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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Glum_Sport_5080 on 2025-01-30 23:19:07+00:00.

I’m 30. I learned I’m on the spectrum in the last two years. I realized I’ve masked to keep up with “normal” life my whole existence.

I’m wondering if anybody else feels this way. Like my masking when I’m near other people is one person, and when I’m alone I’m another person. When I’m alone looking at myself in the mirror, I make faces, sounds and say things I would never allow another person to see me doing for fear of looking weird. When I’m alone I will talk out loud about any stupid thought I have. Even the person I’m closest to, I will not allow myself to be weird around her.

It feels like I have some kind of split personality and it annoys me. I’m not fake. I’m as genuine and nice as I can be when interacting with people, I wouldn’t want to be any other way. I am always just coping with the social aspect of any situation and trying to be the best person I can be in those moments. But this idea of being one way around people and another when I’m not just reminds me of people being fake and how autism can come across as rudeness or things like that.

I mask 24/7 even around my mom. I’ve never felt comfortable being my weird self because I learned very long ago that you get weird looks, I learned what other kids and adults say about different people when they go away, or sometimes right to their face.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Informal-Hunt-5548 on 2025-01-31 02:32:32+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Temporary_Bowl526 on 2025-01-31 02:17:26+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Vivid-Tap1710 on 2025-01-31 01:17:18+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Grroll_ on 2025-01-31 00:27:51+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Fancy-Ad5606 on 2025-01-31 00:02:25+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Resident_Meet_7801 on 2025-01-30 21:49:57+00:00.

My 6M son was diagnosed with autism earlier this year. We’ve ALWAYS struggled with eating. He has a VERY narrow list of safe foods and they’re pretty basic. The only protein I can even get him to eat is chicken, solely in nugget form. I have tried supplementing with pediasure and stuff like that, but he refuses to drink it. He got sick recently and I think it literally traumatized him or something because now he won’t even eat his chicken nuggets or any of his other safe foods for that matter. We go to a feeding therapy every week to try to overcome some of his sensory issues, and it has helped a little, but he has literally lost two pounds since being sick this past weekend. I’m worried to death. Yesterday all I could get him to eat was a couple apple slices and a slice or two from a block of cheese. Today all he’s had is a single chicken nugget and some chips. I’m scared of how this is effecting his body, I’m scared of other adults thinking I’m malnourishing him, I just don’t know what to do. Advice is welcome

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/angrybats on 2025-01-30 19:48:36+00:00.

Have you ever went through so much shit from others and been told "Set some boundaries!", "You don't need to have people who harm you in your life" and similar advice?

Well, if I do that, I feel like I would be alone forever. I'm starting to think this might be related to autism, or depression (losing faith in humanity/society) or both, but it's like those boundaries get bigger and bigger, and would make it impossible to still have anyone in my life or meet anyone at all.

E.g. I would feel extremely uncomfortable if someone did X thing next to me, but what if 98% of people do that? Now imagine that's not the only thing that bothers me, there are like 10 other things that bother me SO much, and each one of them is something most people do...

More practical examples (spoiler to prevent strong political bias. Maybe read this AT THE END and see if your opinion on this post changes?): I'm extremely uncomfortable when someone is eating nonvegan, or visiting someone's house with Alexa/similar spying devices because I value my privacy, people having fascist/discriminatory opinions, people defending some random multimillionaire corporation, or unnecesarily consuming unneeded stuff constantly for no reason, people who generalize things just because they are more common like assuming everyone is cis or monogamic or neurotypical... and the list would go on but the point of this post is mentioned OUTSIDE of this spoiler

The worse part is that all of these things are all ethic-related, it's not something I feel like I can negotiate in a friendship. I don't care about your race, gender, orientation, different tastes (I will listen to you talking about your hobbies whatever they are), etc, but I think that I might became too judgy when an ethical/political opinion is the opposite as mine - specially if it affects harming the planet/others/myself, or if it benefits "the bad guys". Or if they don't try to UNDERSTAND and RESPECT my own basic needs (like: don't ask me to do things that I can't do as a disabled person, etc).

And I just described >99.999% of people. I can empathize with others but I'd find it hard to have and maintain REAL friendships with people that don't make me feel bad.

Honestly I don't know anymore.

Edit: While this post is tagged as "Advice needed", feel free to share anything even if it is not exactly advice if you can relate in some way to this "black-or-white" train of thought about other people.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/isgshdhdhsjj on 2025-01-30 19:42:34+00:00.

Does anyone else with autism feel so hypersensitive too everything and just feel immense rage because of the state of the world, that healthcare system and so on.

I feel angry alot and I get depressed because I see nothing good coming from the current world.

I don't see what I bring to the world either, I'm exhausted all the time it feels impossible to leave my room im so sick of hearing the same shit and saying the Same shit all the time to be understood or heard or so on

Im so angry that I'm always in some sort of state of confusion and always trying to understand wtf everyone means all the time.

I hate feeling like a fake, i am putting on a show even tho im slowly unmasking i still feel fake and im so angry.

Wdym u said a joke that i didnt find funny and u wanted me too laugh? Wdym you meant i will be ready in a little bit not exactly in 5mins? Why say give me 5mins then? Its so fucking annoying too me idek.

I just feel so frustrated all the time i cant be asked😭💀

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Useful-Mission-2905 on 2025-01-30 22:06:48+00:00.

Do other people bite themselves when they are angry/upset or is it just me I have autism as been doing it since I was little

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/ktbeb on 2025-01-30 21:29:08+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Visible_Minimum on 2025-01-30 21:23:59+00:00.

I just pulled a thick, wet blanket out of the washer and it rubbed together and it made my teeth hurt. Same thing happens with other fabrics except it makes my ears feel weird or I get a weird feeling in my mouth. Can anyone relate to this??

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Infinite_Sins on 2025-01-30 20:38:31+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/lachlanmachlan on 2025-01-30 19:52:12+00:00.

Finally reached the key adult milestone- moving out of my parents' house. Me and my friend have put down a deposit for a house to share. I will no longer be living in my childhood home in 2 weeks time. I'm so over excited!!

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/tommyoliver5 on 2025-01-30 18:30:16+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/deliciouscookie9 on 2025-01-30 17:38:23+00:00.

Original Title: Me

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/dumbbitchasaurus on 2025-01-30 15:36:18+00:00.

I mean like drinking water, water from the soda machine or bottled. Am i the only one genuinely disliking the taste? Its textured odd on my tongue, it's so bland I literally just dont wanna drink it sometimes. I just wanna know, is this apart of the tism or..?

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Cautious-Spirit-1610 on 2025-01-30 14:30:40+00:00.

Original Title: I always prefer to stock up on selfcare and cleaning supplies in bulk (~1 years worth). My neurotypical friends call it weird, I call it satisfying. Was 33 when I got diagnosed so it makes some sense I guess.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/jimmypower66 on 2025-01-30 13:58:16+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Cr4zy_T4nk on 2025-01-30 13:27:24+00:00.

Like I’m saying stuff like factories and hospitals and also giant cathedrals!! They just fascinate me SO MUCH!, like there is an abandoned ice cream factory in a town nearby and I SOOOOO wanna explore it!! Anywayyyy uh!! Yeah!

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/QuirkyQuokka6789 on 2025-01-30 11:17:36+00:00.

I'm so tired of this stupid comment. I'm severely underemployed. I'm technically an engineer but I work at a laundromat. I don't exactly want to be there but I couldn't get job anywhere else. I lack the work experience and network for it. Thankfully they still hired me, which often wasn't the case, but colleagues keep telling me this and it frustrates me a ton. Yes, I know.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Samslovelyusername on 2025-01-30 14:04:42+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/IlikeMinecraftboi on 2025-01-30 11:25:52+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/KindImpression5651 on 2025-01-30 08:04:07+00:00.

"you mustn't go to bars to hit on people, just go to have fun and people will react positively to it"

I... I don't get it. Which part is supposed to be fun? the uncomfortable-on-purpose stools, the overpriced drinks, the loud noise, watching a sports game on a tv close to the ceiling?

The social aspect? I guess I can't wrap my head around that because I've never witnessed, in my country, people chatting up strangers outside of social events.

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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Grroll_ on 2025-01-30 09:48:29+00:00.