. It affects every part of their lives. I recommended you do some research." "Omg you're making a big deal out of nothing. Stop yelling at me." Please note I was not yelling, I was talking normally. She tells the manager that I yelled at her and the manager pulls me aside and says I that u could've ignored her comment and handled the situation better. But he also said I'm not in trouble.

Now half the servers are made at me for making her upset and the other half said i handled the situation fine.

So AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/mamasucuk on 2024-01-15 02:34:29+00:00.

So, I (f21) graduated at the start of 2023 and got a full time job 8 months later in hopes of buying a home this year. My mother (f44) has spent about 1.5 years studying and has now been hired for the same job today. Now I didn’t get the job I originally applied for, I was offered a lower level job due to a lack of experience. My mother has been offered the job I originally applied for but two pay levels higher. I studied for 3 years, saved for 5, and have moved about 3 times during this period. This was due to originally living with my mother’s narcissistic (now ex) husband, who wanted me to pay $180 a week in rent after finding out I was granted a trust when I turned 18 (this was due to courts mandating my compensation after my father’s violence during my childhood). I was also cleaning the house, taking care of my siblings while they went on overseas trips together, and endured his taunts whilst he was unemployed during this time. I then moved to my father’s, who had me cleaning his 5 bedroom home, doing his groceries, making him food, and taking care of his new partners kids, then he kicked me out and I now live with my mother’s parents (my grandparents) who are letting me stay rent free until I can afford a house, which I feel so guilty for burdening them. My mother received some fairly substantial payouts after leaving both my father and her ex-husband, due to the abuse as well as some extras to set herself up. It was half way through my degree that she decided to begin studying herself and only when she realised my plans that she began applying for jobs in a similar industry to me. I’m not mad about her getting her quals or the job, I’m mad that I endured the brunt of the abuse during my childhood, walked away from everything, am trying to start over with this job, while she did all of it without the burden of debt, stressing over exams and everything for three years, and won’t even need to work her way up. She doesn’t have any experience either - I can count the years she’s worked full time on one hand. She’ll be eligible for a loan within 3 months and easily pay her mortgage. Meanwhile, I have to wait until my probation period ends to transition to the higher paying role, even with the salary increase I’ll still struggle, and don’t even get me started on my debt. I want her to succeed, be financially stable, and achieve all of this. It just feels like it overshadows everything I’ve spent so long trying to achieve myself. I can’t even say anything about it because I don’t want to burden/ruin this for her. I just want to understand why she’d do all of this knowing the situation I’m currently in is due to the choices she made during my childhood. So, am I just being a spiteful kid who needs to move on?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/present_throwawayh on 2024-01-15 02:13:16+00:00.

I currently live with my parents 60m and 59f while I apartment hunt. This issue is with my dad. I’m 23m

My dad is a morning person while I am definitely not.

Every morning my dad expects me to say “good morning 😁” to him, he will say it to me and expect me to say it back. If I don’t say it back in a cheerful tone he gets this super annoyed look on his face. A few times on my way to the bathroom straight after waking up he will catch me in the hallway and expect me to say “good morning 😁” as I’m rushing to pee. Same thing happens if he catches me right as I open my bedroom door.

I always need 5 or so minutes for my brain to wake up in the morning and he doesn’t seem to really care.

This has for some reason started a few arguments where he thinks I’m in the wrong and I think he needs to wait for me to wake up.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NeatOpportunity4172 on 2024-01-15 01:58:33+00:00.

My mom (F in her mid 40s) and my dad (M 50) had a messy divorce and they don’t speak to each other. My dad got married to my stepmom Beth who’s actually pretty cool. My mom was pretty jealous of her. I’ve overheard her say my dad replaced her with a younger version of herself.

My mom kind of lost herself after the divorce. She started dressing younger, working out, and wearing a lot of makeup. She also went out a lot which she never did when we were kids. But she never did it on the week she had us so it’s wasn’t like neglect or anything. I think she started pretending to be younger because she thought dad actually replaced her with a younger woman.

I was telling my mom about a rough week I was having in college and she suggested a spa day. I told her I needed to study and she said I could take a break for a bit and that studying so long isn’t helpful. She said that I was young and should enjoy being carefree. She said I don’t act like a teenager.

I was sick of her nagging me. I said that she was the one acting like a teenager. She spends all of her time and money glowing up because she can’t stand that she’s not young anymore.

She looked really hurt and said she was just giving me some advice. Then she said that she had a more difficult education and is just trying to make sure I don’t make her mistakes.

My sister said I was a huge AH and I should apologize. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Beloved_Fir_44 on 2024-01-15 01:18:28+00:00.

My friends think this is pretty bad but I think it was justified. I (24f) had been casually talking to and hanging out with a guy for a few weeks and I wasn’t sure yet if I was interested in him. He really liked me and I agreed to go on a couple real dates with him. By this point I had pretty much decided I wasn’t into him in that way, but he was really sweet and expressed wanting something more so I felt bad about breaking it off.

I was living abroad and knew that I was moving back to my home country in a few months when my visa expired. He knew that too. So instead of being honest and breaking up with him because I didn’t feel that way about him, I told him that I was moving back home suddenly, earlier than expected. In my thought process, if I was honest with him, he would have thought there was something he had done or that I didn’t like about him. But in reality, he was so nice and did everything right, it just wasn’t for me. I figured that since I was moving in a few months anyway, there was no point in risking hurting his feelings and we could part ways as international friends.

He took the lie great and I stayed abroad for a few more months, but he lived on the opposite side of the city and we had no mutual friends so I never saw him around. I don’t regret it because I avoided having an uncomfortable conversation, and his ego is kept intact, as it rightfully should be because he’s a great guy. If it was you would you have preferred the honesty?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/helpdownpayment on 2024-01-15 01:11:38+00:00.

I (57M) have a son (30M) and a daughter (24F).

My son works as a bank teller and doesn't have the best salary. He really wants to get married, have kids and settle down but it has been really hard for him to find a girl. He constantly gets rejected in real life and has literally no matches on any apps (he showed me, besides scammers nothing). He is really worried because he is getting older and time is running out to find someone to start a family.

It is very hard for him to save money after rent and I felt that him buying a house would give him some stability and allow him to save more of his paycheck and also make him more desirable for women. For this reason, I decided to gift him a down-payment on a house so he can pay a mortgage that will be less than his rent.

However this started a disagreement with my daughter because she feels she should get money now as well. Her situation however is very different. She is younger, doesn't want to get married or have kids. She is objectively very good looking and literally complains about men asking her out all the time, gets cat called everywhere she goes etc.

She has a degree from Berkley, worked at Meta and then got laid off and while she is struggling a little bit since the lay off due to student loans, she is a software engineer so she will eventually be making a lot of money as it is a lucrative field, more than enough for someone who wants to be single. She has been working a customer support job temporarily while looking for engineering jobs.

AITA here? I love my daughter equally but I don't see why she needs the money as it won't change her life significantly in the long term compared to the boost it will give my son.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/d3fsnotmyp0rnaccount on 2024-01-15 00:42:50+00:00.

My husband of 5y has recently voiced that he wishes we were a little more affectionate. To clarify, he doesnt just want more sex, although that is part of it, and says he wishes i complimented his body more often, patted his butt walking past etc etc.

Admitiedly I am not very good at showing affection, part of the issue is he has very low self esteem, and when I attempt to compliment him, he always scoffs it away. So now i dont bother.

I told him this and he said "fair enough", but still seemed annoyed and has been quiet since.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ordinary_Ad5396 on 2024-01-14 21:56:41+00:00.

My current boyfriend wants to get a tattoo of a spider with a skull on it, my toxic and abusive ex boyfriend had that same tattoo. Is it wrong to not want my current boyfriend to get that tattoo? I think if he did get it I would be reminded of my ex whenever I look at it, which I definitely don’t want! TIA x

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Consistent-Pen9217 on 2024-01-14 19:36:07+00:00.

My sister Indigo (we call her Indy) is 22 and I am 28. We have always been extremely close despite our age difference. Because our mother kinda, well, sucks, she often looks up to me as a mother figure. I love her. But she just gets on my nerves sometimes. We live together with our friend Megan.

Indy and I are very different. I am a driven, professional, and social person. I work from home, and Indy works in a blue collar office setting. Because she never took studies seriously. She’s a hard worker though and often works long hours so I get peace and quiet throughout the day.

Indy is just very different. We’ve known that since a young age. She watches cartoons, has a real extreme interest in antiquing, and lives a pretty simple life. She only has two friends, eats the same 4 foods (Bread based food/pasta/chicken nuggets/chips) Basically the selection of a toddler. She can’t stand the way foods “feel” and has a crippling fear of food being “expired, stale, or contaminated” Certain condiments freak her out, and she’s always worried that people are lying to her about the ingredients in her food. So it’s gotten annoying and she now usually doesn’t eat with us anymore and just heats up something simple in the oven.

She gets overworked in stores. The lights are “too bright” the place is “too crowded” and “she can hear everybody’s conversation at once” and just walks out for a few min. Other days it’s fine. It makes no sense.

She will wash her hands or need to multiple times when we are out because they “feel hot and weird” so I don’t think it’s because of germ related fears. It’s just odd. And my friends have even noticed the small things she does like use different forks for the same meal.

I told her that her behaviors are not cute as I think she does this for attention. She called be bitter and rude and hasn’t spoke to me for 3 days.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Outrageous-Youth9884 on 2024-01-14 19:13:37+00:00.

For backstory, my (22M) girlfriend (21F) has a lot of fluids coming out of her body. She pees every hour and always tells me when she needs to poop. The worst part however, is her loogie hawking. This girl is the most congested person I have ever met and is constantly hawking loogies. She spits them in our sinks, in bushes, out of the car, etc. I love her, but it is gross. I tried to make a joke out of it earlier and I called her Bodily Functions when she said she needed to pee in the car. She got angry at me and said she can’t help it. She asked whether I would like it more if she hawked loogies/blow her nose or let the snot drip on her face. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/user525171818 on 2024-01-14 19:10:24+00:00.

I'm 17f and my dad is 55m and my friend asked me to come to a work party with her as a plus 1 and I asked my dad about it and he said he didn't care but I'm not really sure what to do because my sister is telling me not too but my dad is saying he doesn't mind. what should I do haven't made any official plans yet and there is nothing planned in the evening for my dad's birthday either so idk what to do I don't really go out like this and I would love too because I don't get many opportunities but I'm not gonna put my feelings before my dad's I don't really want to be thinking of myself in this situation what should I do?

Edit: I'm leaning more towards not going

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/throwaway0872459725 on 2024-01-14 18:45:58+00:00.

My friend's birthday is in 2 weeks, and I feel like I have been outgrowing the friendship for certain reasons.

Context is, a bit ago she confronted me saying that she didn't like my girlfriend and said that she's not good for me and I shouldn't be dating her. I didn't agree with what she was saying but I understood where her point of view of some of the concerning behavior was coming from, but did my best to explain that those things may seem that way out of context but weren't true. I felt like her approaching me and her comments were inappropriate and I've felt a bit uncomfortable being around her after this.

Of course after this happened I told my girlfriend about it and she was understandably very hurt that she said these things implying a certain nature about her, and also that my friend went to tell me instead of ever communicating with her. She texted my friend saying that she doesn't feel like she can trust her anymore and she that doesn't feel comfortable being around her anymore.

My friend never responded (which when confronted about it she said that the response was unwarranted and extreme), which in turn just hurt my girlfriend's feelings more. My gf doesn't even want to look at my friend or be in the same room as her anymore.

I'm put off by my friend's behavior, but we all share a friend group. Her birthday is in 2 weeks, and obviously she doesn't want my girlfriend to be there (and my gf doesn't want to go either). I don't really want to go but I know if I don't then my friend will be very let down, and at this point it'll further push me out of the friend group too.

So I'm in a bit of a situation now.. WIBTA if I choose to not go to my friends birthday because my girlfriend can't come?

Or, WIBTA to my girlfriend for leaving her behind? Our friends are all going and I know it'll make her really sad to be left alone.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/BlueberryOpposite851 on 2024-01-14 18:37:44+00:00.

My (30F) sister (28F) had an almost non-existent relationship for almost a decade cause when she was 19 I kissed her at the time on and off boyfriend. They were high school sweethearts but they were fighting all the time and broke up already multiple times before the kiss incident (tho the kiss caused their permanent). I know it was very wrong of me to do that but during that time my dating life was a mess and I ended bonding with my sister's bf whom was also going through a rough relationship with her and we ended bonding and developing feelings for each other.

However I haven't slept with him while he was dating my sister, it was only a kiss to which he immediately confessed to, but since then she essentially blacklisted both of us, but especially me. I guess the guy didn't remain in our lives for so long cause I dumped him as well after an year of dating after losing the spark, but my sister kept up the name calling and the slut shaming me for years and even after countless apologies from me, she still hasn't forgiven me.

I just found from my mom that my sister's getting married and that she hasn't given me an invitation to her wedding and when I confronted my sister about it she literally said that I don't deserve one. I told her that she's ridiculous and immature for still keeping a grudge for a mistake from almost 10 years ago and she just told me to go to hell. I tried contacting her fiance to explain my side of things to him cause I'm sure my sister overreacting the gravity of the situation to him, but my sister somehow found out and now she deluded herself into thinking that I want to "steal" her husband as well and now I hear she even wants to hire security from preventing me from attending (not that I wouldn't come if I wasn't invited).

I really feel like she's doing the most about a 10 years old situation. AITA ?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Upstairs_Interest on 2024-01-14 18:36:21+00:00.

ATIA? I am expecting my first child in June. When I shared this exciting news with two of my best girl friends when I first got pregnant, they excitedly talked about planning something fun like a baby shower or a weekend away. Obviously, I assumed that the two of them, being the amazing friends they are, would take the initiative a few months later to make that happen, especially now that I am in my second trimester. Thinking they were on top of it, I casually mentioned my expectation for a baby shower to another friend. This person, who lives in another state, kindly offered to help plan and reached out to the other two friends. This triggered the 2 friends to realize they were unexpectedly in charge. They reached out to me asking what I was expecting, and without batting an eyelash, I excitedly told them I wanted a co-ed baby shower, swiftly secured a date, and even sent them a guest list, which includes around 40+ people. Did I mention this is my first child, and I explicitly asked them to take charge because I've got a lot on my plate? I'm going on a baby-moon with my husband soon, and most of my free time is dedicated to researching everything for this new chapter of motherhood.I should note that my family and coworkers are also throwing me two separate showers, but my friends are not invited to either of those. Besides deserving a shower, I'm frankly a bit perturbed that my best friends are not more excited about this. They should WANT to throw my husband and I a shower to celebrate our next chapter, right?

Edit: I did not mean to sound like I was expecting anything. I am merely trying to express that I would hope that my good friends would be more excited and organized, which they clearly are not. I would be more than happy to throw myself a party but I simply do not have the time to do so. I should also clarify that three showers is really a division between three separate groups of people in my life: The desire to have a separate friends and family shower is because my family shower is women only and very traditional. While my friends are not invited to the shower my family is hosting, my family is not invited to my friend's one either. The one that I am getting through work is very rudimentary and everyone at my work who is having a baby gets the same sort of thing, and none of my colleagues are on my "friends" guest list either.