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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/aitathrow99999 on 2024-01-06 10:25:51+00:00.

I’ll try to be quick although it’s a long story.

I (26F) live in a very small town with my dad (55M) who’s disabled. He can get around on his own, it’s just more convenient for us since I’m able to run most of the errands.

Anyway dad has two cars, one has manual shift and the other is auto. Due to his mobility issues dad can’t drive the manual, so it’s usually me who’s driving it. Also my workplace is 2 hours away from where I live, it’s not a massive deal for me.

I also have a coworker (40F) who relies on me for the rides even though it’s a 20 minute drive from her home to the workplace. So I pick her up and drop her off. She doesn’t have a car and public transportation is crappy in our area, and I also don’t charge her for rides since I pass her street on my way either way. She just checks the location app and goes out whenever she sees I’m approaching her place. Or sometimes I park in her driveway.

Recently the manual car wasn’t starting so I had to take the auto car. It’s a really large SUV and I’m not very comfortable with driving it. I’ve been driving the manual car since high school and it’s a super tiny coupe so I’m used to smaller cars. It was literally my 1st time ever driving another car. Also the manual car is an import and it’s RHD, so my perception is slightly off when I drive a normal car.

So she asked me to go in her driveway and since I was driving the larger car I messed up and accidentally hit the lawn with 2 of the wheels bc I’m used to sitting on another side and bc the auto car is wider than the manual one. Her driveway is super narrow and as I said I’m not familiar with driving huge cars so it was a mess up on my end.

Anyway she saw the tire tracks on her lawn and was really pissed. She yelled at me saying that if I can’t go in the driveway without hitting the lawn I should get my license revoked. I explained that I couldn’t take my car bc it broke. She said that in this case I had to ask my dad to drive me to work. I got pissed bc it was an unreasonable demand, 1st of all my dad is disabled, 2nd he wouldn’t be super thrilled about spending 4 hours behind the wheel just to take me to the work and back.

So next day I texted her I won’t be giving her rides anymore. I still drive the auto car bc in the manual car a part broke and it needs to be delivered from overseas so it takes time. I won’t deny that maybe it was an overreaction on my part. But I feel hurt by her comment and also I don’t want to go in her driveway again, hit the lawn and get yelled at again. I’m not losing anything if I refuse to give her rides. And I feel like she should’ve been more grateful. Anyway she was angry and called me a bitch. Our other coworker said I’m an asshole because the 40F really needs the rides. Now I think whether I was really an asshole. The 40F has a wild temper so she probably didn’t mean what she said. But it was still hurtful anyway.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ttraxx on 2024-01-06 10:40:57+00:00.

My wife [32F] and I [32M] both work from home, however my job is much more demanding, she’ll have 2-3 meetings per day where I’m usually on back-to-backs from 8a-5p.

Every so often it seems like she chooses to do a ton of stuff around the house during her down time on a work day - which is great to do it on “work” time because in theory we can then both hang out on “our” time - but then she makes me feel like I don’t pull my weight around the house… I’ll thank her for doing everything and get an attitude ridden “Mhmm”…

So this happened the other day, I got a quick break around 4pm between meetings to grab a bite to eat and she was in the kitchen, I thanked her, got the “mhmm”, and then she said I can make it up to her by picking up some fast food for dinner, which I said I would do.

I told her that I had a final meeting at 5p, and that I would try to take it from the car because she’s been liking to eat earlier and getting very hangry when she doesn’t during pregnancy - it seems like she heard me say I WOULD leave at 5, and of course as fate would have it I ended up needing to be near the pc to take some notes down during the call…

5:29p rolls around (it’s a 30 min call) and I hear the garage opening, text her real quick to let her know I’m literally about to leave and get a response that says something along the lines of “I’m pissed and don’t need you pretending like you were going to do something nice”

…Aside from the fact that she’s pregnant so by default I AM always the asshole, and that in hindsight I could have been more clear about the timing of when I could have left…am I ACTUALLY the asshole here?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/jonnytesticles on 2024-01-06 10:05:32+00:00.

I (17F) just got new bedsheets two months ago. This is the first time I have gotten new bedsheets since I was 5, so I obviously try to treasure these new sheets and try not to dirty them as much as possible.

Last week, my mom (45F) lay down on my bed to take a rest while I did some homework at my desk in my room. This is where I should add that in my family, we lie down on each others beds all the time and it's no big deal. Well, I didn't know she was on her period and it turns out she stained my sheets. Basically, she got up from the bed after about 30 mins and left my room. About an hour after, I wanted to take a quick nap when I saw the bloodstain. It wasn't very big, about 3 cm in diameter. I was angry beyond comprehension when I saw that and immediately confronted her about it.

I asked my mom why she didn't tell me about her staining my bedsheets and she looked confused. We went into my room and I showed her the mess. Then, she told me she genuinely didn't know that she had stained my sheets. I was still really mad especially because the sheets were brand new and now they were stained. My mum is not abusive at all, she doesn't lie about things to me or the family so I know that she was telling the truth when she said she didn't know about the stain. She did apologise to me and I said I needed some time to cool down first, but I did accept her apology. I then changed the sheets and tried to clean the mess as much as possible.

Yesterday, she came into my room to lie on my bed again. I told her politely that I preferred if she didn't lie on my bed again until her period was over. She then got mad that I was "rude" to her, and is now giving me the silent treatment. So AITA for asking my mom not to lie on my bed?

EDIT: When I said I try not to dirty my bedsheets, I mean that I take care not to stain with my own period blood etc. I tend to take care of all my belongings well even if they are old. I bought 3 new sets of sheets and wash my sheets every 2 weeks.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/anon1827372 on 2024-01-06 09:57:06+00:00.

I (24m) and my gf (24f) have been dating for just over a year. Three months ago, we started making arrangements to move in together. Before anything else, we both decided to lay down our ground rules. My one and only rule was no pets for personal reasons. She agreed.

Fast forward two months and we completed the moving process. A week after, she asked if I'd be ok with her dog sitting for a friend. I asked which friend and for how long. She told me the friend and that it would be for a week. I agreed, because I already knew the dog was well behaved and it would only be a week.

After we get the dog and a week passes, I asked her when her friend would be coming to get the dog. She said her friend's mom had gotten sick and she is staying to take care of her. Another week passes and I ask about her friend. She said her mom is still sick. I am skeptical at this point and decide to message her friend on Instagram.

Well, her friend wasn't actually visiting anyone. She moved to another state and gave my gf her dog to keep. My gf and I got into a big argument and I said she could either move out with the dog or get rid of it. She said she'd find a home for the dog.

The next week she had three days off and two work from home days and didn't find a home. I sent her nearly a dozen posts of people looking to adopt dogs. She didn't think any of them were a good fit. We got the dog on the December 9th and it was now the 29th.

Well, I looked deeper into one of the posts of people looking for a dog. It's a family of five who live on a farm and own three other dogs. From all of their online posts, they seem like great people. I ended up messaging them and they would happily take the dog. The next day while my gf was at work, I drove over and gave them the dog. I stayed for about an hour and the dog was getting along with everyone and all seemed good so I left.

Later that night, my gf asked where the dog was and I told her I took him to a new home. I showed her pictures of the dogs playing and getting along with the kids. She was pissed. Without saying anything, she packed a bag and left. Well, now it's been a week since she left and the few times we have talked on the phone, she has been pissed off.

I explained the situation to my friends for advice, but it ended up spreading to our mutual friends, and then her friends, and then her family and now everyone is up in arms. They are all split on the situation, but I don't really understand how I could be the AH. My gf lied about the dog and then put no effort into finding it a new home, so I took matters into my own hands.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/maybeangel7877 on 2024-01-06 02:53:41+00:00.

I (X,16) refused to enter my aunt's house for a family get together on Christmas Day.

A few months ago my parents split. They weren't married, so it was mostly a "I’m moving out" kind of thing. I don't want to get into detail, but just know that I have some bad sentiments towards my father.

So I went with my mother (F,49) and we were forced to move in with my abuela (F,old) who is a multi-millionaire with a mansion. I don't get along with my abuela. She's a mega catholic who hates me for not going to church, and she kept her AC on 79 degrees or higher. This was the summer in south Florida.

My abuela and I got into an argument. It was pretty petty, but I've never been one not to stand up for myself. She told me I have a big mouth because I told my mother true things about what she was doing to me (forcing me to do countless chores while I had schoolwork to do), and I said "guess who I get it from". She kicked me out, and obviously that kicks my mother out as well. This forced us into a terrible situation, mentally and financially.

This is not the first time she's done this. The same thing has happened with other members of my family before.

That's why, on Christmas Day, when we were heading to my Aunts house and I heard my Abuela's voice coming from inside, I sat on the porch and refused to go in. People tried to convince me to. Including all of the other family members she's wronged in the past. That made me want to go inside less. It feels like people are rewarding her for her bad behavior, and I didn't even want to be in the same house as her. Not now, and not ever again.

My mother left the event early, and on the way home yelled and cried towards me about how she thinks I’m trying to control who she can be with. She said that I embarrassed her. And she says she's never going to try and do anything with me ever again, because I constantly ruin it by 'acting this way'. I guess it made me think. I’m a very opinionated person, and I've been medically recognized to have NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) and I often have a hard time letting stuff like this go.

Am I the asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/iPadFanEmiya on 2024-01-06 02:40:45+00:00.

Yesterday, we had a substitute in my math class and many people decided to switch to different seats so they could talk to their friends. A guy (who I’ll call M for short) decides to sit in an empty seat next to me. He had stolen the seat from a guy who was late to class since he had to walk on crutches. M had mentioned before that he hates women's rights and made other misogynistic comments. He also said that he wishes he could have sex with the characters from Genshin Impact. In other words, he's a total loser.

M was talking with his friends when he decides to position himself in a way so that he could see up my skirt.

I notice him staring, and when I look in his direction, he then decides to call me a wh*re before I even said anything. I feel it’s hypocritical of him to insult me right after he was trying to look up my skirt. He then pretended that he didn’t say anything so that he wouldn’t get in trouble.

I understand that wearing a miniskirt draws attention and I’m not blaming him for staring. I just feel offended that he had the audacity to call me a wh*re and not take accountability and apologize for it. I wanted to report him but I was afraid that he would just deny the claims, so I didn’t do anything afterward.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/caprisunmei on 2024-01-06 05:45:44+00:00.

I have a daughter (28) that we can call Adriana. About a month ago, her best friend passed away from cancer. My daughter has been living on her own, but after her friend passed away, she asked me if it was okay to stay at my house for a while because she didn’t want to feel lonely and she was feeling very depressed. Of course, I accepted and she has been staying in the guest room for about two weeks.

Over the past two weeks, my spoons, forks, knives, plates, bowls AND cups have been going missing. I had a feeling that it was Adriana, so I kindly told her that if she had any dishes in her room, she could bring them to the sink so I could wash them. Well, no dishes appeared in the sink, but I did notice something shiny in the trash that day. I saw a fork poking out from underneath a pile of used paper towels. I pulled out the paper towels, which revealed a plate with food on it, a fork and a knife.

I took the plate and walked to the guest room and asked Adriana if she had thrown out the plate. She started telling me that she did and that she was sorry. I told her that it wasn’t acceptable for her to just throw away my things! I have plastic, paper, glass and ceramic plates. She was throwing out my expensive ceramic plates instead of using the paper or plastic ones. I was very upset with her, but I asked her why. Her reasoning was that since she has been very depressed, she hasn’t had the energy to wash her dishes or put them in the sink. Instead, she just throws them away in the trash then wipes down the counters and throws the used paper towels on top.

I was beyond angry when she told me she has been doing this since she has been staying with me, which means most of the items she threw away are gone. This is where I think I may have gone wrong. I told her that if she didn’t repay me for the dishes by the end of the week (about $120) that she is going to have to go back to staying at her own place. She started yelling at me and telling me that I should be understanding and that I don’t understand what she is going through right now. I then told her that she had to leave that day and that I would be expecting the money by the end of the week.

That leads me to today. She left when I asked her to, but this happened last week, and she still hasn’t paid me back or even reached out. So, AITA for being upset with my depressed daughter and asking her to repay me for throwing away my silverware and dishes?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ok-Rope-9953 on 2024-01-06 09:13:21+00:00.

I60m (just turned 60 a few days ago) have been with my wife34 for 5 years. I met her through my work and we hit it off immediately. I have been married once in the past having a son36 with her. We share interest in the same things, she’s truly my best friend, we just had our first child together in October.

My brother hosted new years this year my wife and our child attended, as well as my son and some other family members. My brother has always given me a hard time, making sugar daddy jokes and all different things. It went smooth the first few hours but then my brother got a few too many in him and started with the jokes. We brushed it off and laughed a little. Then He began saying how I look like the grandpa and my wife looks like she belongs with my son. I told him to shut up, which started an argument. THe said I was disrespecting him in his own home in which I said he had disrespected me first, he told me I couldn’t take a joke, and was being a b*tch and since I couldn’t handle it I knew it was true. We ended up leaving, after exchanging a few words. He left me an angry drunken voicemail later how I needed to learn respect. AITA

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/PearZealousideal3346 on 2024-01-06 09:05:42+00:00.

I(27F) live in a different state from my parents. My mom and stepdad moved away about 3 years ago and had my baby brother. We don’t have much family in the state that they moved to, so she is understandably alone and I sympathized with my mom. After she had my brother, it seemed to put a huge strain on their marriage. She began confiding in me about how miserable she was in their marriage, and at first I was glad my mom felt comfortable enough to talk to me about her personal life, but it became so draining and uncomfortable to hear her constantly bash my step dad. I would often recommend they go to couples therapy because I legit would be at a loss as to what to even say to my mom at some of the things she was telling me, but they never fully committed to going. He married my mom when I was a still a kid, so he practically helped alongside my mom in raising me. A lot of our calls consist of her complaining about how lacking my stepdad is as a husband and father to her and my baby brother. I know far too much about the negative things in their marriage than I’m comfortable with. I feel like she comes to me for validation in her frustration, but this has been going on for almost two years now. (My step dad is a great person and father figure to me, but I know his personality is very passive, and honestly he has no backbone. I can only imagine how frustrating that would be in a marriage, especially seeing how my mom is always the one who has to be the ‘leader’ & literal breadwinner in their marriage. His own mother, who stays with them, walks all over him as well and is extremely rude to my mom for extremely petty reasons. He refuses to stand up to his mom. That is 100% his fault and I don’t blame my mom for being mad at him for that.)

She called me about a month ago in an angry frenzy while she was driving, telling me she was divorcing my step dad and was taking my little brother with her to stay at my aunt’s house after a pretty nasty argument with his mother. He ended up going after her and apologizing, putting his mom in check and brought my mom and brother back home, but the next day I called my mom very worried and she acted completely fine as if nothing happened at all. I told her I’m not comfortable with her taking me on these emotional rollercoasters with her and that I want her to stop complaining to me about my stepdad. I didn’t blame my mom for wanting to leave, but I honestly hate this dynamic. I know some people talk to their parents about everything as adults but something about this feels like it’s crossing a line and I want this to end.

I told my mom that unless they get marriage counseling I don’t want to hear her complain about my stepdad anymore. These calls seriously drain the living hell out of me, and they’re almost weekly at this point, not to mention I feel insanely awkward around my stepdad now.

AITA for telling my mom to stop calling me to complain about my stepdad?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/No_Bat1207 on 2024-01-06 08:56:41+00:00.

My family knows that I've been pretty upset lately cause of my two knuckle headed friends. I'm not happy with these two friends as I feel like they are trash and I don't like trashy people. I'm very angry about both of them and I've had some crazy fantasies about what I want to do. My parents and my sister offered me an substitute trip by taking me to Jacksonville this upcoming summer. I turned it down because that is not what I want to do and I feel like it would be a waste of time and money. My two knuckle headed friends canceled on me in December. One of them canceled cause of stupid relationships reasons and the other one canceled on me after 4 days after he agreed to take me. I want to go to key west, fort lauderdale and all of these areas surrounding South Florida. I want someone to take me there and if I don't get to go there then I'm just going to raise and rain hell on everyone. Including someone who I'm supposed to see in March. I'm not happy with this dude that I'm seeing in April but I have a duty to do so I'm just sucking it up and standing next to him at the alter. I honestly don't support him and his decision on what he does. I'm just so ticked off to the point where I have become extremely unstable and I feel like I'm about to snap within the next three days or so. AITA for turning down this trip and giving them a hard time ??

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Embarrassed-Cut-9616 on 2024-01-06 08:54:34+00:00.

Hello reddit, sorry for any grammar mistake, english isn't my first language and i am writing this from my phone. For the context, I (25M) have been dating A (21F) for a few months. For information she studies in a university that is a 3h drive from where I live (Or 5 hours long train voyage), and I work in a full time job with heavy hours.

But first a few things:

• We have both been struggling with alcohol for a few years and this led me to end the relationship. However i've realised my mistake, and made amends, I have since stopped drinking completely, and i talked about seeking help and we got back together.

Now lets get to the few series of events:

• She recently had mental health issues that led her to the hospital. I decided to take my car and do the drive to help her After the 3 hours long drive, I arrive and see her completely drunk, ignoring me. From this starts on of my worst nights ever: she keeps saying hurtfull things, she gets vocally agressive when i try to get her to take some water, and wants to have s*x agressively. i refused but she kept gropping me inappropriately and even murmured that her ex would've allowed that. It really really disguted me but i decided to wait and talk to her about this the next day. The following day she declined most of the things i told her from the night saying she remembered most of it and said i exagerated this gropping part.

There have been a few other nights when similar stuff happened until the last night. This last night we were supposed to sleep together at her parent's house as she would be leaving back for school for a few weeks. As i've had a rough week we agreed to not leave too late.

This night she said she didn't fully trusted me as her exes cheated on her. It was hurtfull to be compared to a past experience.I was tired so i decided to leave early and have a walk by myself. As i left the party i asked her to be carefull about the drinking. As we approched 3 AM i send her a few texts saying that i started to be sleepy and wanted to go home. She started some uncomprehemsive speech as the usual when she was drunk but mostly accused me of not doing enough to see her. To cut it short all discussions led to knowhere and it just got me agrier so i left. She calls me back and asks for me to talk to her. As i arrive i am meet with her and a few other people. They started to say that i was a toxic person for talking to her that way, that i didn't fully respected my promise to seek help, and that they won't allow her to be abused by me. Again i admit that night i did end up angry, but i didn't insult her, threathen her, or hit her. I was just so fed up with her alcohol problem i kept asking why she was with me if i was such a bad boyfriend.

I swear she was acting a lot more agressively when there was nobody with her

Tomorrow i'lll be seeing her, i think i am going to break up.

AITA ? Am i really toxic ? I'm starting to believe i am

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Own-Investigator-411 on 2024-01-06 08:52:55+00:00.

AITA for deleting my gfs messages with her guy best friend

me and my girlfriend got into a huge argument because I deleted her msgs with her guy best friend I did this because I admit Im a very jelous person and I deleted them in the momment but I also wanted to see if she’d rlly so much abt them. When she found out she was pissed and almost kicked me out of her acc I was upset and said something like “you shouldn’t get attached of anything from a guy” were currently arguing amta?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Savings_Owl_9362 on 2024-01-06 08:47:49+00:00.

Apparently I said some "messed up" things to her when I've only ever said facts. Her girlfriend is from some rundown third world country, so I joked that her people lived in trees. If she wasn't okay with it, why didn't she say anything in the first place?

I joked that she should die when she was stressed, what's wrong with that and my sister got all angry about it. My sister told me that I should apologize but I don't want to. I have ADHD I don't remember most things so I should not say sorry. Also her girlfriend is clearly dating her to immigrate or something anyways. Did I really say something wrong?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Evening_Letter_6490 on 2024-01-06 08:44:42+00:00.

For context I went to talk to my dad about a friend of mine who is 19 going on 20 who is trying to date a 16 year old. I expressed how uncomfortable it was and how it was plain predatory. My dad then said it was perfectly fine. I was obviously disgusted. As his only daughter I know for fact he would have gone off on a 20 year if they tried to date me as a sophomore in high-school. I then asked how him how old he was when he married my mom and he said 19. When I asked my mom she said he was 20 going on 21 and she just turned 17. I said that’s really weird and a power imbalance. Which my dad then flipped out saying it was legal and that I was just being prejudice. I then told him that now a days if a 20 year old tries to date a teenager it could be a sign of predatory behavior or be a sign of being emotionally stunted. My dad then flipped out saying how dare I call my mom emotionally stunted. I corrected him and said mom wasn’t emotionally stunted. She was a child who married a grown man. My mom then said that it’s actually the 16 year olds fault for letting my friend (who’s 20) pursue her. I then stated that wasn’t fair considering she’s a child and is at a stage where that part of her brain isn’t fully developed enough to realize that. Rn she just thinks a cute guy likes her. My mom then went on to defend my friends and saying if anything were to happen to I’m the 16 year old child should get the blame. I then reminded her of one time a 16 year old had lied about his age to me and tried to date me when I was 20 and how quickly both my parents freaked out and told me to cut it of (which I did cause I wasn’t gonna catch a case.) Then both my parents called me a liberal snowflake because it’s perfectly legal as long as they don’t have sex. Now neither are talking to me because I find the ages they were when they got married very weird. Like my dad literally couldn’t wait until my mom was 18. In fact the only reason they got married is because my dad took my mom’s virginity when she was still a minor. AITA

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ApprehensivePear3874 on 2024-01-06 08:41:16+00:00.

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I made my daughter wear a dress for a whole week

My daughter 8 is uncomfortable to many skirts and dresses and generally wears pants

Recently my mil planned a Christmas event two days before Christmas there was going to be a photo shoot and everyone would have to wear matching red dresses.

They were pretty uncomfortable but it was just one night my daughter however hated the dress when we made her try it on she threw a fit and said she wasn't going to wear it she really wanted to go and meet her cousins however.

I told her she had to wear it if she wants go we told her we would change at mils house When we made her change into the dress she threw an absolute tantrum and begged me to let her wear something else.

She slapped me in anger and I told her as punishment she would have to wear the dress for an entire week she ended up wearing it and had fun at the event but when we came home I refused to let her change onto normal clothes I told her she would have to wear it for the reminder of winter break.

She hated it and begged me to reconsider but I refused and made her wear the dress she cried everyday as it was itchy I told her she wouldn't need to wear it if she didn't throw a tantrum.

School started today and I finally let her wear normal clothes again yes she was uncomfortable but I thought her a good lesson I belive she apologised for throwing the tantrum last night.

I think I did the right thing but a freind says I'm an asshole

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/jwomack_ on 2024-01-06 08:39:34+00:00.

I (23f) live with my girlfriend (26f) and she has a 45lb border collie and a 75lb German pointer. I have formed a super close bond with the dogs, but they are still HER dogs. We have a fenced in backyard, and we keep the dogs outside around 30% of the time and inside for around 70%. I have lived with her for about 6 months. She had this house for about 3 years before I moved in.

Last night, it started raining while they were outside, and we didn't bring them inside in time, so the border collie got somewhat wet and the German pointer got soaked. My girlfriend insisted we leave them outside.

She hooked the German pointer to a leash we have connected to the porch railing to keep him under the covered portion of the porch. She put the border collie in our disconnected laundry room. Basically, the laundry room is connected to the house, but is only accessible through the porch. The laundry room has no heating.

It was around 45F last night, which is a somewhat acceptable temperature for most dog breeds to be outside, including ours. However, the German pointer is a senior dog (9yrs old) and was soaking wet. Also, the border collie is super afraid of the rain.

My girlfriend had already gone to sleep and I heard the German pointer crying on the porch. I looked out the glass sliding door that goes to the porch, and he was shivering. I brought him in and toweled him off as best as I could, and I set up to go to sleep on the couch. That way, he couldn't hop up and get the couch wet or stinky.

While I was laying on the couch, I could hear our border collie scratching on the laundry room door. After a few minutes, I couldn't stand to think about how scared he was, so I let him in too. He peed on his dog bed some time while I was asleep.

When she woke up, she was livid with me for letting them in. "What if he had gotten the leather couch wet?" "The living room smells like wet dog now." "You knew he was gonna pee and you still let him inside?" I told her my explanation, but she said I was "acting like she was evil" to the dogs and said I need to stop being a pushover with the critters.

To be fair, the German pointer is very large and makes the entire house stink when he's wet. Also, the border collie has been having bladder issues and had peed on our furniture twice in the past week. Also, the dogs are her babies. I've only been parts of their lives for about a year and only on her house for 6 months, so I understand why she gets upset when I make decisions about them without her. It's kinda like telling someone how to raise there kids.

That being said, I feel like the situation warranted some action. The German pointer was shivering and wet and the border collie was scratching at the door in fear.

Am I the asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Standard-Stomach-413 on 2024-01-06 08:37:19+00:00.

this story happened about 10 years ago, but i still think about it a lot.

So, I 34F was at a festival with some friends and my boyfriend, it was summer time. So it was extremely hot.

We had taken some pills and went into the crowd to dance and we were up quite close. We dance for hours and it was amazing but we had drank all our drinks and needed more. We had a predicament tho.. our favorite band was about to start playing.

So me ( pretty wasted by now ) decided to offer the guy next to me ( random guy ) my j ( naughty smoke) for his spear water bottle! Bad idea i know...

He agreed and was really excited about the idea, all was well till his girlfriend came back and asked where her water bottle was. She dead set looked at me and asked why i had it and her boyfriend explained what happened and she got really mad at him and me and said it would ruin his high and that we just ruined her night. Me and my boyfriend were both a bit taken back but apologized and walked away. We had a giggle cause we thought it was a great trade lol

Anyway, thinking about it now i may be the asshole cause like 1: who would drink from a strangers bottle and 2: i started a fight between a couple even tho i just wanted the water haha

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Crabuslous on 2024-01-06 08:36:09+00:00.

This is a pretty long post. Before I start, we are all around the ages of 13-15 so we are all at the age where we tend to swear quite a bit and normally it isn’t a big deal.

This happened today so it's pretty recent at the time of me posting this. So, this all started last night when my friend who I know in real life and I were on a Xbox call with each other yesterday, he invited two of his online friends to the Xbox party and they seemed cool, we are all Australian except the one German girl, it was going well until my friend and the other guy started making fun of the German girl like calling her a nazi and pretzel eater and fatass, I asked them to stop but they didn't, she left the party and I apologised to her for what they did, I continued to call with my friend and the other guy for a little bit longer.

Fast forward to today, I decided to join their party, it was going well until they started calling me gay as an insult, even though I'm not gay and I'm straight, I still found it insulting and asked them to stop. They didn't stop for a little while but they eventually did.

A bit later we decided to play a custom match on a ww2 fps called enlisted (you probably haven't heard of it as it's a kind of a small game and it came out in 2021) and I was versing them. They got really competitive and toxic and started calling me gay again and making fun of me every time they killed me, even though it was a 2v1 and I didn't really stand a chance, they started to make some really nasty jokes, I can't really remember what they were but I decided to leave the call for a bit.

Once the round ended I decided to join their party/call again, my friend started saying that I raged quit and I need to stop being a "pussy" I told him to "shut the fuck up". He then said that I have anger issues, even though I was only getting mad because he was being an asshole, he continued to insult me for another minute until I got so mad I yelled at him and his friend "bye you fucking loser(s), you can go fuck yourselves, have a nice day” and left the call.

Later when I was playing a round on enlisted, he somehow joined my round and started insulting me in the games chat system about how stupid I sounded when I called them losers among other things. Once the round finished I texted him and said "I don't understand why you decided to be a piece of shit to me and pick some random kid you met yesterday over me but fine, We are done until you fucking apologise and tell me why the fuck you decided to do that, bye asshole".

Sorry this was a bit long, Am I the asshole for telling him and that random kid to fuck themselves?

He isn’t usually like this, I think that random kid who was about a year younger than me did something to him

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Life-Speech-1336 on 2024-01-06 08:35:53+00:00.

I am someone who suffers from bipolar and schizophrenia and like is already hard for me as no one cares about me. My relatives don't care about me and they don't care whatever happens to me. They barely ever call me or visit me to ask me how am I doing. The only people that I have that care about me is my parents and my sister and my brother in law and even then my siblings have a hard time handling my mood swings. I also don't have many supportive friends either. They all don't understand anything about mental illnesses and they treat me poorly. They cancel plans on me and break promises. I was upset so I called a friend earlier and the guy literally attacked me verbally. He was saying everything is my fault which in his exact words he said " The reason why your life is the way it is, is because of your poor choices in life not because of your bipolar disorder or schizo. That's not an excuse to treat people bad. You give people a hard time when they can't pick up the phone and you don't respect your friend's significant others and you call them names. Furthermore, everyone including your relatives is tired of your constant negativity and meltdown and they all don't want to deal with you. Your a horrible person to be around. So what if you can't go to the keys ? Your parents already offered to take you to Jacksonville and you turned that down and called the names. All of the problems of loneliness that you have is all of your creation because you treat people like s***. Another thing, your so obsessed with your Youtube channel to the point where you got kicked out of college and now you refuse to get a job.". I got pretty mad at him and so I just blocked him cause I was tired of him attacking me. All he ever does is just put me down and make me feel like s***. I already feel like s*** already and him doing this is not helping my mental health. He makes me feel like I'm a waste of air sometimes. He tried calling me again earlier today and I didn't pick up. AITA for not picking up his calls ??

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/lordofscreentime on 2024-01-06 08:33:32+00:00.

Last year 2 of my very best friends got married on the same day as each other. They were no where near each other so i was put in an impossible situation having to pick.

Wedding 1 i was asked to be a groomsmen Wedding 2 i was asked to officiate

I ended up choosing wedding number 2 as the officiant is a more important role then a groomsmen. The couple from wedding number 1 was obviously not pleased but they seemed to understand.

For there wedding i ended up giving wedding 2 $1,000 in cash as a wedding gift to try to show them i still loved and valued our friendship.

Cut to about 6 months later i have not heard a word from wedding 2. No thank you text, or call or, card - just zilch.

So Asshole for missing wedding 2 and gifting 1,000 bucks? Was it to much? Was it tacky?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ScheduleMedical8151 on 2024-01-06 08:33:05+00:00.

So for context I (F28) have been living with my boyfriend (M35) in his flat for the past 2 years. The flat is actually owned by his parents who live in their own house in the same city but have come to stay for the Christmas holidays, for an undetermined amount of time. They are in their early 60s and the dad has severe diabetes and heart problems so he never leaves the house and hardly walks. The mother is his carer.

I had noticed before that the father splashes pee all over the toilet and floor and doesn't clean it up. I am always just quietly scrubbing it off every time I go to pee, but yesterday I did a big clean, bleached all the bathroom and removed the bathroom + toilet carpets and put them to wash, without replacing the toilet carpet as we only have 1.

Last night I went to pee after him and saw that the floor around the toilet was FLOODED with pee. I would say that around 70% went on the floor and 30% went in the toilet. WAY too much for me to deal with. So I went to my boyfriend who was still awake (we were watching a movie) and respectfully told him that there had been an accident (I didn't want to be disrespectful to his dad, but he knew that his dad had just been as he saw him walk past our door to the bathroom. We're in a tiny 1 bedroom flat so we can see everything). I told him that I couldn't use the bathroom in this state and he just said "What do you want me to do about it". I was too exhausted to have an argument so I just tried to go to sleep without peeing, but I started to have pain so I had to pee in the shower.

After this I just couldn't sleep because I was so disgusted at the situation, the bathroom was starting to smell like pee so I told my boyfriend that it was disrespectful leaving the pee to marinate all night and have his mother clean it the next morning. My boyfriend then said that I peed too much, that I pee 20 times a day and waste so much water and toilet paper, and that he didn't appreciate the face that I made that morning when I wanted to pee and had to wait for his mother to finish in the bathroom. I honestly can't remember intentionally making a face. I just find this situation so childish and I'm wondering if I should have just cleaned all the pee.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ReallyJustAMagpie on 2024-01-06 08:32:03+00:00.

Me (26F) and my boyfriend (29M) had a huge fight.

I got home from work a little ago and there is this thirsty looking dog in front of my door. Looked for an owner and couldn't find anyone. My street was literally deserted. Brought it inside. Guys, I have no fucking clue about dogs. Gave it some water and called my best friend, who has a dog. She said to post in Facebook groups and call the council. They'd get it and handle the rest.

Posted some pictures and waiting for the ranger.

I finally called my boyfriend, wanting to rant. I mean, I found a fucking dog! My place is strictly no pets so I'm worried about scratches, gotta vacuum the shit out of it and I hope my neighbors didn't snap pictures and report me, some are cunts, ya know? Just all the stress I didn't need after a stressful day.

My bf freaked the fuck out. He yelled at me how I called by best friend and the council before I called him. He could have told me all this just as well! No need to involve anyone else! How stupid I was to not come to him first. We are a team and I didn't act like a team player.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/hmmspicy on 2024-01-06 08:27:27+00:00.

My girlfriend and I are in our 2nd year at our current apartment and there has been plenty to be dissatisfied with. We pay rent on time every month and make sure to bring issues up so they're hopefully dealt with.

Our lease says no dogs but we'd love to have one; we inquired about this last year after hearing one in our downstairs neighbor's place last year and that was seemingly taken care of.

Fast forward several months to a management "company" (we've only seen, heard of anf talked to one guy) being hired because of the owners' inability to keep up with demands:

New neighbors move into the building next door which is owned by the same people. We discover they have a dog, so we bring it up with the new manager to see if there's a way we too can have a small dog.."No dogs allowed, I'll have to check in on them".

Well, apparently nothing has been done because the prick runs loose barking at people and charging them.

Am I the asshole if I bring it up with the manager in an assertive manner? It seems wildly unfair that these folks get to break the lease while we're told multiple times "no dogs allowed".

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Judgy_A_Hole on 2024-01-06 08:24:10+00:00.

I (33f) have been with my fiancé, Scott (28m), for about 2 years now. Even before we met, Scott has always liked to drink. Not a heavy drinker, but he likes to have a few beers when he knows he's not working the next day or working the later shift. I drink much less often than Scott, but when I do, it's usually heavier than he does. I'll go out to dinner with friends and smash three or four drinks in a relatively short amount of time and get pretty buzzed. I also go to parties once a month or every other month with friends, and between our own drinks and the drinks we buy at the bar, we usually get pretty wasted before the night is over (for the record, I do not drive, and there is always a DD). One night after one of these parties, I came home after sleeping at my friend's house, and Scott was playing video games and drinking. We started talking and I told him all about the party and getting drunk with my friends and all the gossip about the night. As I was talking, he looked upset, so I asked him what was wrong. He seemed hesitant to tell me, but after some pushing he told me that he was bummed that I always go out and get drunk with my friends but never get drunk with him. I explained to him that I'm more of a social drinker, and he is more of a home drinker, and that I personally don't particularly enjoy drinking at home. He accepted my answer but still seemed pretty bummed about it. Since then, I have tried drinking with him, but I never really have more than 1 or 2 drinks over the span of a few hours and have still never gotten drunk around him. I feel bad because I know it's a side of me he wants to see, but I just don't have the same urge to drink when I'm at home. So AITA for not wanting to get drunk with my fiancé?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/2024Somewhere on 2024-01-06 08:15:48+00:00.

I (27M) work at a large biotech company. I have this one colleague, whose nickname is “Laney” (31F) and everybody likes her. She’s very kind, and very good at her job, and she has a lot of friends. She’s also so cute, and she always has her hair in a sexy ponytail. She used to be friendly with me, up until November 2023, which was when I awkwardly asked her if she wanted to have sex with me (I’m a virgin and I’m eager). Ever since then, she’s basically become a passive-aggressive bitch to me specifically. Not to anyone else, but just to me.

So anyway, late in December last year, Laney and I were taking the subway home together, and we sat two seats apart from each other. This junkie walked up and sat down between us, and he started hitting on her. He was telling her about all the things he wanted to do to her (and, quite frankly, these were things that I wanted to do with her as well), and throughout the experience, Laney kept glaring at me and expecting me to intervene. On the other hand, I expected her to be an adult and get up and move away from that creep, and I only intervened when I noticed that Laney was crying slightly. I physically pulled the guy away from her and I told him to take a hike, and I saw that he walked far, far away from us.

My stop was before Laney’s stop, but before I headed out the door, she pulled me back into the train! Rather than being thankful that I intervened, she was so angry at me, and we had a quiet argument on the train until she got off at her stop. I had to wait for the subway going in the opposite direction, and I arrived home 30 minutes later than I would’ve thanks to her.