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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Fair_Letterhead478 on 2024-01-08 01:42:01+00:00.

My (16m) brother (19m) was in his room with his boyfriend which is right next to mine. They where drinking (just to excuse him a bit because he normally doesn’t act like this, also this was New Year’s Day to excuse the afternoon drinking)

I think they where watching movies and shit by the sound of it or had them on in the background or whatever, they started singing along to Can you feel the love tonight, which I think you understand the cringe 😬 🤮

So I record it and intend to send it to him at the time just for a laugh but forget about it until I find it in my camera roll today and send it to him, in the same message I call him gay for knowing the full song (we joke like the regularly don’t think I’m homophobic)

He gets REALLY mad at me for recording him and starts having a real go at me for it and being angrier than he really had any right to be.

Like no harm was done? He just has to listen to what I did 😂. I get he’s embarrassed but surely he should be mad at himself for that?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Good-Investment3446 on 2024-01-08 01:21:42+00:00.

I(23F) am married to my husband (24M). My husband has a sister who is 29 years old. We'll call her Annie. Ever since me and my husband got married, me and Annie have always been great friends and we do nearly everything together. We share everything including makeup products and lip products.

Me and Annie were getting ready for a family wedding and my husband was in the other room also getting ready. Me and Annie were getting ready as usual doing our makeup. For context I had two benetints. One I had used for my face, (eyes,lips,blush). The other I had used for its traditional intended purpose. Please search it up if you don't know. Also, my husband is aware that I use benetint for that specific reason.

I had used up all my benetint that was used for my face and my other benetint was in the back of my makeup drawer hard for anybody to really see it. Annie looks into my drawer for anything else she could use for her face and she pulled out the benetint. She said it was a great colour and she was twisting it open to use it. I quickly snatched it from her and kind of said loudly 'don't use that!' I only raised my voice due to pure shock. Annie was appalled and looked at me confused. She didn't really say anything for the time being (5 mins) and left with a flustered look on her face.

I know I said that me and Annie were close, but I just didn't feel really comfortable telling her what I 'actually' used it for. I left the room to go into the room my husband was in and heard Annie and my husband talking. The most I heard was, 'She was really rude when she spoke to me honestly I'm offended..I thought we were on good terms'. I decided the best thing to do was go in and talk this out. My husband obviously understood the issue as he knows what the benetint was for but Annie was still left in the dark on this. I tried telling her that the benetint just wasn't for the purpose she wanted to use it for however she kept pressing on the issue and was demanding I tell her what it was for. I'll be honest I was a little confused myself on why this was a whole issue. Annie left the room and me and my husband looked at each other in pure shock.

Fast forward to the wedding. Things took a whole turn as I could see Annie going around to my in-laws and telling them what had happened and how I was so rude when I snatched the benetint off of her. Now I have my in-laws telling me to treat Annie with more respect because she's older and I should have just given the benetint. I'm trying to make this neutral but I can't bring myself to tell them what it is used for. It's embarrassing for me and I believe it's kinda personal. The only person who is on my side is my husband as he is aware of the whole purpose.

So what can I do in this situation? AITA?

P.S: This is the first time I've used Reddit for an actual post so I'm not sure if this is the right post to use 'AITA'.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Good-Investment3446 on 2024-01-08 01:21:42+00:00.

I(23F) am married to my husband (24M). My husband has a sister who is 29 years old. We'll call her Annie. Ever since me and my husband got married, me and Annie have always been great friends and we do nearly everything together. We share everything including makeup products and lip products.

Me and Annie were getting ready for a family wedding and my husband was in the other room also getting ready. Me and Annie were getting ready as usual doing our makeup. For context I had two benetints. One I had used for my face, (eyes,lips,blush). The other I had used for its traditional intended purpose. Please search it up if you don't know. Also, my husband is aware that I use benetint for that specific reason.

I had used up all my benetint that was used for my face and my other benetint was in the back of my makeup drawer hard for anybody to really see it. Annie looks into my drawer for anything else she could use for her face and she pulled out the benetint. She said it was a great colour and she was twisting it open to use it. I quickly snatched it from her and kind of said loudly 'don't use that!' I only raised my voice due to pure shock. Annie was appalled and looked at me confused. She didn't really say anything for the time being (5 mins) and left with a flustered look on her face.

I know I said that me and Annie were close, but I just didn't feel really comfortable telling her what I 'actually' used it for. I left the room to go into the room my husband was in and heard Annie and my husband talking. The most I heard was, 'She was really rude when she spoke to me honestly I'm offended..I thought we were on good terms'. I decided the best thing to do was go in and talk this out. My husband obviously understood the issue as he knows what the benetint was for but Annie was still left in the dark on this. I tried telling her that the benetint just wasn't for the purpose she wanted to use it for however she kept pressing on the issue and was demanding I tell her what it was for. I'll be honest I was a little confused myself on why this was a whole issue. Annie left the room and me and my husband looked at each other in pure shock.

Fast forward to the wedding. Things took a whole turn as I could see Annie going around to my in-laws and telling them what had happened and how I was so rude when I snatched the benetint off of her. Now I have my in-laws telling me to treat Annie with more respect because she's older and I should have just given the benetint. I'm trying to make this neutral but I can't bring myself to tell them what it is used for. It's embarrassing for me and I believe it's kinda personal. The only person who is on my side is my husband as he is aware of the whole purpose.

So what can I do in this situation? AITA?

P.S: This is the first time I've used Reddit for an actual post so I'm not sure if this is the right post to use 'AITA'.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/VeterinarianFit4773 on 2024-01-08 01:07:49+00:00.

I (29M) am visiting my sister over for my uni winter-break. She has 3 kids (6F), (8M) & (10M). Also if that matters she's the one that invited me and also paid for my ticket since I'm a non-working student.

Generally I like playing around with most kids, and most of the kids like spending time with me. The 2 younger kids often say that I am their favourite uncle and they enjoy spending time and playing with me. They listen to what I ask of them and are well-behaved around me. Obviously they are still kids and do stupid things, but overall I enjoy spending time with them. All that while I'm literally fed-up with the eldest kid. He never listens and always talks back to me (to his parents too but to lesser extent). Also since day one that I arrived at their place he keeps on disrespecting my privacy- looks through my things behind my back, peaks over my shoulder at my laptop/phone and comments it, tries to play paparazzo shooting photos of me etc. And I mean constantly. I've never yelled at him for that, but was very annoyed with his behaviour and told him countless times.

Also very important detail to add is that I smoke cigarettes, the fact which my family condemns very strong and tries to shame me for it all the time even tho I'm 30 and soon a physician so I know what I'm doing lol.

Neither my sister nor my brother-in-law made any serious attempts to stop his doing. Sure they did tell him sometimes to stop but never really did anything to make it happen. So his behaviour stays the same. After he looks through my things and finds my cigarettes or sees that I'm on my phone scrolling instagram or sth equally stupid he yells that loud, sends photos on our family chat etc. And while it doesn't do any serious harm it's constant and very annoying.

So today he has done all of that again several times, and after the last time he was peaking over my shoulder I yelled at him to stop. And while I know he's just a kid etc. I stand to repeat that it's very annoying and his parents not doing anything with that is just infuriating. Obviously he started talking back to me, after sometime my sister joined bashing me for yelling at her kid.

A big argument ensued with both of us saying mean things, on my part it was centered around not respecting myself and my privacy by her, her kid and whole family in general. Between many things said she told me that's her house and rules and I can't treat her kid like that. That I shouldn't be mad and arguing with the kid because I'm an adult etc.

So AITA for getting mad and yelling at/arguing with her and the kid?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/VeterinarianFit4773 on 2024-01-08 01:07:49+00:00.

I (29M) am visiting my sister over for my uni winter-break. She has 3 kids (6F), (8M) & (10M). Also if that matters she's the one that invited me and also paid for my ticket since I'm a non-working student.

Generally I like playing around with most kids, and most of the kids like spending time with me. The 2 younger kids often say that I am their favourite uncle and they enjoy spending time and playing with me. They listen to what I ask of them and are well-behaved around me. Obviously they are still kids and do stupid things, but overall I enjoy spending time with them. All that while I'm literally fed-up with the eldest kid. He never listens and always talks back to me (to his parents too but to lesser extent). Also since day one that I arrived at their place he keeps on disrespecting my privacy- looks through my things behind my back, peaks over my shoulder at my laptop/phone and comments it, tries to play paparazzo shooting photos of me etc. And I mean constantly. I've never yelled at him for that, but was very annoyed with his behaviour and told him countless times.

Also very important detail to add is that I smoke cigarettes, the fact which my family condemns very strong and tries to shame me for it all the time even tho I'm 30 and soon a physician so I know what I'm doing lol.

Neither my sister nor my brother-in-law made any serious attempts to stop his doing. Sure they did tell him sometimes to stop but never really did anything to make it happen. So his behaviour stays the same. After he looks through my things and finds my cigarettes or sees that I'm on my phone scrolling instagram or sth equally stupid he yells that loud, sends photos on our family chat etc. And while it doesn't do any serious harm it's constant and very annoying.

So today he has done all of that again several times, and after the last time he was peaking over my shoulder I yelled at him to stop. And while I know he's just a kid etc. I stand to repeat that it's very annoying and his parents not doing anything with that is just infuriating. Obviously he started talking back to me, after sometime my sister joined bashing me for yelling at her kid.

A big argument ensued with both of us saying mean things, on my part it was centered around not respecting myself and my privacy by her, her kid and whole family in general. Between many things said she told me that's her house and rules and I can't treat her kid like that. That I shouldn't be mad and arguing with the kid because I'm an adult etc.

So AITA for getting mad and yelling at/arguing with her and the kid?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NG-LAW on 2024-01-08 00:49:27+00:00.

Me and my partner recently decided to give it another shot after being split for a year. They are currently in school about 9 hrs away via car and 2 hr ($200) flight from where I work and live. I recently went under contract for a home unexpectedly (literally have nothing saved) and I’m in a rush to save up for my new home along with all of the expenses that come with it. I close in 2 months and their birthday is one month away. I have a trip with my sibling and best friend the week before their bday that I planned before we reconnected.

AITA for not visiting them on their bday and just sharing a meal the week before during my trip?

Clarification: The trip is to the city they live in.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NG-LAW on 2024-01-08 00:49:27+00:00.

Me and my partner recently decided to give it another shot after being split for a year. They are currently in school about 9 hrs away via car and 2 hr ($200) flight from where I work and live. I recently went under contract for a home unexpectedly (literally have nothing saved) and I’m in a rush to save up for my new home along with all of the expenses that come with it. I close in 2 months and their birthday is one month away. I have a trip with my sibling and best friend the week before their bday that I planned before we reconnected.

AITA for not visiting them on their bday and just sharing a meal the week before during my trip?

Clarification: The trip is to the city they live in.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/CleanCorner4252 on 2024-01-08 00:10:08+00:00.

Had some things said over the holidays. Some in laws have never accepted me or my kids. (Blended family.) I married into this family and have children with someone else who are disabled. In 5 years, we have been invited out with them maybe 4 or 5 times. They also always exclude us from any pictures taken or Facebook posts.

An in law told us that they do not want to have their kids around ours any longer because we "parent differently." And the "choices and actions" from that, they are not ok with having their kids around. (The only thing I could think of is that they are catholic and we are non religious and they are conservative and we are liberal. And our kids have disabilities. However. We have NEVER talked about politics or religion around them and we are always respectful of their beliefs.)

So, we have confronted those family members. And I have decided that I will no longer go to any get together with that side of the family, invited or not.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/CleanCorner4252 on 2024-01-08 00:10:08+00:00.

Had some things said over the holidays. Some in laws have never accepted me or my kids. (Blended family.) I married into this family and have children with someone else who are disabled. In 5 years, we have been invited out with them maybe 4 or 5 times. They also always exclude us from any pictures taken or Facebook posts.

An in law told us that they do not want to have their kids around ours any longer because we "parent differently." And the "choices and actions" from that, they are not ok with having their kids around. (The only thing I could think of is that they are catholic and we are non religious and they are conservative and we are liberal. And our kids have disabilities. However. We have NEVER talked about politics or religion around them and we are always respectful of their beliefs.)

So, we have confronted those family members. And I have decided that I will no longer go to any get together with that side of the family, invited or not.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/daugraphics on 2024-01-07 23:15:58+00:00.

I have a daughter (24F) from a previous marriage with my ex and a son (15M) from my current marriage. My ex passed away when my daughter was 16 and she has lived with me rent free ever since since I live close to her college

My daughter is a graduate student and earns money from her research lab, I don't remember how much quite well but it is an top Ivy school so it pays quite well. My daughter pays no rent, had her college paid for by scholarships and my ex's inheritance which went completely to her.

Recently my son has been wanting a new graphics card for his computer as he is an avid gamer and his current one doesn't work well with his monitor. He knows computers quite well.

My daughter recently bought herself a new computer and sold her old one in parts

According to my son my daughter's computer has two graphics cards and she isn't using one of them (the monitor is plugged in to the one she uses). The one she uses is from her old computer (5600xt) and the one she doesn't use is 4090

He says because she doesn't use windows and uses Linux the other one is useless to her and would suit his needs and he can exchange it with his current graphics card (2070).

I asked her to exchange it with her brother and she refused initially but when I reminded her about how it would be a gesture and how I don't charge her rent despite being an earning adult she reluctantly agreed but still lied and claimed she uses it despite a monitor never being plugged in.

She said she used it as it made school easier for when she is not on campus even though she plays very few games and is usually typing text documents.

However since the exchange she has been acting quite unpleasantly, not saying much and banging things when she does chores.

AITA here? I get that it is hers but I feel like if it's something that came with her computer that she doesn't use, it makes sense for her to give it to my son who would actually use it to upgrade his older computer especially since she already saves a lot on rent.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/daugraphics on 2024-01-07 23:15:58+00:00.

I have a daughter (24F) from a previous marriage with my ex and a son (15M) from my current marriage. My ex passed away when my daughter was 16 and she has lived with me rent free ever since since I live close to her college

My daughter is a graduate student and earns money from her research lab, I don't remember how much quite well but it is an top Ivy school so it pays quite well. My daughter pays no rent, had her college paid for by scholarships and my ex's inheritance which went completely to her.

Recently my son has been wanting a new graphics card for his computer as he is an avid gamer and his current one doesn't work well with his monitor. He knows computers quite well.

My daughter recently bought herself a new computer and sold her old one in parts

According to my son my daughter's computer has two graphics cards and she isn't using one of them (the monitor is plugged in to the one she uses). The one she uses is from her old computer (5600xt) and the one she doesn't use is 4090

He says because she doesn't use windows and uses Linux the other one is useless to her and would suit his needs and he can exchange it with his current graphics card (2070).

I asked her to exchange it with her brother and she refused initially but when I reminded her about how it would be a gesture and how I don't charge her rent despite being an earning adult she reluctantly agreed but still lied and claimed she uses it despite a monitor never being plugged in.

She said she used it as it made school easier for when she is not on campus even though she plays very few games and is usually typing text documents.

However since the exchange she has been acting quite unpleasantly, not saying much and banging things when she does chores.

AITA here? I get that it is hers but I feel like if it's something that came with her computer that she doesn't use, it makes sense for her to give it to my son who would actually use it to upgrade his older computer especially since she already saves a lot on rent.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/mdr_jmf on 2024-01-07 23:07:14+00:00.

I(18F) just graduated from HS a few months ago and wanted to move toFrance. My family told me not to and weren't suportive of that career path. I decidee to move to France anyway. I had no problems there and made friends with a girl and decided to move in with her. I called my parents a few days ago and they were very upset and shocked. I am an only child and none of my parents want me to be so far from them and they refuse to move to France since they dont speak French,unlike me. I wanted to see them again and make up with them, but there's no way I'm going to go to them to talk in person, because they'll try guilt-tripping me to stay with them. I also knew that there's no way I'll be able to convince them to fly out to me. So I lied and said I'm in a serious relationship with a guy there and that they should meet them. They believed me and flew out there. One of my friends there, we'll call him Jammy, offered to pretend to be my fiancé(which I consented with)we even went to this expensive restaurant together with my parents. The evening went horribly because Jammy didn't k english well and I couldn't stop speaking with an accent. Jammy ended up thinking it was a bit stupid to waste my money just to try to get on good terms with them. But it did end up helping because my parents saw that I was happy and are starting to get to terms that I won't be living with them anymore.. so, am I the a-hole for moving away and lying about an engagement just to get them to come over and try to change their minds?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/mdr_jmf on 2024-01-07 23:07:14+00:00.

I(18F) just graduated from HS a few months ago and wanted to move toFrance. My family told me not to and weren't suportive of that career path. I decidee to move to France anyway. I had no problems there and made friends with a girl and decided to move in with her. I called my parents a few days ago and they were very upset and shocked. I am an only child and none of my parents want me to be so far from them and they refuse to move to France since they dont speak French,unlike me. I wanted to see them again and make up with them, but there's no way I'm going to go to them to talk in person, because they'll try guilt-tripping me to stay with them. I also knew that there's no way I'll be able to convince them to fly out to me. So I lied and said I'm in a serious relationship with a guy there and that they should meet them. They believed me and flew out there. One of my friends there, we'll call him Jammy, offered to pretend to be my fiancé(which I consented with)we even went to this expensive restaurant together with my parents. The evening went horribly because Jammy didn't k english well and I couldn't stop speaking with an accent. Jammy ended up thinking it was a bit stupid to waste my money just to try to get on good terms with them. But it did end up helping because my parents saw that I was happy and are starting to get to terms that I won't be living with them anymore.. so, am I the a-hole for moving away and lying about an engagement just to get them to come over and try to change their minds?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/itsfinallysummertime on 2024-01-07 22:50:16+00:00.

I (23 F) live in a house with multiple roommates, 3 girls and one boy. It was my idea to move into the house with 1-2 of the girlfriends, and they recruited the other roommates. I was familiar and friends with all of them to start, but they didn't all know each other. This is where it gets a little more interesting: the guy, let's call him Colton, and I had a brief history of hooking up in the past. Not a smart idea, I know, to move in together but honestly we're good enough as just platonic friends that it hasn't been an issue. However, before living in the house and in the first few weeks of living there, I confided often in one of the roommates, let's call her Carly, about how Colton's actions sometimes hurt my feelings. I confided in Carly because I figured she was a good confidant since she didn't know Colton at all before moving in and I wouldn't be looked at as a gossip for talking to a friend who might have been a mutual friend.

Fast forwarding here, 6 months into living in the house I find out Carly and Colton are essentially in love and it is a complete blindside to me. Everyone in the house had been hiding it from me to not hurt my feelings, but honestly, finding out they thought of me as so sensitive hurt my feelings more than anything else. Carly and I talked it out, to which I told her I was disappointed because I felt like she knew ultimately she would be hurting my feelings and betraying my trust which made me see her differently, essentially not being a "girls girl." I told her though that at the end of the day I care about them both and I want them to be happy. I have my own life with my own issues and the last thing I care about is two of my friends dating!

After this discussion, our friendship changed obviously quite a bit. Carly was very upset that I wasn't as outgoing around her anymore and didn't care to hang with her as much. Admittedly, she wasn't my favorite person to be around but I was trying to make nice. One night, I overheard her talking to her friends when she didn't know I was home saying that I was trying to keep her and Colton apart and making her life miserable. This hurt me deeply but also made me super angry. I decided to text her a few days later letting her know I overheard her and that we needed to get everything out on the table once and for all. I thought the talk went well, but since then she continues to gossip about me and has not let go of this narrative that I am a horrible friend who is mean and doesn't support her. So, aita?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/itsfinallysummertime on 2024-01-07 22:50:16+00:00.

I (23 F) live in a house with multiple roommates, 3 girls and one boy. It was my idea to move into the house with 1-2 of the girlfriends, and they recruited the other roommates. I was familiar and friends with all of them to start, but they didn't all know each other. This is where it gets a little more interesting: the guy, let's call him Colton, and I had a brief history of hooking up in the past. Not a smart idea, I know, to move in together but honestly we're good enough as just platonic friends that it hasn't been an issue. However, before living in the house and in the first few weeks of living there, I confided often in one of the roommates, let's call her Carly, about how Colton's actions sometimes hurt my feelings. I confided in Carly because I figured she was a good confidant since she didn't know Colton at all before moving in and I wouldn't be looked at as a gossip for talking to a friend who might have been a mutual friend.

Fast forwarding here, 6 months into living in the house I find out Carly and Colton are essentially in love and it is a complete blindside to me. Everyone in the house had been hiding it from me to not hurt my feelings, but honestly, finding out they thought of me as so sensitive hurt my feelings more than anything else. Carly and I talked it out, to which I told her I was disappointed because I felt like she knew ultimately she would be hurting my feelings and betraying my trust which made me see her differently, essentially not being a "girls girl." I told her though that at the end of the day I care about them both and I want them to be happy. I have my own life with my own issues and the last thing I care about is two of my friends dating!

After this discussion, our friendship changed obviously quite a bit. Carly was very upset that I wasn't as outgoing around her anymore and didn't care to hang with her as much. Admittedly, she wasn't my favorite person to be around but I was trying to make nice. One night, I overheard her talking to her friends when she didn't know I was home saying that I was trying to keep her and Colton apart and making her life miserable. This hurt me deeply but also made me super angry. I decided to text her a few days later letting her know I overheard her and that we needed to get everything out on the table once and for all. I thought the talk went well, but since then she continues to gossip about me and has not let go of this narrative that I am a horrible friend who is mean and doesn't support her. So, aita?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NewtBootButterfly on 2024-01-07 21:17:48+00:00.

My mother always treated me differently. I ignored her actions until now. Today, my mom was cleaning my room and I was downstairs with my dad. Me and my dad like to joke around a lot, and we were drawing with marker on eachother, painting eachother with nail polish and making stupid jokes. My mom told me to stop one time, and I should’ve. But me and my dad kept on playing around and my mom got VERY angry. She said exactly (from my memory) this: “I don’t deserve half the s**t in my life and you just make my life worse. You push me to the edge and then when I get angry you start acting scared and treating me like im some monster. I understand why your teachers say you are hard to teach, because you won’t f***ing listen!” (I have mild autism, it is hard for me to learn. I had also started crying when she started yelling). I told her that I start crying and getting scared because I am very sensitive and it is because I am scared. I told her that she is acting narcissistic to me and now she refuses to talk to me and is slamming doors, stomping, and sighing when I walk near her. AITA?

Edit: A LOT of people are asking why my mom was cleaning my room. I have been through a depression episode and my mom can’t stand it when things aren’t clean. Please stop calling me “5 years old” because it is irrelevant.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NewtBootButterfly on 2024-01-07 21:17:48+00:00.

My mother always treated me differently. I ignored her actions until now. Today, my mom was cleaning my room and I was downstairs with my dad. Me and my dad like to joke around a lot, and we were drawing with marker on eachother, painting eachother with nail polish and making stupid jokes. My mom told me to stop one time, and I should’ve. But me and my dad kept on playing around and my mom got VERY angry. She said exactly (from my memory) this: “I don’t deserve half the s**t in my life and you just make my life worse. You push me to the edge and then when I get angry you start acting scared and treating me like im some monster. I understand why your teachers say you are hard to teach, because you won’t f***ing listen!” (I have mild autism, it is hard for me to learn. I had also started crying when she started yelling). I told her that I start crying and getting scared because I am very sensitive and it is because I am scared. I told her that she is acting narcissistic to me and now she refuses to talk to me and is slamming doors, stomping, and sighing when I walk near her. AITA?

Edit: A LOT of people are asking why my mom was cleaning my room. I have been through a depression episode and my mom can’t stand it when things aren’t clean. Please stop calling me “5 years old” because it is irrelevant.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/BroadCarrot9169 on 2024-01-07 20:55:28+00:00.

I, 32 F and husband 32M have been tidying and cleaning after getting back from a holiday yesterday.

It's been raining so he did a couple of loads of washing and put them through the dryer. Before he did the second load he asked me what could be tumble dried and I said most of it but took a few things out.

Later, he took the first load of dried clothes out of the dryer and I noticed two new expensive quilted jackets (belonging to the kids) had been dried in the dryer. I said "I don't think these are supposed to be tumble dried" and then looked at the label "line dry in shade only" and said yes it isn't supposed to be tumble dried. Then I noticed a brand new smocked dress that is our daughters had also been dried and looks to be like it's shrunk, and I said, this wasn't supposed to be tumble dried either.

Husband said "sorry" and left, then later he came back in and he just yelled "sorry I fucxed up by drying things I shouldnt have, it's not like I've been doing housework all day and you haven't even said thanks"

He doesn't usually yell and is pretty even tempered, but I got annoyed too: I've told him that not everything can be tumble dried and he knows, which is why he asked me about the second load (but obviously not the first). It's ruined clothing of mine before. I yelled back and said I should be able to tell him a thing without him getting so hurt about it.

But as I said, he doesn't usually get angry so I'm wondering AITA, perhaps I could have phrased it better "I appreciate you doing all the washing but just for future reference these things shouldnt have been put in the dryer"

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/BroadCarrot9169 on 2024-01-07 20:55:28+00:00.

I, 32 F and husband 32M have been tidying and cleaning after getting back from a holiday yesterday.

It's been raining so he did a couple of loads of washing and put them through the dryer. Before he did the second load he asked me what could be tumble dried and I said most of it but took a few things out.

Later, he took the first load of dried clothes out of the dryer and I noticed two new expensive quilted jackets (belonging to the kids) had been dried in the dryer. I said "I don't think these are supposed to be tumble dried" and then looked at the label "line dry in shade only" and said yes it isn't supposed to be tumble dried. Then I noticed a brand new smocked dress that is our daughters had also been dried and looks to be like it's shrunk, and I said, this wasn't supposed to be tumble dried either.

Husband said "sorry" and left, then later he came back in and he just yelled "sorry I fucxed up by drying things I shouldnt have, it's not like I've been doing housework all day and you haven't even said thanks"

He doesn't usually yell and is pretty even tempered, but I got annoyed too: I've told him that not everything can be tumble dried and he knows, which is why he asked me about the second load (but obviously not the first). It's ruined clothing of mine before. I yelled back and said I should be able to tell him a thing without him getting so hurt about it.

But as I said, he doesn't usually get angry so I'm wondering AITA, perhaps I could have phrased it better "I appreciate you doing all the washing but just for future reference these things shouldnt have been put in the dryer"

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/throwra_660 on 2024-01-07 19:40:15+00:00.

I live with my girlfriend and we have moved into a 3 bedroom apartment. We agreed before we moved that the smallest bedroom would be my office since I work from home most of the time. I mentioned that since the office is mine, I will be the one cleaning and tidying it and that when the door is closed that means my gf doesn't come in which she agreed to.

When we're cleaning the apartment on weekends she will still go to the office and start to tidy up the desk and I tell her to stop since I leave things how I want them. She repeats that the office is messy but I just pointed out she has no reason to actually be in it. I said that the door was closed and she's going out her way to move things around in a room she doesn't need to be in.

She got annoyed and said I should be tidying it up more regularly than I am but I just told her that I leave things on my desk so I know exactly where they are for the next day and it doesn't affect her at all.

She said I should be compromising and tidying it up better than I am but I =disagreed. She said it should be tidied with the rest of the apartment but I just told her that it's my space and that I leave it how I like it and I leave it how I work best.

Just to clarify, the room is clean so I'll dust, vacuum, remove mugs and things so it is just a bit of mess that is on the desk in room and a few files next to the desk so it's not unhygienic.

AITA for not cleaning the office to my girlfriends standards?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/throwra_660 on 2024-01-07 19:40:15+00:00.

I live with my girlfriend and we have moved into a 3 bedroom apartment. We agreed before we moved that the smallest bedroom would be my office since I work from home most of the time. I mentioned that since the office is mine, I will be the one cleaning and tidying it and that when the door is closed that means my gf doesn't come in which she agreed to.

When we're cleaning the apartment on weekends she will still go to the office and start to tidy up the desk and I tell her to stop since I leave things how I want them. She repeats that the office is messy but I just pointed out she has no reason to actually be in it. I said that the door was closed and she's going out her way to move things around in a room she doesn't need to be in.

She got annoyed and said I should be tidying it up more regularly than I am but I just told her that I leave things on my desk so I know exactly where they are for the next day and it doesn't affect her at all.

She said I should be compromising and tidying it up better than I am but I =disagreed. She said it should be tidied with the rest of the apartment but I just told her that it's my space and that I leave it how I like it and I leave it how I work best.

Just to clarify, the room is clean so I'll dust, vacuum, remove mugs and things so it is just a bit of mess that is on the desk in room and a few files next to the desk so it's not unhygienic.

AITA for not cleaning the office to my girlfriends standards?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Aggravating_Grade959 on 2024-01-07 18:27:42+00:00.

Kinda long, so bear with me. Also, throwaway account and on mobile. Without getting into the whole backstory, my sister Liza (42F) and I (40F) co-own a house and almost 4 acres of property in rural north Florida. We jointly inherited the property when our father died in 2015. At the time, I was living in Tennessee with our mother and my child. My dad wanted to make sure the house stayed in the family, so he and my sister convinced me to move to Florida when he passed so Liza and I could keep the house and property in the family. Note: this is not our childhood home, neither one of us grew up in the house, but it has been a home base for us since my dad bought it in 1999. At the same time in 2015 I was uprooting my life, my mom was uprooting her life, and my child was uprooting their life to move from Tennessee to Florida, my sister Liza got pregnant and decided she was going to move out of the house to be with her baby’s father in Georgia. We agreed at the time that she would sign her interest in the property over to me since she would no longer be occupying the property. Later, she decided she was no longer willing to just sign it over, she wanted me to buy her out of her interest. I don’t have good credit, and I am currently going through a bankruptcy, so I haven’t had the means to purchase her half, so the property has remained in both of our names. However, all the mortgage payments, insurance premiums, and property taxes were paid by only me between 2015-2023. In late August of 2023 a category 4 hurricane destroyed the house and brought down a number of trees on the property. The insurance company was pretty quick with their evaluation, and cut a check for the entire policy amount, since the property was completely destroyed. Liza owns the home she lives in with her husband and child in Georgia. The house in Florida is/was my only home. Now, Liza is insisting I give her 50% of the insurance money since she owns 50% of the property. It is not an insignificant amount of money. In fact, it’s about 5x my yearly income. My only plans for the insurance money are to rebuild my home and life, and I’m not sure that will be possible with only half the insurance money. I have been living in a hotel for the past 4 months, Liza has been living in her home in Georgia. I should note that Liza does not work, and hasn’t for several years. She collects social security and disability, and her husband also doesn’t work for reasons unknown to me. I have been at the same job for over 24 years and have made a career for myself. I offered to split what was left after I rebuild my home, since that’s the purpose of insurance in the first place, but she insists she wants 50% of the total. In exchange, she says she will sign over her interest to me so that I am sole owner of the property. So, WIBTA if I don’t split the insurance money with her 50/50 and instead use it to rebuild my home and my life?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Aggravating_Grade959 on 2024-01-07 18:27:42+00:00.

Kinda long, so bear with me. Also, throwaway account and on mobile. Without getting into the whole backstory, my sister Liza (42F) and I (40F) co-own a house and almost 4 acres of property in rural north Florida. We jointly inherited the property when our father died in 2015. At the time, I was living in Tennessee with our mother and my child. My dad wanted to make sure the house stayed in the family, so he and my sister convinced me to move to Florida when he passed so Liza and I could keep the house and property in the family. Note: this is not our childhood home, neither one of us grew up in the house, but it has been a home base for us since my dad bought it in 1999. At the same time in 2015 I was uprooting my life, my mom was uprooting her life, and my child was uprooting their life to move from Tennessee to Florida, my sister Liza got pregnant and decided she was going to move out of the house to be with her baby’s father in Georgia. We agreed at the time that she would sign her interest in the property over to me since she would no longer be occupying the property. Later, she decided she was no longer willing to just sign it over, she wanted me to buy her out of her interest. I don’t have good credit, and I am currently going through a bankruptcy, so I haven’t had the means to purchase her half, so the property has remained in both of our names. However, all the mortgage payments, insurance premiums, and property taxes were paid by only me between 2015-2023. In late August of 2023 a category 4 hurricane destroyed the house and brought down a number of trees on the property. The insurance company was pretty quick with their evaluation, and cut a check for the entire policy amount, since the property was completely destroyed. Liza owns the home she lives in with her husband and child in Georgia. The house in Florida is/was my only home. Now, Liza is insisting I give her 50% of the insurance money since she owns 50% of the property. It is not an insignificant amount of money. In fact, it’s about 5x my yearly income. My only plans for the insurance money are to rebuild my home and life, and I’m not sure that will be possible with only half the insurance money. I have been living in a hotel for the past 4 months, Liza has been living in her home in Georgia. I should note that Liza does not work, and hasn’t for several years. She collects social security and disability, and her husband also doesn’t work for reasons unknown to me. I have been at the same job for over 24 years and have made a career for myself. I offered to split what was left after I rebuild my home, since that’s the purpose of insurance in the first place, but she insists she wants 50% of the total. In exchange, she says she will sign over her interest to me so that I am sole owner of the property. So, WIBTA if I don’t split the insurance money with her 50/50 and instead use it to rebuild my home and my life?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Beautiful_Star_337 on 2024-01-07 18:26:53+00:00.

My (M19) Little sister (F16) recently started “dating” All of these “relationships” lasted a few weeks. the one that lasted a few months she ended herself. and the guy in that relationship wasn’t very attractive which she said herself.

i hate to say it but that’s why it lasted. they were equal in terms of looks.

my sister is very overweight and….not exactly conventionally attractive. she’s very desperate though and it shows in her choice of partners. one guy outright told her that he was using her for a place to stay and called her fat and ugly and another guy told her she wasn’t pretty and that he was bored basically. every single one of these dudes are just using her because they know she’s desperate. i tend to be the one to say it how it is in the family and i’m thinking i should just be honest and tell her that she isn’t attractive enough for several men to be fawning over her and that most of these guys are just using her for personal gain is that mean? i feel like someone needs to tell her

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Beautiful_Star_337 on 2024-01-07 18:26:53+00:00.

My (M19) Little sister (F16) recently started “dating” All of these “relationships” lasted a few weeks. the one that lasted a few months she ended herself. and the guy in that relationship wasn’t very attractive which she said herself.

i hate to say it but that’s why it lasted. they were equal in terms of looks.

my sister is very overweight and….not exactly conventionally attractive. she’s very desperate though and it shows in her choice of partners. one guy outright told her that he was using her for a place to stay and called her fat and ugly and another guy told her she wasn’t pretty and that he was bored basically. every single one of these dudes are just using her because they know she’s desperate. i tend to be the one to say it how it is in the family and i’m thinking i should just be honest and tell her that she isn’t attractive enough for several men to be fawning over her and that most of these guys are just using her for personal gain is that mean? i feel like someone needs to tell her