Am I the Asshole?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Roxi-3059 on 2024-01-03 11:26:44+00:00.

This happened yesterday and I can’t stop thinking about it because everyone around me is saying I’m a asshole and a jerk for siding with my brother (M18) over my parents (F39) and (M41) in a fight some background my brother has these friends all girls (names changed for privacy) Lizzy (F17) Emily (F16) Elise (F16) they all have been friends for ages now they’ve been over to my parents house for ages they’ve known each other for ages this issue has started only recently as my parents went through my brothers money and would start fights about how his friends are manipulating him and are gold diggers (even if my brother isn’t super rich) and yesterday was another fight like this I was getting ready for bed because I had to be up at 6 am this morning and I heard my parents and brother start arguing so I ask them to quiet down because I can’t sleep without it being quiet and my mom asked if she’s in the right for snooping in my brothers room and checking his back account and saying his friends are a bad influence and are gold diggers. I don’t really like his friends and I think they’re weird and don’t like being around them even at my brothers 18th birthhday (whole other story) but I told my mom she’s wrong and she shouldn’t care about who my brother hangs out with or how they act and now everyone is calling me a jerk and asshole so I came here for advice and they argued till midnight and I couldn’t sleep and woke up late.

AITA-for siding with my brother in a argument with my parents

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Psycho_Kyo1984 on 2024-01-03 11:19:56+00:00.

4 years ago, I became friends with a woman who invited me to befriend her group of 6 other friends. It was a lot of fun going out with them. We built a Whats App group to chat and set the dates. Usually we talked about cats because each one of us has at least one cat.

For many years, my country has been flooded with refugees from eastern countries like Iraq and Syria. There´s always been a debate if we should let refugees in the country and that this would lead to more crime. I´ve never felt that way. I think every nation, religion, colour of skin or whatever differences there may be, have good people and bad people. Therefore, I divide people into criminals and not criminals, good character and bad character, nothing else. I don´t care if your a citizen or a refugee or what religion you have.

A year ago, there has been an incident at one of the refugee homes near where my friends live (all six women live in the same area). A refugee got angry with another refugee (both young men) and attacked him with a knife. I wouldn´t have known about this incident but my friend wrote it in our Whats App group. She wrote something along the line that refugees are all criminals and they shouldn’t be allowed to live near schools because they kidnap and abuse our children. I had never heard about anything like that and immediately wrote that I don´t think it´s nice of her to say that all of them are criminals. It´s definitely not true. There are so many cases of child abuse and harassment of women from citizens of my country. In addition, all bad encounters which I had (unfortunately many) were never with refugees or men other than citizens of this country.

However, she went on that those refugees are stealing the money from our people who need and deserve it more and that they even got more money from the state than our people that didn´t work. Of course I told her that this isn´t the case. She didn´t back off though, saying she has to work hard for the little money she got and they would get everything for free. Just to clarify this: she lives in a house that her parents inherited her, a big house with 5 bedrooms and huge garden. She worked part-time, earning about 2000$ every month that she could spend on anything as she didn´t have to pay rent. She has a nice car, three cats, a fully furnished house and so on. So clearly the refugees aren´t taking away anything from her. She then started again saying they were criminals. By that time I had enough and brought up statistics that I got from a government site. I sent the links to the Whats App group and then left the group. Shortly before this incident, I had adopted a young woman who is trans. My friend was all like „oh that´s wonderful, trans people are humans, too“. After I had left the group, she started posting stuff against trans people (my daughter is trans) on her status and that friends should respect other opinions and I wasn´t a good friend. AITA in this?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ProfessionalTwo7410 on 2024-01-03 11:19:18+00:00.

So I, 13 female am in a friendship group that consists of me and 2 other girls (both 13 female). Yesterday evening, my two friends-i’ll call them mia and olivia- had a sleepover without me. And i get that everything isnt about me and stuff but what i have an issue with is. that they were posting all over social media about this sleepover that i was not invited too. We are normally all really close and never leave eachother out of things which i know isnt always like that in trios. But anyway, i even reiceved a message from a different friend saying how come u were not at this sleepover. So this morning i messaged mia and just said hey did u and olivia have a sleepover last night, she half swiped me on snap and didn’t say anything. So i then send her a snap and she leaves me on delivered ( she was online btw). So after about 30 minutes of being on delivered i messaged me other friend on whatsapp and just said hey did u and mia have a sleepover last night with and x. She responded about 3 minutes later and said ‘Yh why what’s up with that’ i just said nothing i saw u together all over social media and was wondering. She seemed a bit annoyed with me so i just left it. This other person i’ll call her Sarah, she was at the local park with her little sister this morning and saw mia and olivia at the park. she said they were mocking me and saying that i was desperate for friends and just being generally bitchy. So sarah goes and asks them if we had had an argument or anything. Mia and olivia said no but i was being really bitchy and controlling and not letting them have other friends. After sarah told me all this i was really confused as i didn’t think i had done anything. So AITAH?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Gunplacollection on 2024-01-03 11:18:34+00:00.

Long story short, I went to a rave with my friend but I didn’t tell him I was interested in a girl who is part of our group. I asked her to dance but was rejected but we still vibed. The second day, he ended up pushing me out of the group and danced with her. She felt guilty because I left and ended up telling him about how I asked her the day before and how she turned me down, but ended up to continue to dance with her even after rejoining with everyone for the last set of the festival. He ended up talking to me the next day. He told me that he didn’t know but clearly he knew if she told him after I left the group. I told him that he’s not a good friend for doing that and it didn’t matter if he was under the influence, it was still a shitty thing to do. Unfortunately it wasn’t the first time this has happened between me and him. Ended up ending the friendship, but now there’s awkward tension between me and the female friend.

TL:DR: Friend broke bro code at a rave and he wants to fix things but I ended the friendship.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Nostalgia-dweller on 2024-01-03 11:17:38+00:00.

I (21F) am very close with my friend 28F. We met at uni and have been close ever since. Recently she got herself a new bf and I couldn't be more than happy for her. I kind of don't like the guy cuz he's basically a red flag ( doesn't respect her personal space, is very keen on having a more physical relationship when she wasn't, puts her in situations where her safety might be compromised) but she's really happy with him and so I turned the other way for her. She recently told me she might even marry the guys despite knowing him for a week and him being her first relationship. I told her to think about it more and even sat down with her multiple times to explain stuff and even to make her see why I think he might be a red flag. She says she'll think about it but once she goes home she just "forgets" to sit down and think apparently.

Recently with the holidays and stuff she has been more actively staying over at his place and spending time with him and I get it. It's the holidays u wanna be with ur bf. But it's the fact that when I call and ask her if she could hang out with me cuz im gonna be home all throughout the holidays cuz my parents are out of town and so are my siblings her response is " oh I'm hanging out with my bf that day". Ok is there any other time this week we could hang out? "I'm hanging out with him the entire week but I'll see if I can make time"

That kind of threw me off. Why do I have to be so understanding? And why do I have to spend the time I made for you when ur only spending the time u have left over after him?

I just get mad thinking of it like that cuz I remember her coming over 24/7 n even making time during exam week to hang out with me but now all of a sudden I only get the leftover time?

The worst part is she keeps telling me she's broke but she still goes out and eats with her bf( ok sure he might pay for it) then why are you hanging and eating out with our mutuals and not even talking to me about it. And why are u going to places we said we would go together with everyone else except me.

I just don't know if I'm valuing our friendship and promises a abit too much

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Electrical_Secret614 on 2024-01-03 11:17:09+00:00.

So I was at a wedding not too long ago and I was there by myself as my +1 who is just a friend and nothing more couldn't make it at the last minute and i went by myself. I was with people around my age (mid 20s ± 2 years) and I noticed a bridesmaid who was there by herself wanting to do the couples dance. I being the gentleman I am asked her if she wanted to dance because I kinda could see that she wanted to, and so we did. She tells me she also has a bf so I am wondering if my gentlemanly act makes me TAH or not.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/walkinth3park on 2024-01-03 11:11:11+00:00.

I (18) just saw my best friend (18) hanging out with my ex-friend (19), and I have been pretty upset. I was super close with my ex-friend a couple months ago and we almost started dating, since we both clearly had a crush on each other. However, it never got to that point because he was very controlling and obsessive over me to the point where he was making my best friend uncomfortable. He would get annoyed when me and her hung out which made my best friend tell me to stop talking to him. I listened to her and cut contact with him because there was no reason to stay friends with someone who makes my friend uncomfortable (and was weird to me). So, my best friend has talked a lot of shit about my ex-friend. This semester my best friend and ex-friend ended up having a class together and became pretty good friends. I told my best friend to leave me out of it because I didn’t want anything to do with him, but they keep bringing him up and saying “he’s changed”. I felt pretty bad for not wanting to hear my best friend out about him, but he creeped me out so much before I just don’t think he has changed. Anyway, my best friend ending up inviting me to hangout with her and my ex-friend by texting in a group chat we were all in. I felt pressured to go, so I went and he gave me weird vibes. My ex-friend barely interacted with me and I felt a bit left out between him and my best friend talking. So, fast forward to today. I saw my best friend and him hanging out and it flared some kind of anger in me. I am NEVER mad when I see my best friend hangout with any of their other friends, but seeing her hangout with him after everything i’ve told her about being uncomfortable around him made me so upset. It’s to the point where I do not even want to talk to my best friend anymore. I don’t want to come off as jealous, because I think it’s more of a “why can’t you be there for me like I was for you”, because I actually listened to my best friend when she told me she was uncomfortable around him. I understand I could be TA since my best friend is not required to dislike everyone I dislike, I just want to hear advice on this topic. Thanks for reading if you have made it this far.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/anarchy1111 on 2024-01-03 11:10:10+00:00.

This is a burner account since her friends follow my main. I (23 F) have been dating my girlfriend (23 F) for almost 3 years now and have been inseperable since. She's the light to my world and never fails to make me laugh. But recently she's been getting this youtube channel reading reddit story posts on her feed on tik tok and since then haven't stopped binge watching them.

It's gotten so bad where she even puts it on the TV whenever we have guest over and have even gone to work late due to her wanting to finish up watching a video. Don't get me wrong I loved this YouTube channel and have since I was a kid. They're gaming channel and watching them play super smash bros was my favourite and I loved seeing their music videos. But I'd always watch them in my own time rather then putting it on the TV during dinner or during parties???

During our new years eve party she decided to put on another youtube reddit video in the middle of the party, automatically turning off the music and having a guys voice play on high volume on speakers. Saying it was extremely embarrassing is an understatement.

After that night I had a sit down talk with her about her weird obsession over this youtube channel and how it's even possible not to get bored after this long watching the same series? She called me a "party pooper" and said that it was just for fun and wasn't harming anyone. I tried to explain the night before incident and how it's not exactly normal to randomly play a YouTube video in a middle of a party and how missing work over a reddit video isnt worth it, but she brushed it off for not understanding "humour" and that I shouldn't be so mad or concerned about her just watching YouTube videos. In her favour, I wouldn't let this go and became a bit of an asshole calling her weird and that she'd end up loosing her friends if you kept up with this which lead to a big fight. She hasn't spoken to me in 2 days now.

It's worrying to see her skip work and get in trouble while also creating awkward situations for our friends who don't watch these type of videos and don't understand the humour either. I don't know what to do. Am i the asshole?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Flying_donuts5046 on 2024-01-03 11:09:55+00:00.

A bit of background me (F18) have a past of OD everyday it seemed like. (I still do but I haven’t for 2 months while I have been trying to get better.) I was always in and out of the hospital and my family knew and we’re supportive and here for me.

I was moving back to my home country and living close to my family so I was asking my family if any of them would help unpack, my sister (F22) offered to help and that she had a sore head so if we could not be loud. I was saying that she could stay home and my brother (M20) offered as well. She kept on insisting and saying that I was trying to get rid of her, I completely denied it so I said that she could come and asked if it would be okay for her to take medications if she needed any before entering my house.

She agreed then the next day arrived and she came into my house and asked if I have any paracetamol. I said know as of my past and she said I was “being rude and dramatic” as she ran out yesterday and didn’t have enough time to get more, meanwhile she arrived 1:30 hours late and had a full face of makeup on and her hair in tight curls. I said that she shouldn’t blame it on me for my struggles and yet how she didn’t have time to get more paracetamol or to use some from my parents but she had the time to get all glammed up even though we would just be inside all day.

She said that I am being inconsiderate as I couldn’t have gone out my time to step up as a better sister and buy some while everyone is going through shit and people have it worse than me. Yes I know some people have it worse but OD is something I have been dealing with for about 4-6 years now and still do.

She left and told my family what happened and my parents won’t stop yelling at me about expecting everything to go my way and the only person who is actually a good person in my family is my brother

Am I the asshole?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Upper_Cartographer33 on 2024-01-03 11:08:03+00:00.

I (18f) am living with my parents (44m & 43f), they had a baby (now 13mos) and have set up a small enclosure in the living room. However, they regularly leave the baby gate open, exposing the baby to the unbaby-proofed kitchen and a flight of stairs with a small landing.

Now, my parents are in their 40s and the baby is just starting to run. So their response, every time she decides to get into something she shouldn't, is to just yell for her to stop while sitting on the sofa. They do not and have not gotten up to stop her from doing something.

In recent days, she has managed to get ahold of 409 (multipurpose cleaner) from the kitchen cabinets, drop a pan from the cabinets on her feet, eat cat poop, climb her toybox and pull a wooden puzzle on top of it onto herself, and fall down the stairs at least once.

I won't lie and act like I'm perfectly chill and calm about it, I get very upset and angry with my parents. They are severely addicted to their phones and half the time, these things go unnoticed by them because they were on their phone when it happened. I'll yell at them and scream because it makes me so frustrated to see them treat my baby sister this way.

Today, I guess I just lost it and told my mom to put a baby gate up at the stairs and keep the living room gate closed to keep her out of the kitchen unattended while threatening to call CPS if they don't take me seriously. My mom said that I was being unreasonable and that I need to mind my own business. She says that when I have my own child I can decide what to do with them and how to raise them, but that she doesn't want to "keep her baby in a bubble." She is threatening to kick me out if I actually call CPS, so I can't tell if I'm the one in the wrong here.

I fully understand that you can't baby-proof everything, I don't expect my parents to be perfect, and I know toddlers almost seem to be made out of rubber. But I genuinely do worry about my baby sister. I genuinely do get horrified at the thought of her falling down those stairs and not stopping at the landing. Was I severely overreacting? Or am I NTA ?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Karusieq on 2024-01-03 11:07:59+00:00.

In Poland, 18 birthday is a big thing, coming to an adult life I know my father and my mother are divorced but thetwo found new partners I invited all of them, all my family and friends, but my father and his new wife don't want to come to my birthday, I don't know why, maybe because of the divorce thing or that my dad told lies about my mom side of the family But I still wanted them, even for 5 minutes, but no. I told them I'm vwry sad about it because I wanted to do a coming out and just wanted to spend the last times with them before we part ways but what I got from his new wife? She texted me : " Welcome to adult life where decisions and choices are lurking at every step " So I made a adult decision and blocked her and will never talk to her again. When I will get the car and an apartment building for my dad I wll break things with him, because what he did on ne when I was younger, lies, abuse and other shit like that.

So am AITA?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/5upraRS on 2024-01-03 11:03:29+00:00.

Let me explain.

I'm the middle of 3 children. (25F, myself 27m, and brother 30m)

We grew up in what I would describe it as a lower-middle class household here in Australia. Growing up, my parents would not allow me to do what other children would do (play sports, socialise, go to anything afterschool, school activities etc). On top of this, both my parents were very lazy in my upbringing. Never taking us places, basically staying home all day, everyday when there was holidays/weekends and eating the same food everyday.

We had a TV and 2 computers, but they would complain we would be playing them too much and take the mouse/keyboard/modem/remote so we could not use them, leaving us literally nothing to do. When we did go out, my parents would take us to parks were other kids were having fun, and we watched them from the side lines. (Bike parks, etc).

Being the middle child of the three, I always felt forgotten about. My Birthdays/Events didn't really mean anything at all to them. Mean whilst, the older Brother and younger sister would always get treated better than I did.

Fast forward all these years later, my father's health has declined due to being obese and having bad type 2 diabetes & I do not feel sorry for him one bit. He was told 20 years prior he needs to eat less and move more - which he did not.

He has become very demanding that I need to do things for him (I currently run 2 businesses and have a young family of my own). He has become very bitter, making fun of everything and anything that he doesn't like, including things about my own family, my in laws, my daughter & much more. I was shocked to hear the things my own father has spoken about me when I've done absolutely nothing wrong by him & have broken through generational poverty to become successful. I've put this down to jealously?

On top of that, my older brother is constantly in and out of Jail. I've tried to help him as much as I can, but as much as I have tried to do, he always gets crazy and breaks heaps of things around my parents house which he is still residing. He constantly follows what his mates do which leads him in the completely wrong direction. He also openly rants about how 'easy' I have it. Maybe he should work the hours that I do every week.

My Mother is very bipolar, narcissistic & deeply religious. Any issues I had earlier in my life that i bought to her attention, it would always be shrugged off with 'I don't want to hear it'. You can't have a conversation with her without everything you talk about being related to God.

Luckily, my sister can see through all the BS and is completely normal.

Am I the arsehole here for wanting to disconnect from my Father, Mother and Brother completely? They bring unhappiness whenever I speak to them.

edit: My original post was nearly 5,000 words, I've had to leave out alot of additional background info.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/477353 on 2024-01-03 11:03:22+00:00.

My friend has always had a huge interest in cooking and such, so after I got them a cook book for Christmas, they decided to throw a dinner party for new years, 6 people total, including them.

I asked if we’d be aloud to bring our own foods for dietary needs and just in general, she said yes.

I also asked if I could request devilled eggs to be made by her, she said ‘I’ll see, but no promises’.

Since I didn’t know if she was making them, so I decided to bring my own deviled eggs, I made sure there was enough there was enough for everyone.

Turns out she made her own deviled eggs and got mad at me when I brought my own.

Our group is split, AITA?

TL:DR : I brought deviled eggs too a friends dinner even though she made her own without telling anyone.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ungratefulbratdaught on 2024-01-03 11:01:48+00:00.

During the entirety of last year my daughter (15) was pondering getting a nintendo switch. She has a job at a grocery store so she was thinking of saving up for one, but wasn't sure if it was worth it because she claims she "doesnt have any friends". She said that there are some games that interested her but many others she didnt want to play alone like mario cart and what not. In September she said she wasn't saving for one anymore because it wasn't worth it but I bought her one for christmas because I think she just isn't disciplined enough to save that much money and she keeps wasting it on garbage like star bucks and clothes from the mall and school supplies and name brand pads and what not instead of just going to walmart and buying store brand and making her own sugary bullshit. We don't buy her any of that because she has a job so she's not gonna just waste hundreds of dollars on useless crap and also expect us to foot the bill of things she actually needs. So when she opened the switch she had no reaction on her face but then she deadpanned said "thank you I love it". I called her out for being rude and she said "I really do love it" Something you should know about my daughter is she will manipulate situations where she acts like a victim and has been manipulating me her entire life.

Anyway as time went on she would ask me and my husband if we would like to play mario cart and I told her I'm too old for that cartoon video game crap and my husband being wrapped around her manipulative little finger will play with her. One day I saw she was playing mario cart and I said now thats not so bad is it and she said she is playing online and I promptly blocked the machine from the internet because who knows who is behind that screen? She got upset about it but I told her we don't play with strangers on the internet. As time went past I noticed she never plays the game by herself and I called her out on it saying she made me spend hundreds of dollars for this machine that she barely uses. She said she watches you tube and other stuff and I told her this is a game machine its meant for games and banned her from using it for anything else other than games. She has completely stopped using it now and I told her she needs to invite her friends and she said she doesn't have any and "her entire grade isolates and ostracizes her" which is ridiculous abd obviously not true and I told her to stop lying and she said its true so I said well if you weren't such a manipulative spoiled brat maybe you would have friends and maybe I should just return this machine then huh. She said "go ahead" and went to her room. That set me off. How dare she waste my time and money and then act ungrateful for a thoughtful gift I paid for her and now she is telling me to return it? I said I would return it just as an empty threat to get her to get her act together and now she wants me to return it.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/OrdinaryAd7132 on 2024-01-03 09:28:25+00:00.

So, some context.

I work at a clinic as a nurse and had to do immunizations the other day for a little girl (about 4 years old). She had come in with her mom. Of course with kids, immunizations can be hard and they may try to fight or run away, so for everyone's sake I typically have someone restrain the child while I give them the vaccines.

I walk into the room where the girl and her mom were and I immediately noticed that the girl looked scared (as I expected). I turn over to her mom and tell her that she needs to restrain her daughter so that I could give her the shots. Mom decides to put her daughter on her laps and hold her arms and legs together in a hug of some sort. I guess we have different definitions of what restraint means, because that wasn't what I meant. I clarified and told mom that I wanted her to hold the kid down horizontally on the bed. She flat out said no. I asked her why, she said that she didn't want to traumatize her daughter. I explained that I wanted to get this over quickly and not prolong this, so it would be best if she just held her down. She refused. Daughter starts crying. Mom says that she could sit in her lap and hold her that way and it would be fine. I said that I wasn't taking any chances, and if she doesn't hold her down, I would get another nurse in the room to do it instead.

I guess mom got pissy with me, because she picked up her crying daughter and left the room without saying anything, without getting her vaccinations. I followed her out and said that it wasn't my problem that I couldn't control her child. I guess some people at work thought that I should have kept that comment to myself, which is why I'm wondering if I'm the asshole. But I honestly really don't think it's hard to follow directions, and not question and medical professional's judgement.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Few-Replacement2389 on 2024-01-03 10:52:30+00:00.

I 17f have a brother 15m. He’s got, something? Going on with him, think panic disorder he’s going through referrals and meetings and stuff to get it sorted out. He’ll have random panic attacks, not very often but obviously having those at all isn’t very great.

I had some friends over and we were in the kitchen having some drinks talking away. I jokingly admit that I kinda hope my brother has a panic attack if we’re both at my dads house (my parents are separated and we were currently at my mums) because when It’s over my dad has gone to buy him a pity McDonald’s before (only happened a couple times because it’s only happened a couple times there) and because he’s getting him one he’ll buy me one as well.

My mum heard this because think she was in the hall at the time. When my friends are gone she has a massive rant at me for how disgusting that is to say and how fucking dare I make fun of my brother like that.

But I wasn’t making fun of him, really I was making fun of myself for wanting a free McDonald’s.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/PedestrianYi1 on 2024-01-03 09:24:44+00:00.

Hello all,

For some context I make about 500k as a current college student (won't go around saying how because I don't really think it matters) as a result all my college friends have a lot less money.

I've known these friends since high school (before any of us had any money) and we have always split the bill ever since for the 6 or so years. Recently, I've started fronting the bill (since no one else wants to) - with the expectation for everyone to pay me back, I've made it very clear that I expect everyone to pay me back and they've paid me back in the past without any problem.

Recently we went to a normally priced restaurant like we have hundreds of times, however some of the members of my group brought some friends whom I didn't know. One of these "friends" I didn't know was named Alex. I told everyone very clearly that I was fronting for the check and I expected to be paid back however Alex "forgot" (intentionally or not) to pay me back later. So I sent him a message to pay me back and I started getting called a bad person for that since the cost of eating didn't effect me at all. Alex decided to straight up say he wasn't paying for his portion and then stopped responding.

So I later made it very clear I would take him to small claims court even if it exceeded the cost of the meal.

AITA for asking for the money back, and then threatening legal action?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Patient_Mushroom3532 on 2024-01-03 10:50:51+00:00.

I (F22) had a tattoo appointment the other day to get a ornamental design on my sternum, so inbetween by boobs basically. I was really nervous about getting something in that spot since I would be pretty exposed but I already have a few other tattoos by that artist and I trust him. He always takes 80$ deposit.

He has moved studios since I last got tattooed by him and new studio was sectioned off into two areas, one was more like a waiting/consultation area and the other was intended tattooing, but there were 3 stations set up in the waiting area as well. He explained that he had to get some more artists on board to keep up with costs so we would be doing the tattoo in the front section.

I wasn't comfortable getting my tattoo done out with no top on and in the open like that. He argued that I would have been seen in the old studio too, which is true, but it would have been a few other tattoo artists and their clients only, here bascially anyone could walk in off the street and see me with my tits out. The front window was also partially see-through and I could see the stations from outside when I was walking by.

I said I would only get it done today if we could move to the back area but he said that wasn't possible so I either get it done here or I go and come back on a less busy day, but he would keep my deposit for the time I wasted. I tried arguing to get my 80$ back but he kept getting louder with me and I the other two artists in the front and the people waiting started whispering and staring at me, so I just left out of shame.

I texted my artist that evening trying to explain my point of view but he hasn't replied yet. My boyfriend says I was being a coward and that my artist is right to keep the money, but I don't think I'm in the wrong either. Sure, he did lose money on me walking out but he didn't even try to see if anyone in the back was able to switch stations or anything.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ProfessionalMail6505 on 2024-01-03 07:58:55+00:00.

This is pretty much my outfit I wore for wedding but higher neckline

25F I'm not comfortable with wearing a dress. So for my cousin's wedding, I chose to wear a suit to her wedding. My brother and I were essentially dressed same. Dark blue suits with a white shirt underneath.

My family were having fun and I thought all was fine. That is until the MOH came over while I was walking on my way to the washroom. I was confronted about wearing white and she poured wine on me.

Was I really the AH for wearing a white blouse with my navy suit? I didn't think the don't wear white rule was so literal. There was absolutely no way I could have been mistake for the bride. I also saw plenty of men dressed same as me. Some kind of dark suit with a white shirt. Yet none of the were confronted about it.

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Wonderful_Tomato_457 on 2024-01-03 10:46:51+00:00.

Okay so I hope I can explain this well, (sorry for anything messed up; I’m on mobile) basically I (18F) was in the car with my sister (20F) and as we were driving back home from whatever shenanigans we were up to. We came to a backroad intersection, and as we did, so did someone else, except, this person pulled up to a stop sign, and as they did we pulled up to the intersection (clearly in the right of way, we had no stop sign). All of the sudden my sister stops completely, she begins aggressively waving on the person waiting patiently at the stop sign, which in return, the car also waved my sister on to go, because they knew they had a stop sign. So being the confused person I am I ask “you can go, why aren’t you going?” to which my sister ignored and just keeps- waving the other person on??? So I, in an admittedly annoyed tone said “dude, you have the right away, they said you can go, why’re you just sitting here” and she did not like that at all! She scoffs at me like some rich lady in a country club and tells me “I’m just being nice, I KNOW how to drive…” and then FINALLY started driving. This would have been the end of that but she decided to go a step further and tell family and friends at home, that I “screamed at her”, and was acting like a “crazy person”. I just personally think she blew it out of proportion but some have disagreed with me, what do you guys think? (Also this isn’t the first time, I’ve driven with her once before and she drove on the wrong side of the road, yelling at the person opposite, coming down the street ON THEIR CORRECT SIDE!!!)

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/veebee_13 on 2024-01-03 07:53:31+00:00.

I spoke with my friend after a whole month. He told me he was looking for a partner through a matchmaker and met two girls. Out of which for one he said the following.

Number One: He rejected the girl because she appeared way different from the heavily edited picture she sent. Fair.

Number two: He still had a conversation with her to see if they'd vibe.

Number Three: He gave her a feedback. A FEEDBACK. He told her she slouches, she's got pimples and that she mispronounced a few words. All of this on the first meet. I asked him rhetorically who's he to give somebody a feedback, especially when he's not perfect. Plus what he pointed out could already be their insecurities so he shouldn't have. I asked him why did he do that. He replied that he wanted to because he felt like he'd been cheated with the picture. I tried to explain to him that what he did was wrong. But he won't accept it.

We've stopped speaking since. And I'm really in a dilemma whether I was wrong in telling him that he's a misogynist or should I have not given any opinions since it was his personal choice to do so?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/pisslmaopeepee_ on 2024-01-03 10:43:59+00:00.

This might be a bit long. Basically I don't feel comfortable in clothes that show my skin, so I don't wear them like at all. I have nothing against people who does wet then since it's their choice etc etc. Recently my brother who goes to University in a different state came to visit and he had come with a few friends of his. The friends were staying at a hotel whereas my brother was staying in our house.

My brother had told me that he wanted me to meet my friends and that they had bought gifts for me since they always heard about me through him. I was excited at meeting them and was curious about what sort of gifts that they got me and it turns out that all of the gifts were clothes like tank tops, crop tops, bodycon dresses, short shorts etc. My brother is well aware that I don't wear these type of clothes since I'm not really comfortable in them so i thought it was a joke, turns out it wasn't and i was expected to wear the dress when I went to meet them. I told my brother that this wouldn't happen but I would still meet them, he said okay.

Next day we go and I'm wearing my clothes instead of the gifted ones, and his friends wouldn't even look at me, it was a very hurtful situation and i don't understand what went wrong. After we came back home my brother yelled at me for embarrassing him and when I went to speak to my mother about it she said that he was right and now I'm confused on whether I should apologise or no

(Excuse grammatical errors, English is not my first language)

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/waterbottledrinker1 on 2024-01-03 01:07:59+00:00.

Me (35) and my beautiful wife (32) have been married for around 1 year now.

Every Saturday without fail she goes to her parents house and spends nearly the whole day there from like 2PM to 8PM and it’s starting to annoy me. Since it would be better for us to spend more quality time doing things, since I’m incredibly busy during the week and only have Saturday to spend the day with my wife, as I am busy on Sunday with my friends.

I really don’t understand the need to spend that much time at her parent’s house with her parents and siblings. So I told her to spend around 2 hours at her parent’s house so we can spend the rest of the day doing something together. But she insisted that we do have enough time together during the week to which I disagreed. This led to an argument where she claims I’m trying to “control” how long she spends at her parent and siblings house.

So AITA?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Intelligent-Title392 on 2024-01-03 10:43:06+00:00.

My partner and I both work from home and both have a home office each. My girlfriend prefers the living room since she says the natural light is better in there and the sofa is better than her office. chair. I have no issues with this as we work the same hours anyway.

I have 4 days of annual leave to use up so I have put them in for 2 weeks time. My girlfriend had already used all of her leave so she couldn't take any with me. She asked me what I was planning to do with it and I said I just needed a break and that for most of it I'll just relax at home.

She asked how I was going to do that with her working in the living room and I just said I'm obviously not going to kick her out of the room but I'll also be using it so she'll have to put up with some noise from the tv.

She saidf that was unfair since she will have to make calls and have meetings but I just reminded her that there are 2 home offices in the apartment so she can use one of them since I would not be using mine for the week. She said that was unfair and that her work should come first but I just mentioned that I'm not stopping her working, she just doesn't want to work in the office.

She said I should find things to do outside of the apartment but I told her she can't dictate how I use my leave just because she wants to take over the living room in our apartment but she said i was unreasonable.

AITA for planning to use the living room?

This is an automated archive.

The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/EvenAd6432 on 2024-01-03 05:03:31+00:00.

I am a female and my best friend of many years is a man. We met doing a theatre gig together and instantly bonded, we played love interests in the show back then and I told my boyfriend at the time that it was ok because obviously Nick, the best friend, was gay. I mean in no derogatory way that I was certain he was gay when I met him, his mannerisms were very feminine, as was his way of speech, not to mention we were working in the arts together. He also never showed any interest in any girls while we were friends.

Recently Nick has been spending a lot of time hanging out with a girl that I don’t know particularly well, I just know she’s very sweet and has a lot of the same interests as him. It didn’t surprise me that they got along very well, because they were very similar people. Within just weeks of meeting they were going out places together and doing activities that me and Nick used to do together. I thought they were just friends so I asked Nick if I could join him and the girl, Julie, on our of their “friendly outings”. While we were out Nick went off to the bathroom and I was left alone with Julie, Julie asked me my permission to ask out Nick, since I was his closesg friend at the time. She was very kind in asking me if I was comfortable with it and I immediately warned her that Nick did not return her feelings as I was very convinced Nick was fully homosexual. Julie immediately pulled away from Nick and I noticed Nick was very upset.

I informed Nick after a bit that it would be ok, that Julie just realized they had different expectations for the relationship, then Nick asked me if I told her that he was in love with her. I sheepishly told him what I had done and immediately tried to explain myself, but he called me the asshole for just telling her that and talking to him or telling him after. I thought I was doing both of them a favor but now Nick is very mad at me and both of us only see Julie in passing because she now thinks, because of me, that Nick is an asshole and was just leading her on.

AITA?