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We had hot tea as a unity thing for the two of us, but he said it was a Chinese tea ceremony which is where the bride and groom serve tea to their families.

Best: can I say my own? Everything was tailored to my tastes so I had a pretty good time. It was summer but we had the ceremony and reception in the same place (indoors with AC), the catering was provided by the owner who was a professional chef, DJ did both live and recorded music, sparkler send-off at the end, had a nice little bridal room downstairs to get ready and keep stuff safe. The only thing I would change was the officiant. He was an old family friend but made everything too Jesus-y, mixed up light year as a unit of time in front of a several meteorologists and nasa scientists, and claimed that something we did was a Chinese tradition despite us explicitly telling him it was not and neither of us having a bit of Chinese heritage.

Worst: overall it has to be my brother’s last year. So first, my grandma had a stroke like two days before and was taken off life support during the rehearsal dinner. The officiant forgot his notes and spend most of his speech talking about how marriage is hard and you might want to get a divorce but you shouldn’t. And the speeches from the best man and maid of honor were cringy and naive (to be fair they were all like 19-21 years old).
Runner-up to my best friend who got married in a non-air-conditioned barn on a humid July day.

I call my mom “mom”, but now that I have a kid I use her grandma name more frequently. Honestly it’s a little easier to call her that, I have some unresolved stuff and while we’re friendly the mom term is a little much. My daughter calls me “mommy”, but usually doesn’t enunciate so it’s “mah-ee” most of the time.

Swap one of the Cinderellas with this. Sexism that spans decades!

When we moved we cleared out our closet of tech boxes. Found a few accessories and whatnot still in there. Consolidated down to just a few boxes to hold accessories and documentation. Now we’re slowly building the collection again, but we’re better than before. (Mostly because having a kid cut our disposable income quite considerably).

I read How to Raise Children Who Aren’t Assholes by her. It was a decent read. I’ll probably pick this up but I feel like so many books just regurgitate the same info

I moved out at 18 and graduated college with a bachelors degree in 2.5 years. It’s a period in my life I’m glad I’ll never have to go back to, I worked multiple jobs and took way too many credits each semester and through the summers. But a lot of family members didn’t think I would be able to make it on my own.

I don’t think we need parenting specific weekly threads or anything. But people can post things as they’re relevant to them. I’ll admit that I only check my subscribed communities every week or so, I’m not always the best for responding/posting. I wish the fediverse was better in general for pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and etc. but it’s just too small and male-driven. Reddit was super helpful to me during that period of my life, but I wouldn’t go there for advice anymore.

I have a literature.cafe from even before my lemm.ee account, but it doesn’t federate with piefed (at least in any way that I’ve noticed). Several communities I follow switched to piefed so I wasn’t able to see or follow them with literature.cafe

Father’s Day was pretty low key due to not great weather. I took the toddler and the dogs downstairs and let my husband sleep a little. We went to a local animal rehabilitation/zoo place in the afternoon. Nothing fancy but a fun day.