Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/eikerir on 2023-12-29 20:20:03+00:00.

So I was in a very busy shopping centre car park today looking for a space when I see a family approaching a car just in front of me so I waited for a moment before the spot opened up.

The lady that was gonna drive said something at me like “that guy asked me for the space” whilst pointing to a car a couple of cars behind me. I wasn’t sure what she meant so I just said “I’m here first”.

Then the guy from said car 2 cars behind me came to my window to tell me he had shouted at the lady before to say he was taking that space, somehow thinking that reserved it for him?

I just said “sorry that’s now how it works, my car is here first so I’m taking it”. He said he needed the car for his kids because it’s a family space and I pointed at my daughter in the back in her car sit saying “me too”.

He just gave me a “ok sure mate” whilst walking away pissed off making it seem like I was an asshole for daring to take the space he “called” from a random distance in the car park.

I don’t think IATA here unless this is a thing people do? I’ve lived in the UK for almost 10 years and this is the first time I’ve ever seen someone think they can save spots for themselves when they’re far behind in a queue.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Proud_Union9497 on 2023-12-29 20:11:26+00:00.

I, (39m) am married to my wonderful wife (38f) and we have a daughter, Becca (13f). Our daughter asked her mom if she could get bangs 3 years ago. Since people at school started commenting on how they thought she had a big forehead.

Until yesterday, Becca had curtain bangs that went down to under her eyes. Usually when she needs a haircut, either her mother or I take her to the salon.

Yesterday however, while I was at work, my wife decided to cut Becca's bangs because they were getting to long. My wife thought that cutting Becca's hair herself would be better because she thought that it would just be a little trim and not that hard.

When my wife finished cutting Becca's bangs, Becca was pretty upset and said that kids at school were probably going to bully her now. I'll be honest, I don't think my wife did a good job. Becca's bangs are pretty blunt and about a centimeter above her eyebrows.

When I got home, I was pretty shocked and asked my wife why she didn't just take Becca to the salon. My wife was pretty defensive and said that it wasn't even that bad. Today, I took Becca to the salon to try and fix her bangs, but there wasn't much they could do without making it even shorter.

After I got home from the salon today, I told my wife that although I understood she didn't mean for Becca's bangs to turn out like that, she should take Becca to the salon next time instead of cutting our daughter's bangs herself. My wife called me a jerk for saying that and still thought that Becca's bangs weren't really that bad. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/throw_awayaccountan on 2023-12-30 03:02:22+00:00.

My wife (29 year old) is obsessed with the gym and goes on a weekly basis. She goes an hour every morning to the gym Monday thru Friday and Saturday sometimes. We have an 8 year old daughter and I keep an eye on her when she goes to the gym before I go to work, it's not a problem because it's super early so I'm just awake watching over just in case she wakes up and needs anything.

It's not a problem until she told me that she wants to go in the morning and in the afternoon. So basically she wants to go every day for and hour and an extra hour from 5 to 6. Look, I don't mind she wants to take care of herself but isn't 1 hour a day enough?

So I compromised she goes every day and 2 days of the week in the afternoon and she agreed to those terms, I don't know if that makes me am asshole but I feel that 6 hours a week is enough plus I want to spend time with my wife and so does my daughter. It felt bad when one day my 8 year old asked me if her mom skipped gym because she wanted to be with her.

So I decided it was the last straw,, and said that if she wanted to go she would have to drive there herself. For context her gym is a 7 minute drive plus we have two cars so I didn't want to drive her because not only does it inconvenience us, but it lines up for our dinner time. Due to our schedules our lunch is at 5:00 so the two days she goes to the gym, we have to take her to tge gym, go back, make lunch in a hurry, feed my kid then hurry back up to pick her up or else she'll be mad.

I arrive from work at 4:30, I'm human and I just want to rest a little because I have to cook but immediately forced to drive her to a very close location it gets to me. Yesterday I told her if she really wants to go that I won't stop her, and I won't get mad but don't ask me to drive her because I'm busy cooking to feed our family. She was upset but I was upset too because in my eyes I get home she doesn't care about our well-being (since she gets home at 2:30) then she goes of without feeding our child to the gym, and if you remember, she had already gone to in the morning anyways. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Pitiful-Gur-2524 on 2023-12-29 19:46:42+00:00.

My brother essentially took a loan of $5,500 from my mother, then cut her off and never paid it back. Blocked all her numbers and poof, disappeared from her life.

My mother held onto this, and was upset when my brother completely cut contact. My mother sadly passed this year, and I found out she cut my brother from the will completely.

My mother left me a very large sum, and my brother is now hounding me to give him half of the estate as we were both raised by mom. I don't have the easiest relationship with him, and considering my mother cut him out, I don't feel it is my decision to make.

My dad (my parents were separated) is now threatening to cut me off if i don't share the inheritance with my brother. AITA for deciding not to share this with him?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Major_Yak_1114 on 2023-12-29 18:55:49+00:00.

I’m a 25M living in the US. My older sister “Maddie” is 27F and her partner “Wes” is 26M. I also have a 24M brother, but he is overseas right now and doesn’t come into play here.

We had our family Christmas recently, and my sister Maddie came with Wes. She is currently six months pregnant with her first child. She gathered everyone around and announced that they’d found out the gender and it was going to be a girl! Everyone was excited and of course got on the topic of baby names.

My grandma was sharing some family names she thought might be good (I liked most of them tbh, they were nothing crazy), and then a few relatives jumped in to share their ideas. Maddie said she didn’t need ideas because they’d already picked a name. They will name her Fancy Louise LASTNAME.

My mom asked why, and Maddie said they wanted an homage to classic country music, and it would’ve been Cash or Henry “Hank” if it were a boy. My mom said it was a cute name and that represented who they are as a couple (they met because Wes plays in a country cover band at the place where Maddie used to work). I cleared my throat and pointed out that Fancy is not a kid appropriate reference at all. I pulled out my phone and started reading a list of country inspired names that she might want to choose instead.

Maddie was very icy to me and went to sit in her car. My mom asked me to apologize or separate myself from the situation, as Wes was starting to get really pissed and agitated that I’d upset Maddie. I went up to my room (I’m in college, so currently staying with my mom) and just ended up playing video games for the rest of the night.

Now, a few days have passed and my mom is encouraging me to text Maddie and apologize, as she thinks I shouldn’t have shared my opinion of the name without being asked. I’m open to being told I’m the AH, but I truly think it’s okay to point out when a baby name idea might have inappropriate associations.

AITA?

EDIT: oops, I should have been clearer about the reference and why it concerns me. Fancy by Reba McEntire is about a sex worker, so I don‘t think it’s an appropriate namesake for my niece.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/biomatic-youtuber-47 on 2023-12-30 02:59:07+00:00.

So I'm a fictionkin, fictionkin started as and to me will always be a spiritual term,

but people on TikTok keep using it as just thinking a character is relatable,

I get into many arguments over the word, I don't get why they can't just call themselves synpaths and let spiritual people have the term fictionkin.

People are burying the original and real meaning of the word. It's come to the point where people claim it is not and never has been a spiritual term. Which is a flat-out lie.

I feel like they are burying my community, lots of synpaths who steal the term fictionkin even call actual fictionkins delusional, they call me an asshole, and they are spreading missinfo about the community and making it look like something fun.

Is it asshole-ish of me to fight people over the meaning of words, and to tell them they can't use the term fictionkin if they just relate to a character?

(This is not a place to talk about whether fictionkinity is valid or not, even if you don't share the same beliefs, don't hinge your opinion of this situation on whether you are okay with these kinds of beliefs and identities. And don't include stuff like your personal opinion on the beliefs, I don't care if you think it's crazy or delusional.)

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/CopperyLeather on 2023-12-29 15:44:53+00:00.

Not in the US

I (32f) had dinner with my sister Laura (40f) last night. The place was a popular and somewhat high end restaurant. The unspoken agreement between the two of us was that I cover the bills whenever we go out together as I’m doing much better financially.

For background information, Laura married right after college and became a SAHM. She only started working again last year after her divorce (no monthly alimony but ex husband takes care of all their children’s expenses; she has almost 6 figure USD from their joint bank account that is now hers) and now more or less has the salary of someone newly graduated from college.

So we ordered five dishes to share at the restaurant. The dishes came one by one and Laura and I chatted as we ate. The last one was supposed to be a steak of a certain cut of beef and specific side dishes. What was served looked nothing like what was on the menu. I called for a server to take it back and get us the right order but my sister stopped me.

Laura said the restaurant was super busy and we shouldn’t add burden to the already busy and hard working staff. She said we could just eat this dish we got by accident. She said some places the owners make the staff pay for this type of errors out of their own pocket and we should be kind.

When the bill came, I told my sister she needed to pay for the dish we didn’t order. Laura threw a fit, telling me I knew she didn’t plan to spend this kind of money today as I have always paid. I said I told her to return the dish and she refused so paying for it was now her responsibility.

Laura finally scraped together enough cash for the dish while I paid for the rest, my sister calling me AH for being so petty. Later my mom also called me and said I was being unkind because I could easily afford to pay while Laura would find it harder to make up the loss. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Maleficent-Scene8203 on 2023-12-30 02:58:32+00:00.

today, i (22F) was leaving my building, and there was a girl (20ish) standing by the gate outside. to exit the building, you have to pass through a glass door and a gate, both opened with the same key fob. when i opened the gate, the girl started entering the building before i even left. i stood in front and asked if she lived there, she said yes. i told her i didnt know her and wouldnt let her in. she got angry, saying she didnt know me either, and i should stop bothering her since it wasnt my problem where she lived. however, it is my problem as i am the one who opened the gate, and she was entering without a key. the argument continued with her mentioning she lived on the 8th floor, had lost her key, and it wasnt my business so to stop bothering her because she was tired and wanted to go home. eventually, she managed to enter and closed the gate n my face (she got stuck between the gate and the glass door i had close lol). AITA? while she may live here, i've never seen her before (and i live here since 2021 and its not a big building) what if she were a criminal or a crazy person? idk, at the time, i thought i was right, but now i am overthinking, and my conscience is bothering me (sorry if my english its not perfect, its my 3rd language)

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/beenicetoeveryone7 on 2023-12-30 02:52:46+00:00.

Me (17m) and my group of friends have always been close. We all have different personalities, with me I’ve always been very money motivated. Maybe because my family hasn’t got much money, so it’s become my destiny to get my family out the rut we’re in, after all I am the only man in my household. I only live with my mom and little sister.

I wouldn’t call my friends parents rich, but they’ve got comfortable money. So my friends sit around all day and get high without a care in the world. I don’t smoke so to them, I’m probably like the annoying friend that can’t stop talking about how many ways there are to get money. But to me, I’m the friend thinking of new ways we can all elevate together and always brainstorming new ideas.

They’ve showed me enough times that they couldn’t give a fuck, and at this time in their lives why would they? They got fresh fit with nice trainers, but they don’t understand that’s as high as it gets for them, hopefully not though.

I work a lot, after college and on weekends, and I spent quite a bit of time brainstorming about business ideas I can pursue. I thought about an idea for a clothing line and I’m working on it now. At the beginning, when talking to my friends about it, they didn’t care, some said “good idea I want to join you” but they’d go back to smoking weed and eventually forget. Some of them were straight up “I don’t really care about that bro”.

I am in the works of the clothing line, and my sister told her friends about me and how I’m taking care of the family. Word got out and my friends one by one started hearing about it (little sister is friends with one of my friends sisters) and they wanted to join. I told them all to fuck themselves. They were confused, and started questioning my loyalty.

I told my mom about the situation and she never called me an asshole, but more on the side of “I’ve raised you better than to that, you should let your friends join you”. I can’t help but feel like a disloyal rat now. But what do y’all think?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Antique_Employ_424 on 2023-12-29 15:19:49+00:00.

I (20f) am a college student with a service dog, Dixie. I have had Dixie since she was born and have spent the last two years raising her to be my service dog, spending thousands of dollars and countless hours. Over the holidays, I brought Dixie with me to see family. My aunt (51f) loves dogs and Dixie is super sweet, so my aunt was glued to her. On the third day of visiting, my aunt asked to take Dixie for a walk. I was fine with it, but I couldn't go with them because I was helping in the kitchen. So my aunt and Dixie go on their walk and I continue with my work. I was also grateful that someone else was willing to take her because Dixie is a high-energy dog (Australian shepherd) and only gets tired after about three miles.

Something to know about Dixie is that ever since she was a puppy, she has had a habit of holding things in her mouth when she is excited. Generally, this is one of her toys, but if she doesn't have a toy around, she'll grab whatever is closest. I know this is a habit of hers, so when we go outside, she always brings her raccoon when she is off duty. She did on this walk as well. However, my aunt took it away from her as they were leaving and left it by the front door. I don't see this aunt very often, but I did tell her that Dixie takes the raccoon everywhere.

On their walk, Dixie picked up a sizeable rock to hold in her mouth. My aunt tried to take this away as well, and Dixie resisted. In trying to keep the rock, she accidentally swallowed it. My aunt came back right away, and I took Dixie to the nearest emergency vet, over three hours away. (It was past 8 pm at this point and all the vets in between were closed for the night.) Dixie ended up needing surgery to remove the rock and repair the damage to her throat, but she is expected to recover well.

As I was waiting, I called my family to tell them that Dixie was in surgery. My family all expressed their sympathy and my aunt apologized for letting this happen. Once I was done on the phone, I texted my aunt asking for her to pay the vet bill, which ended up coming to almost $2000. She called me an AH for asking her and not accepting her apology. While I do accept her apology, and I know accidents happen, this is a big expense that is more of a burden on me than her. My aunt is a multimillionaire who just spent ten times that on a lavish tropical vacation. As a college student, this would wipe out my savings and I need the money to pay my tuition for the upcoming semester. She is now downstairs complaining about my entitlement to my entire family, and most of them agree with her. So, AITA?

EDIT: We were all at my mom's brother's house, who is also my aunt's brother. It included my nuclear family (my parents and two siblings), my aunt's nuclear family (husband and three teen boys), my uncle's nuclear family (wife and toddler son), and my grandma.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/No-Temperature1458 on 2023-12-30 02:43:06+00:00.

My roommate and I are super close and we've been living together for about 2 years now. We've never really had any serious clashes about anything. She really wanted to get a cat a few months ago and I've always been open to living with one, so she got a 3 month old kitten. I was super excited to live with a cat (I've never had one) so in order to understand better I read a book about understanding them/training them.

Generally any time I tell her about something I learned from a book or article or vet (I have a friend who is I'm vet school) about cat care, she is pretty resistant and references that she has had cats as a kid.

Any time she goes out of town she usually checks that I'm available and if I'm in town then I will feed him (of course free of charge). So when she went out of town this year for the weeks around Christmas, she left him with me to take care of. I let her know ahead of time that I would be gone, a 40 minute drive away, for 3 days around Christmas Day, and she said the kitten (6 months old) would be fine for 2 to 3 days on his own with access to a bowl of dry food and running water (usually he gets additional wet food morning and night).

I went along with it, but it seemed like a prolonged amount of time for a kitten to be alone and I got really worried. I ended up driving back several times to check on and feed the kitten, because every resource I had, including friends and family (one of which is a certified pet sitter), had informed me that 10+ hours is not advisable for a kitten to be alone. I also got worried about him running out of food or litter space. Any time I visited the kitten during that period he seemed especially anxious and vocal about being close to me.

I waited a few days after my roommate got back from her trip to let her know that I'd made a few trips to check on him. I told her that my family seemed concerned and so I got anxious. She continually told me "he would have been fine, I've had cats before, he IS my cat"

Did I undermine her agency? Everyone around me told me I did the right thing in checking on him. My family looked at me in horror when I said he'd be alone for 2 days. I feel like I'm going crazy.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/TheDM13 on 2023-12-30 02:43:03+00:00.

I (17m) have been single for a year and a half now. My cousin (18f) has been dating this guy let’s call him Jerry (not his real name and is 19m) for a year now. I was dating girls for a while but I have been cheated on and been called a f boy and let’s just say I kinda lost my interest in girls as I grew up. I have been seeing the dating life different and see I’m also attracted to men. My cousin’s bf is 6’3, blonde hair, works out so has a great body, and is good with kids but also a good part dirty minded. I would never take him from her and ik how much they love each other. But to me he is the perfect guy that I’m looking for. Now to the story. We had Christmas dinner the 26 and he came over like usual with her. Him and I were playing tag with my younger cousins (10f, 8m, 6f) and he was “protecting me” from getting tagged. When all that was done I said what a gentleman, and I smiled and pat his shoulder. He smiled and said thank you and pat my shoulder too. Later the next day I got a text from my cousin saying that Jerry is HER bf and not mine. That I should keep my hands off and find one my own! I told her I was sorry and that I won’t do it before. But she said me and him aren’t aloud in the same room without her there. I don’t know how I did that and I am worried that she does think I’m trying to take her bf. AITAH?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Vast-Sheepherder4811 on 2023-12-30 02:42:28+00:00.

I 46(M) and GF 50(F) were having an argument about meeting our EXs.

My GF divorced with her Ex 10 years ago. She and her two daughters have been on a rough relationship for this past year. Her Ex has recently messaged her about one of their daughters. My GF suggested to meet up with him since it's easier to discuss these matters face to face.

I was ok with her meeting with her EX. A few days later my friend suggested we meet up for lunch and catch up with my EX whom I had not met for 20+ years. I asked my GF if it was ok to meet up my ex, and she got angry with me. She said that me meeting my ex for a casual catch up vs her meeting her ex to discuss serious matters was not the same. I feel this a double standard.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Any-Outcome-285 on 2023-12-30 02:41:31+00:00.

Alright to start out, I (28F) and my boyfriend (27M) have been together for years, around 5-6 to be more exact. I love his family for the most part. I have a good bit of medical problems and mental health issues, which im putting for context. My boyfriend which we will call Joey, does not want to move to a new place with me but has told me i can move in with him, his older brother 'Tyler' and Tyler's girlfriend. I have said no because I cant bring my cat but he still thinks i should move in with him because the rent is cheap. Will not even talk about moving with me unless i bring it up. I currently live with my parents because i cant afford to live on my own. I would like to move on with our lives, because he doesn't want to get engaged while not living together. Now he does make more money than I do, and wants to keep rent low, but i dont want to waste my life waiting for something that may never happen. He says some day we will have kids and a house, i just have to wait another 5 years if i dont want to move in with him. Fast forward to our planned week-long vacation. It is Joey, Tyler, Tyler's girlfriend,'Joan' and Bobby the youngest out of the three that paid almost $900 a piece to stay the week. (They all have better paying jobs than I do) Joey's parents were invited to come stay the night as was Joan's parents. I didnt know about Joan's parent's until we got to the place. I didnt get to invite my parents, i didnt know they were allowed honestly. But when i asked Joey, his response was "I didnt ask and i could have just invited them". Then i also found out that if both sets of parents come, me & joey would have to give up our queen bed, which we paid for, to Joan's parents. Meanwhile Tyler & Joan choose the king bedroom, and we got the queen bedroom, no choice there btw. We went food shopping and i really didnt get to have a say in what we were buying, I was basically there to help pay. Then we went to get beers and such and i told Joan i wanted to chip in so i could drink some of the drinks. I offered to pay cash and have her pay me back so much. In the end, I paid for the drinks she chose and i only got $20. Then the next night, we had steaks. Tyler cooked them and of course he chose one of each steak. He had 2 & 1/2 steaks while everyone got one. (joan gave him a half of hers). Then the next night, we went out to eat and i have a cold right now, but my stomach started hurting and Tyler made the crack that it always hurts. (I have ulcerative colitis, look it up if you dont know about it) I just said i pray for the day that it doesnt hurt. I feel like im just an outsider, and that i dont belong here. They wanna drink and party almost every night and i dont, but then im stuck by myself. I feel like it shouldnt have played out this way with the food, rooms, and other things. I feel angry that they can do what they want but dont let me know whats going on. That they can invite whoever and im just here. I just want to know, Am I the Asshole in this relationship/ vacation?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Anxious-Offer-9077 on 2023-12-30 02:38:49+00:00.

Okay so context, my husband (25M) and I (24F) just spent our first full Christmas together with both families. His family tends to do gag gifts for Christmas (along with "normal" gifts as well). We had planned to give his dad and uncle a vintage Playboy magazine, and in one of the full length posters, we hid a Lottery Scratcher. My husband brought his laundry to do while we were home for the holidays. Since this was our first Christmas together as a married couple, and we were extremely busy with everything, his mom decided to do his laundry for him. Well, at the bottom of the basket there were pink bondage straps that you put under your bed. Now how it ended up in his laundry basket, we're not quite sure, but it may have been moved when we were doing some cleaning during Thanksgiving break. Anyway, during our Christmas celebration with his family, his mom quietly calls him into the laundry room, and asks him to look in the basket. At first, it didn't register to him, what it was, but then the realization sunk in on what was sitting there. She asked did he want to explain to her what the hell that was, and he just walked away. He then quietly called me over, and asked me to do the same thing. Once the panic had subsided, we needed to come up with a game plan. I quickly told him that we would explain it was a gag gift a friend gave us shortly after our wedding. We thought we threw it away, but evidently did not. In keeping with the gag gift theme, we proposed to her what if we gave her husband and his brother the straps as a joke to include with their Christmas present. She thought it was a great idea, so the plan was a go. The consensus was that the brothers would probably laugh about it, and then throw them away. To our horror, his uncle actually decided to keep it, and said him and his wife would break them in. So, AITA for gifting the bondage straps to my FIL and his brother as a gag gift that I never intended for them to keep?

P.S. I feel it's important to notate that when I say "used" I mean in their intended purpose. The straps were used just as that; straps. Hands and ankles. Nothing on any other nefarious areas.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Max_ate_an_apple on 2023-12-30 02:36:42+00:00.

so I (16m) and my brother (17m) shared a room until a couple months ago. we have pretty good relationship but one of the things that caused a lot of agurments when we shared a room was our differences in habits. i’m a very cleanly and organized person. he’s not. One of the habits he had was not folding his clothes when he was done washing them. he would have two laundry baskets, one for clean clothes, and one for dirty clothes. when he was done washing his clean clothes, he would just leave them in a basket in the middle of the floor and dig through them when he was getting dressed.

I always thought this habit was gross, and it also caused a lot of arguments. when I was cleaning our room, I would find his dirty laundry on the floor and toss it into his clean basket due to the fact that his clean and dirty laundry baskets were identical. he would scream at me, saying that now he had to rewash all of his clothes. but now that we have our own rooms, this argument has been a non-issue.

until today when my aunt came over. she’s very sensitive to smells so I unplugged the air freshener and set it on the bookcase. however, she said that she could still smell it so I took the air freshener, the pile of clothes that it was sitting on, and the cat and took it to my brothers room per my mother‘s instructions.

my intention was to give my brother the cat in the air freshener and take the clothes to my mom‘s room. while I was in there, we got to talking and I set down the pile of clothes in my brother clean laundry basket, and when I left, I forgot to take it with me. about hour later he comes storming into my room, throwing the clothes at me and saying that now he has to rewash all of his laundry because I threw dirty clothes in it.

he refused to listen to my explanation that:

1. The clothes weren’t dirty
2. if you didn’t want this to happen, he should fold his clothes like a normal person.
3. it was an honest mistake.

he told me to fuck off and that it couldn’t have been a mistake because he’s told me not to a million times.

am i crazy? cause i don’t think im wrong here. i apologized and i think he needs to understand this is party his fault for having this gross habit. so AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/hhh520 on 2023-12-30 02:34:32+00:00.

I gave in my 3 week notice on Monday December 18th and said my last day would be on Friday January 5th. I explained my reasons for quitting was due to the number of classes I was going to take for my upcoming semester would be increased and I’d want to find a job closer to my school/home. However yesterday and today I received calls from two different co-workers trying to guilt? trip me or make me feel like I was rude for quitting based on a day and not when they hired someone new. They said I should quit once they find someone new and should keep coming out at least 2 times a week still. I thought about it and I am not sure if I should do what they said. For context this is a friendly Korean dental office and I work as a receptionist and do mainly insurance related things for the office. There is a main front desk receptionist so it is not like I am leaving a major position either. But after thinking about this Maybe I am in the wrong for giving notice around the holidays when it might be harder to find a replacement? I am not sure. Open to opinions other than mine thank you

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sad_Ball_7314 on 2023-12-29 23:36:17+00:00.

My wife has always been a great cook. She loves experimenting in the kitchen, and I consistently see her looking up recipes. I'm not much of a cook myself, plus it doesn't interest me, so I usually let my wife cook. Her job is stressful, and it honestly seems like she's de-stressing when she's in the kitchen.

Fast forward to earlier today, and I got a call from my wife while she was driving home from the office. I work from home, so I don't need to commute. Anyway, she sounded extremely frustrated and was perhaps on the verge of tears. She said that she had no energy left and just wanted to drive home and take a warm bath. Then she asked me if I could prepare dinner. I noticed that she had cut out a recipe from a magazine and put it on the counter. I agreed, she thanked me, and we hung up. This was a huge miscommunication. When she said "prepare dinner," I assumed she meant to get the ingredients together in the fridge, but what she actually meant was for me to cook.

When she walked into the house, she seemed puzzled. The kitchen was dark and there was nothing in the oven. I told her what I had done, and she seemed very upset. She told me that I was "lazy" and "deliberately missed the point," but I reminded her how bad I am at cooking and noted how much fun she seemed to have in the kitchen. Eventually, I realized that our conversation was going nowhere, so I just ordered delivery from a local Thai restaurant, but the whole experience is still bothering me. I wanted to do her a favor by letting her cook for us, but all it got me was mistreatment from my wife. And the comment about how I'm lazy? I work all day, just like she does. It's absurd to say that she works harder because she goes to an office. I'm just trying to understand why she's so upset, and my only conclusion is that she's really jealous of me. I just wish she could see things from my perspective. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sad_Ball_7314 on 2023-12-29 23:36:17+00:00.

My wife has always been a great cook. She loves experimenting in the kitchen, and I consistently see her looking up recipes. I'm not much of a cook myself, plus it doesn't interest me, so I usually let my wife cook. Her job is stressful, and it honestly seems like she's de-stressing when she's in the kitchen.

Fast forward to earlier today, and I got a call from my wife while she was driving home from the office. I work from home, so I don't need to commute. Anyway, she sounded extremely frustrated and was perhaps on the verge of tears. She said that she had no energy left and just wanted to drive home and take a warm bath. Then she asked me if I could prepare dinner. I noticed that she had cut out a recipe from a magazine and put it on the counter. I agreed, she thanked me, and we hung up. This was a huge miscommunication. When she said "prepare dinner," I assumed she meant to get the ingredients together in the fridge, but what she actually meant was for me to cook.

When she walked into the house, she seemed puzzled. The kitchen was dark and there was nothing in the oven. I told her what I had done, and she seemed very upset. She told me that I was "lazy" and "deliberately missed the point," but I reminded her how bad I am at cooking and noted how much fun she seemed to have in the kitchen. Eventually, I realized that our conversation was going nowhere, so I just ordered delivery from a local Thai restaurant, but the whole experience is still bothering me. I wanted to do her a favor by letting her cook for us, but all it got me was mistreatment from my wife. And the comment about how I'm lazy? I work all day, just like she does. It's absurd to say that she works harder because she goes to an office. I'm just trying to understand why she's so upset, and my only conclusion is that she's really jealous of me. I just wish she could see things from my perspective. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Blabittyblahblahblah on 2023-12-29 23:36:02+00:00.

AITA for usurping a neighbor's unofficial spot in front of my house? He lives across the street in his grandpa's home. It's a big family with many cars. He is usually parked in a space in front of our house, with the back of his car extending slightly over into our nextdoor neighbor's as well. It is unrestricted street parking, totally public, so although I never liked him parking in front of my house, I realize it's perfectly legal. Well, I bought a new car that now rests in our garage and I want to park our old beater of a car in that spot until I sell it. They are a nice family and I wouldn't want relations to sour. My concern is he's been parking there for so many years, he probably feels entitled. AITA if I eject him from this space next time he moves and squat there indefinitely?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Blabittyblahblahblah on 2023-12-29 23:36:02+00:00.

AITA for usurping a neighbor's unofficial spot in front of my house? He lives across the street in his grandpa's home. It's a big family with many cars. He is usually parked in a space in front of our house, with the back of his car extending slightly over into our nextdoor neighbor's as well. It is unrestricted street parking, totally public, so although I never liked him parking in front of my house, I realize it's perfectly legal. Well, I bought a new car that now rests in our garage and I want to park our old beater of a car in that spot until I sell it. They are a nice family and I wouldn't want relations to sour. My concern is he's been parking there for so many years, he probably feels entitled. AITA if I eject him from this space next time he moves and squat there indefinitely?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NoResponsibility04 on 2023-12-29 23:34:31+00:00.

I (20f) come from an Indian family. I got connected with my friend Kat (fake name) while I was in the 11th grade she always had a say in the decision I take good/wrong I didn't realise that she was taking over me at that time. I went through a lot of things ever since my childhood I was into depression and selfh and was emotionally weak and Kat knows about everything and yet she decided to break my trust and ruin things for me.Kat comes from a kinda strict family and doesn't allow her out so much but they have a lot of trust in me and it took me a month time to let them allow her outside for her birthday. I told her that I will be holding a small party for her bday in the evening she suddenly called me by the afternoon and said that she wanted to spend time with her family instead and i was all good about that i didn't mind much.I had her Ig ACC logged in my phone as she feels lazy to change her profile pic or to make post so she makes me do that I was at home doing my assignments suddenly I was bombarded with notifications from her Instagram "Kat bday pics" they created a group with her name and was sharing the pics when I confronted about it she didn't say anything about it later her mum spoke with me and asked me why I was only taking photos of her without me being in there I didn't understand then she said that she used my name to go out with her "old friends" I would have never said anything if she had just told me that she wanted to spend time with them. She never apologized and there are many instances everything was breaking me as the last straw is when she went to my boyfriend let's call him Gary(LDR).Kat went to Gary and said that I behave too close with guys and that she isn't sure about the relationship of me with them while she clearly knew abt it and said the same thing to my family who believed her words instead of mine I was beaten up and bad mouthed. Gary believed Kat's words and left me. At this point I wasn't speaking to Kat while going through all this I came to know that Kat and Gary has started dating and that she is the reason my other best friend left me aswell a few years back and was speaking I'll behind my back ever since we became friends. I was not able to take it anymore and I locked myself in my room for 2 months as everyone left me and I was standing alone and started the get anxiety attacks. Later I got an opportunity to study in a foreign country a stream that I actually like so I applied and got in so I packed my bags and left to continue my life 2 years has went by now Kat is texting me that I am an Asshole for leaving her when she needed me the most and that I broke my trust and was a bitch because at the same time Gary tried to reach me saying that " Can we get back together I never realized how much I love you and how dearly you loved me". And she made some other people to text me the same and now I'm getting anxiety attacks. What should I do? AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NoResponsibility04 on 2023-12-29 23:34:31+00:00.

I (20f) come from an Indian family. I got connected with my friend Kat (fake name) while I was in the 11th grade she always had a say in the decision I take good/wrong I didn't realise that she was taking over me at that time. I went through a lot of things ever since my childhood I was into depression and selfh and was emotionally weak and Kat knows about everything and yet she decided to break my trust and ruin things for me.Kat comes from a kinda strict family and doesn't allow her out so much but they have a lot of trust in me and it took me a month time to let them allow her outside for her birthday. I told her that I will be holding a small party for her bday in the evening she suddenly called me by the afternoon and said that she wanted to spend time with her family instead and i was all good about that i didn't mind much.I had her Ig ACC logged in my phone as she feels lazy to change her profile pic or to make post so she makes me do that I was at home doing my assignments suddenly I was bombarded with notifications from her Instagram "Kat bday pics" they created a group with her name and was sharing the pics when I confronted about it she didn't say anything about it later her mum spoke with me and asked me why I was only taking photos of her without me being in there I didn't understand then she said that she used my name to go out with her "old friends" I would have never said anything if she had just told me that she wanted to spend time with them. She never apologized and there are many instances everything was breaking me as the last straw is when she went to my boyfriend let's call him Gary(LDR).Kat went to Gary and said that I behave too close with guys and that she isn't sure about the relationship of me with them while she clearly knew abt it and said the same thing to my family who believed her words instead of mine I was beaten up and bad mouthed. Gary believed Kat's words and left me. At this point I wasn't speaking to Kat while going through all this I came to know that Kat and Gary has started dating and that she is the reason my other best friend left me aswell a few years back and was speaking I'll behind my back ever since we became friends. I was not able to take it anymore and I locked myself in my room for 2 months as everyone left me and I was standing alone and started the get anxiety attacks. Later I got an opportunity to study in a foreign country a stream that I actually like so I applied and got in so I packed my bags and left to continue my life 2 years has went by now Kat is texting me that I am an Asshole for leaving her when she needed me the most and that I broke my trust and was a bitch because at the same time Gary tried to reach me saying that " Can we get back together I never realized how much I love you and how dearly you loved me". And she made some other people to text me the same and now I'm getting anxiety attacks. What should I do? AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Wettttyfaaap on 2023-12-29 23:33:05+00:00.

I m(29) have a friend f(33) who constantly displays very strange behaviour. It culminated this evening when I tried to return her “cash pouch” (it’s a small pouch that keeps loose cash).

Here’s the scenario, I went to the doctors today because I was feeling very sick. It turns out that I have a lung infection. Everything else is fine they just had to do a bunch of tests and I generally I don’t feel too under the weather.

A few days ago a friend of mine spent a few days and left her cash pouch in my jacket pocket when she wore my jacket to the store. I feel very I uncomfortable keeping friends belongings for too long I just want to avoid any issues with missing items and also it just doesn’t belong to me.

I offered to drop off the cash pouch in the evening on my way to the 24 hour pharmacy, she doesn’t live close but it’s really not a big deal I was on my way out and I had found it that day (she asked me to look for it when I left). I asked her if I should drop it off for her and she asked me why I feel uncomfortable with having peoples things. I told her it makes me uncomfortable. She insisted to pick it up, because I am “sick” I told her I was fine and I’ll be out anyway.

She then gets upset and says that I inconveniencing her and stressing her out by trying to drop it off. I was very confused by her reaction which made me want to drop it off even more. I even gave her option because use she expressed she was getting ready to go out.

Something similar has happened before. She left food at my house and I told her that I can drop off her food, she told me that I can have it but I expressed to her that it’s okay I really don’t want it but she got very upset. Note* the food was not bought specifically for me, it was her food, she stayed over for a bit and went out to buy breakfast. I feel like she intentionally left her food. I know she doesn’t have much money. Her living conditions aren’t great, and generally she struggles with money. I’ve been fortunate to not know how hard money struggles can be, I can only imagine so I thought I was being sympathetic. I never talk about finances or anything around her so I don’t think she’s developed a complex around me regarding that. She constantly leaves items around my house and when I try to give them back (personal items too) she gets upset. So I don’t think it’s just monetary.

Am I the asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Wettttyfaaap on 2023-12-29 23:33:05+00:00.

I m(29) have a friend f(33) who constantly displays very strange behaviour. It culminated this evening when I tried to return her “cash pouch” (it’s a small pouch that keeps loose cash).

Here’s the scenario, I went to the doctors today because I was feeling very sick. It turns out that I have a lung infection. Everything else is fine they just had to do a bunch of tests and I generally I don’t feel too under the weather.

A few days ago a friend of mine spent a few days and left her cash pouch in my jacket pocket when she wore my jacket to the store. I feel very I uncomfortable keeping friends belongings for too long I just want to avoid any issues with missing items and also it just doesn’t belong to me.

I offered to drop off the cash pouch in the evening on my way to the 24 hour pharmacy, she doesn’t live close but it’s really not a big deal I was on my way out and I had found it that day (she asked me to look for it when I left). I asked her if I should drop it off for her and she asked me why I feel uncomfortable with having peoples things. I told her it makes me uncomfortable. She insisted to pick it up, because I am “sick” I told her I was fine and I’ll be out anyway.

She then gets upset and says that I inconveniencing her and stressing her out by trying to drop it off. I was very confused by her reaction which made me want to drop it off even more. I even gave her option because use she expressed she was getting ready to go out.

Something similar has happened before. She left food at my house and I told her that I can drop off her food, she told me that I can have it but I expressed to her that it’s okay I really don’t want it but she got very upset. Note* the food was not bought specifically for me, it was her food, she stayed over for a bit and went out to buy breakfast. I feel like she intentionally left her food. I know she doesn’t have much money. Her living conditions aren’t great, and generally she struggles with money. I’ve been fortunate to not know how hard money struggles can be, I can only imagine so I thought I was being sympathetic. I never talk about finances or anything around her so I don’t think she’s developed a complex around me regarding that. She constantly leaves items around my house and when I try to give them back (personal items too) she gets upset. So I don’t think it’s just monetary.

Am I the asshole?