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I am putting this up on behalf of someone else (I was asked so nobody would get in trouble for bumping while this thread is pinned). This is going to get thread-gamey. Here is how this works. Each person will comment with a feeling. You can go as intricate as you'd like in terms of details, and see if anyone relates. People who relate must reply "+1" to the initial comment, and maybe detail it even more from their perspective or try to explain the feeling for example. Those who don't relate must reply with "-1".

You can look in the replies for examples. There's another thread on another site that serves as the inspiration to this as well, if that helps to provide a basis for how this works.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Finding that the kingdoms of heaven and hell are within me. Knowing that working with my "demons" can make them my holy guardian angels and neglecting attention to the guardian angels cause them to become more ferocious demons than they were before.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

A strong yearning for a place you can't quite describe that is full of discoveries and beauty. Like Wanderlust.

The desire of being free of desire.

Riding fast on your bike in a rainstorm while listening to high energy and/or emotional music.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

+1 also it's a crime that I can't just start driving and never stop for the rest of my life and see what places exist forever

[–] [email protected] 3 points 15 hours ago (4 children)

Being able to feel and taste other people's art.

The best way I can describe it is like, if someone has a smooth artstyle with soft highlights and there's a lot of cyan/turquoise in that art, it'll tend to have a soft, minty texture. Even JPEG artifacts have a particular "seasoning" to me. I feel weird having to even type this LMAO

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

I envy you, but -1

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 hours ago

Synesthesia!

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Hardcore -1

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

+1

ADHD as a kid, only treated for a few months.

Got kicked out and shuffled around in my early teens, spiraled until I was in my early 20's.

Military until I couldn't take it anymore, I think the 24/7 activity and walking a narrow line helped the ADHD but got tired of getting threatened with jail for being forced to do things that were not legal.

Forced myself out of the military (long story but they let me do it because my 1SG was the cause of the above statement and he was force retired immediately after I got out) lived overseas for a while, watched as my home (the states) slowly started going crazy, started spiraling again and dreading moving back, moved back to the states cause I couldn't make it work anymore, visa ran out and I didn't have the energy to try to figure it out.

Two weeks after moving back, got a job (somehow), got therapy through the VA and am now properly treating my issues. Constantly dreading the near future even moreso with clarity now. Yay.

That's the short version lol.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 12 hours ago

+1 - work is hard. Relationship is hard. Friends are hard. Kitten is hard.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 17 hours ago

+1 mentally and physically

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Feeling nostalgic for a time period you never lived through.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago

+1 but not a time period per se just knowing things were better before now.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago

-1

Can't say I do, but I know people who are though!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Pacing around aimlessly because you feel like you should be doing something, but you have no idea what.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago

+1 I just do laps through the house when I remember and then forget what I was doing.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

+1 and you feel that you are forgetting something important, but you can't remember and the deadline of said something keeps getting closer

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

+1 and you take a nap because it's the only way to make it all go away for a while.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (3 children)

The dread ~1 hour before a social event you agreed to and wanting to not go even if you know you’ll have fun once you’re there.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 12 hours ago

Both +1 and -1 because I used to be bad about this, but now my loneliness has become more agonizing than my introverted behavior.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Paranoia that you will be accused of something you didn’t do, so you arrange your actions around it to avoid being suspicious, only to fear that will make you suspicious anyway.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

+1

Specifically this refers to my art, I've had people accuse me of using AI before, even though I make the effort to include receipts whenever I can which prove that I made all of my art.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 17 hours ago

+1 spending my youth on Tumblr made me exhausting to talk to because I started adding 1000 disclaimers to everything I say so I wouldn't be accused of random unrelated thought crimes

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+1 me everytime I make eye contact with the door person at the grocery store

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (8 children)

Not particularly liking a piece of music but being addicted to it anyways.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

It's the beat.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago

-1

If I'm addicted to a particular song, it always means I'm super into it!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 12 hours ago

+1 I’m a gummy bear yes I’m a gummy bear

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

+1 (You can thank years of radio usage for that)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 23 hours ago

+1 In general I don't like pop music, of any era, but sometimes a single song will stick in my head and will find itself on my playlist anyway.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Sorry to double post, but are there any other people with hyperthymia here?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

A feeling when you have conquered Alexithymia and every feeling feels new and exiting to discover.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 17 hours ago

Not sure if +1 or -1, because technically I relate, but it's been about 15 years. Nowadays I find new feelings embarrassing and exhausting. Another thing I have to bury so people offline won't find me annoying.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 hours ago

-1 as that was how I felt couple of years ago but the exitment wore off. I sadly no longer feel that way but that time was great. (I have one more feeling to discover for 100% completion rate)

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Writing something before falling asleep midway through it, only to awaken shortly afterwards, and then feeling like you don't understand how to grasp the rest of what you're trying to write in order to finish it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

+1 (Happens even when I walk away from something though)

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