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A lot of people say the same things about trans folks in terms of gay rights. Some people might be fucking around, but drawing a line in the sand like that is going to inevitably invalidate people with legitimate identities. And if you really don't want to use them, it's super easy to just ignore. Idk if I've ever even had to refer to someone with third person pronouns on Lemmy.
All concepts are just lines in the sand, even down into STEM. Lines have to be drawn somewhere. The question is whether the new line drawn or erased disrupts other lines, who it benefits, and what it's worth. I happen to have a very low opinion of the idea that gender is entirely arbitrary and without any line in the sand, and that "I identify as an attack helicopter" is not a conservative defamation of the trans and NB community, but a legitimate point of view.
The commenter was removed and banned for disagreeing with the concept that dragonfucker is a gender. On the meta comm for the instance. Under a post by the main admin.
Dragonfucker has been banned from a number of communities for insisting on just that.
the human brain is good enough of a prediction machine to not need a clean linear line in the sand imo, I'd like to believe that our judgement ability is closer to a support vector machine than a simple one dimensional 'greater than' statement
e.g. you'd know if someone was actually identifying as an attack helicopter as opposed to trolling by saying so, right? maybe it's just a phase for them but people have phases (imo) because they need to probe and gather first hand experience to learn
IRL maybe, but the issue here is that (at least from what I've observed) dragonfucker can be pretty confrontational, as if seeking a fight. It's obnoxious behavior and generally I roll my eyes and move along. I do think identifying as a "dragonfucker" for gender is hard to take as anything other than a long-running troll job, particularly because 1) dragons aren't real and even if they were, 2) "dragonfucker" is surely a hobby or job description, not a gender. Most reasonable people would find this ludicrous at first glance, and have their opinion confirmed by this user's strident tone and eagerness to take offense. It seems really unlikely that this person sincerely identifies as a dragonfucker (and honestly I can't even believe we're having this debate).
I really try to be balanced and understanding, but this user in particular seems to seek negative attention. Which is fine I guess, but I feel bad for anyone who falls into that trap.
Exactly, well said. And all it does is make a mockery of people experiencing real issues with gender uncertainty/fluidity.
As I recall, drag has said that "dragonfucker" is not drag's gender identity. It's just a username
I thought the post was about neopronouns in general. Didn't know the drag example was the main concern and thought it was just an exaggerated example.
You don't get to decide what is and isn't a legitimate identity :)
Well you are certainly dragging your self.
Even if we take the person pug is talking about at face value (which, frankly, we shouldn't for them in particular), it's not a gender identity. It's just an identity. We don't have a pronoun for every granular identity under the sun, so it's weird we accept that some people feel the need to have totally unique ones, which goes against the point of pronouns to begin with.
That said, being referred to in the third person would actually be fine imo, but I've been primed for that by being a weeb.