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Why would it be immoral? Some people aren't actually going to divorce because it's a major pain. I'm separated myself. My soon to be ex-husband has already found a girlfriend and I have no issue with it other than a bit of jealousy that he found love again that quickly while I have nothing. It really just depends on your morals I guess, but in my opinion, there's nothing wrong with it.

My current experience dating as a trans woman in c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm attracted to men and my type is usually straight so my chances of finding someone who would want me as a trans man is already slim.

My current experience dating as a trans woman in c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (7 children)

This is why I've personally dropped it. I can't do HRT, bottom surgery is out, political trouble isn't worth it, and I've already been turned down just for using the pronouns he/him. To add, I am in fact a bottom and straight. That little bit of self love doesn't really feel worth it in my case.

First date restored my faith in humanity in c/[email protected]

[–] [email protected] 35 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm glad to see it's possible. I'm just getting out of a 17 year relationship that started before I discovered I was trans and that part of it is scary. I hope I can find that kind of love again.

Never a dull moment when you blow it nearly every conversation you make. in c/[email protected]

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

A vicious cycle

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Can't Afford Top Surgery (fedia.io)

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I have been working towards losing enough weight to get my top surgery from a specific surgeon with many years of experience with it. I have successfully lost the weight, but now I'm at a point where I can't afford to get it. It costs about $8700 for it and that's without complications or revisions. Top surgery for me doesn't just mean gender affirmation. It means having an easier time breathing and reduced back pain. I desperately want this. So much so that it feels like a need. I just don't know what to do to get that much money with everything I already have to work for.

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New To Being Trans W/ A Few Questions (fedia.io)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hi, I'm Zeke. I'm 32 and last year I finally came to the conclusion that I am transmasc after years of being unhappy with who I was and how I looked. I've done so much research into it, but I'm still left with questions. First off, I should say that I have opted not to do HRT. HRT has too many health risks that I can't take due to heart related issues that run in my family. It's not worth that risk to me. So I'm trying a different route.

I've decided to go the route of surgery w/ changes to how I dress and how I get my hair cut. I've lost about 18.6lbs out of 25lbs to get my top surgery and so far it has been really good for me health wise and affirming wise. I'm so close to the first step and I can't wait for the positive effects especially since my bust size causes physical discomfort and shortness of breath so it's a two in one benefit. My questions for this one is "Does silicone gel work better than lotion for scars?" and "Are you comfortable being topless for swimming/beach visits?"

Now here's where I most uncomfortable because I've heard of people being negative about it, but I plan to get vocal surgery to deepen my voice. Here's where my questions come in. Has anyone else gotten this surgery? If so, what's it like and what were your experiences with recovery? How different has it made your voice?

I just wonder if others have chosen the surgical route. I don't have anyone or anywhere else to ask these questions so I figured I'd drop them here. Thank you for any answers!