Though I don't think this terminology is used, this article is primarily about heteropessimism and it's effects on relationships from both sides.

We seem to have a consistent problem with folks specifically taking issue with the titles of articles. To a degree I can understand this. Headlines these days can be subject to industry pressures resulting in inflammatory and clickbaity titles (if I understand correctly most headlines are not written by the author of the article but rather by an editor). That said it tends to derail conversation about otherwise useful articles. It is worth noting, however, that here on Lemmy we can edit post titles. In most cases, the quality of the discussion is better served by providing alternative titles and asking the OP to edit their post. If the post is otherwise so egregious that it cannot be saved, you are probably best off reporting it.

In the future posts complaining about the title of the article without regard for the content are likely to be removed under some combination of rules 4 & 5.

EDIT: For clarification because my wording may have been a little confusing. Simply complaining about a headline is generally not allowed, but stating why the headline is problematic is allowed (and productive) if you provide an alternate post title for OP and recenter discussion on the content of the article.

cross-posted from: https://infosec.pub/post/1537875

From the podcast Waving the Red Flag
Ep 139: Eddy and Josh chop it up with FD Signifier to talk

Timestamps from description:
0:00 Preview
2:36 mindful Black fatherhood as a signifier of masculinity
8:34 the opposite of toxic masculinity
13:00 the trouble with breaking generational curses
18:12 "you have to forgive them, they're family"
29:35 getting past the "niggas ain't shit" discourse
37:51 men's sexual pleasure
40:22 decolonizing Black men's sexuality
53:07 urethral sounding
57:55 is kissing more intimate than head?

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I watched a video today talking about common talking points concerning how „the left has failed men“

I would argue F.D argues that while this is often cited as a critique on how „the Left“ is losing young men to right grifters like Tate, Peterson, etc.

He eventually argues that these misogynistic forces are not new and have only been thriving because of economic problems (capitalism yaaay) faced in the present.

As I really like this community I thought I give it a shot to post something. If I should try to give a broader summary of the video please feel free to tell me.

Thanks for reading :)

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.”

That bell hooks quote was the one that made me realize that feminism wasn’t just about bringing women into equality with men, but about protecting everyone from the violence of patriarchy.

Does anybody have any studies that look at male loneliness and pets? I know from personal experience that a pet can be the difference between falling into a depressive spiral and not.

I don't know what I would do without my cats, they are wonderful companions, very sweet and they seem to sense when I'm feeling down and come to cuddle with me or ask me to play.

Have any other folks here had similar experiences they'd like to share?

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/2911882

For some women in China, "Barbie" is more than just a movie — it's also a litmus test for their partner's views on feminism and patriarchy.

The movie has prompted intense social media discussion online, media outlets Sixth Tone and the China Project reported this week, prompting women to discuss their own dating experiences.

One user on the Chinese social media platform Xiaohongshu — a photo-sharing site similar to Instagram that's mostly used by Gen Z women — even shared a guide on Monday for how women can test their boyfriends based on their reaction to the film.

According to the guide, if a man shows hatred for "Barbie" and slams female directors after they leave the theatre, then this man is "stingy" and a "toxic chauvinist," according to Insider's translation of the post. Conversely, if a man understands even half of the movie's themes, "then he is likely a normal guy with normal values and stable emotions," the user wrote.

Please feel free to break off any of these videos into their own thread.

This is an older article but we love to see a supportive dad.