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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/missdeb99912 on 2024-01-19 03:11:34+00:00.

Close friend of mine (40f) who lives across the country asked me (37f) to go on a short, 5-day vacation. Awesome, I love this stuff and planning this stuff — all outdoorsy stuff like hiking and possibly camping. We got flights, discussed possibly renting an RV, etc. Then, without consulting with me, she invited someone I don’t know (48f) to join us. She said she’s “outdoorsy” — now, we have to get a bigger place to stay, aren’t doing the RV, and have to accommodate three people’s preferences instead of two. Okay. Whatever, I thought - I didn’t say anything. Then, without consulting me, she invited another friend (42f) to join … I know this friend barely.

I am a little annoyed now because we are going to have to coordinate four peoples preferences for the whole vacation. She didn’t even ask if I minded at all … she’s just inviting everyone. I would have asked one of our other mutual friends had I known it was turning into this whole thing. I also know that, as a group, we’ll be slow to get started every morning … that it will be sort of a pain.

WIBTA if I back out of the trip? Does anyone need more detail?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Fast-Birthday8458 on 2024-01-19 03:09:22+00:00.

My partner's cousin recently passed away. On our video calls, he seemed okay despite the tough time. So, with our wedding on the horizon, I casually brought up his financial plans. Weirdly, he got defensive, claiming I put him on the spot, and just ended the call out of the blue.

Feeling hurt but holding back, I distanced myself. Next day, he accused me of crossing a line during his grief. Confused, I explained I hadn't said anything and didn't even know he was close to grieve. I shared how I felt about his abrupt reaction.

He argued he couldn't express his feelings and needs understanding during his grief. Suddenly, he's giving me this ultimatum, like I have to get it or leave him alone. Accused me of being unreasonable somehow.

When I called out the unfairness and see it from my pov, he snapped, saying he doesn't owe me any understanding right now and that I'm being too demanding. His "sorry if I seemed rude" felt sarcastic. Even though I'm trying to give him space, he just doesn't get that I can't read his mind.

I'm stuck wondering if I messed up somehow. Not looking for a definite answer, just trying to figure out.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Electrical-West9811 on 2024-01-19 03:04:15+00:00.

Guys I need help. I 22 Female, have been with this company for 8 years. I started as a young lad and worked my way up to management. The company I started with sold during covid as it was a family owned business. Now it is owned by a worldwide corporation. Long story short I used to work for their Hotel on property. Today I got called into the HR offices where they told there is no operational need for my job so the position is terminated. They also mentioned I have had no “professional growth” since my end of year meeting (that took place less than a week ago). Things leading up to this that made me believe it might happen is corporate letting our operations manager along with many others in offices or other properties. additionally they have closed us now (a hotel that’s usually 365) 4 days out of the week to save on “operational and labor costs.” The company in general has lost or let go of a lot of people, it’s still just a shock when it happens to you. I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do. I’ve never been unemployed before. I want to talk about it with my boyfriend 25 Male but he just left today on a plane to Vegas … which is half way across the country from me. I don’t want to ruin his trip or seem like an asshole. I’m also in the middle of trying to process everything that has happened today. I’ve gotten conflicted responses from my friends whether or not I should tell him yet. Any advice is appreciated. Would you tell him over text / phone call or is it better to wait until he is back in person in 5 days?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/AlphaCount9 on 2024-01-19 03:04:02+00:00.

In my household, we have a rule where if one of your grades are less than a C, you aren’t allowed to watch TV, be on your phone, play video games, or do anything electronic. My (18) brother (who is 15) currently has a C- and can’t be in a room when someone is playing games or watching a movie or whatever. We have a PS5 where I like to play COD and the only place I can play it in in our bonus room. My brother has gotten mad at me multiple times and has groaned or made mean remarks to me when I try to play my game. It’s not like I’m in it all the time nor is there any reason for him to be in there since it’s technically our game room. Just a few minutes ago, he complained again saying “Thanks for KICKING me out” when he wasn’t doing anything. I’ve never told him to leave or anything like that, I just came in to play my game. I’m either a terrible person or he’s not actually mad at me but at the situation. So I wanted to just ask and see, am I the asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Lohing on 2024-01-19 03:02:06+00:00.

Hey all, I (24m) was in a supermarket today going through self service, they have a new rule where people have to scan heavy items first as they have problems with thievery, completely fair enough.

While i was scanning my items, the self service attendant (middle age woman) began to gossip to her colleague (another middle age woman) about people ignoring the new rules, and how they werent sure if the customers were stupid or trying to steal. After they went on for a while, i stopped one of them and said that if she was going to talk shit about previous customers, to not do it in front of existing customers. She immediately denied it, and when i replied with "well, you did" she got very defensive.

I finished scanning my items, and went to leave, and her colleague began gossiping about me, before i had even left the checkout. I turned and gave them a sort of "are you serious?" Hand gesture.

Am i over-reacting?? I totally get that people are gonna gossip but to do this in front of customers is a bit much.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Late_Independent_207 on 2024-01-19 02:56:08+00:00.

Help should my boyfriend tell me if I can’t be friends with some one? AITA

I (22f) I have a guy friend who I would never sleep with in a million years let’s call him jo. Jo and I have been friends for two years. my boyfriend (25m) and my self have been together for 5 years. We all three play Xbox together I have never been interested in Jo never will be. My boyfriend (we’ll call him Evan) says that jo flirts with me ( I haven’t noticed this) and says if I want to be friend with jo I have to leave him. I told him that he shouldn’t be able to tell me who I can be friends with. To be clear I have never flirted with jo or ever insinuated that there could ever be a relationship cause there won’t be. Am I right? What do I do? AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NoYellow3210 on 2024-01-19 02:55:08+00:00.

My fiance (M38) and I (F30) got engaged in November, back then there was not like a proposal or something like that, just a conversation between two adults that agreed to get married.

We shared this news with anybody important in our life, we didn't keep it a secret or anything, we just didn't make it public in Social media. I asked my BFF (F29) to be my MOH and she was honored, I was also her MOH because she is getting married in valentine's day.

Now, last weekend my fiance and I went to a beach resort to celebrate our anniversary and he surprised me with the ring and a grand proposal (even thought we were already engaged).

I posted the pictures of the proposal in my social media, and now my BFF is upset because I announced my engagement a month before her wedding.

I was unaware I had done something wrong so I asked why is this a problem and she said it takes the attention away from her wedding, and now it will not be special anymore since the attention will be on my engagement.

She said I should've waited until after her wedding to announce the engagement.

I don't see it that way. It's not like I got engaged at her wedding. Anybody important in my life already knew about the engagmeent since November. In my BFF's wedding guests list, people either don't know me so they won't care about my engagemetn, or already knew about my engagement since Nov(like mutual friends), or know me and just found out about my engagemetn but there is no way it overshadows my best friend's wedding as she is way more important to them than I am (her parents, siblings, etc).

The way my friends sees it, I should've waited until after her wedding to announce my engagement. She is really upset and she demoted me from being MOH. I don't feel like I did anything wrong. Reddit, AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Haunting_Status_5194 on 2024-01-19 02:54:11+00:00.

My(24m) dad, step mom, step brother(25m) his girlfriend(25f) and step sister(19f) went on a trip. We booked 2 hotel rooms. My dad, step mom and step sister shared one and my step brother, his girlfriend and I shared one (there were 2 beds per room). When we got there, the three of us decided I would get the bed by the door and my step brother and his girlfriend would get the bed by the bathroom. All 6 of us were at the hotel bar (the legal age is 19 where we are) and I eventually decided to call it a night. My step brother was sloshed and my dad asked me to take him back to the room. I did and he pretty much layed on my bed and passed out. There were 2 beds, he was out like a light and I didn't feel like trying to wake him up so I just decided to use the other bed. I changed, crawled into bed then fell asleep.

I woke up to my step brother screaming and his girlfriend sitting on my bed. I asked what happened and my step brother kept screaming about his girlfriend cheating on him with me. His girlfriend tried explaining her side but he kept screaming over her. There were knocks at the door and my step brother let my dad and step mom in before calming down a bit. Apparently he woke up, saw his girlfriend and I in the same bed and thought we were cheating. His girlfriend explained that it was dark when she came in the room and she didn't want to turn on the light and disturb us so she went to the bed she thought he was in. I explained my side (he passed out on my bed so I just slept in the other) but he was still convinced she cheated with me. My step mom started to lay into me, apparently she thought I did it because I was shirtless. I always sleep shirtless and I said that but she again, didn't believe me.

Anyway, my step brother refused to be in the same room with either his girlfriend or I, so we ended up cutting the trip short. My step sisters blaming me for the trip ending so abruptly. She said I should have just woken him up. My step brother and step mom aren't talking to me. My dads trying to play peacekeeper.

AITA for not waking my step brother up?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/69DrXena on 2024-01-19 02:49:16+00:00.

My brother invited me and a bunch of other family and close family friends over for dinner. This was the first time all of us were getting together in probably 10 years so I was really looking forward to it. My brother said he was cooking us all dinner and he's never done that before so I was looking forward to that as well. Unfortunately, he decided to serve up medium rare chicken. To my amazement, nobody else saw an issue with this and started eating that disgusting chicken. When I refused, they all said I was making a scene and tried making me eat it, saying I was acting like a child, and that its not right to dislike something without trying it, etc etc, so I decided to leave. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Jinxed_Magic8balls on 2024-01-19 02:44:57+00:00.

I (14F) am turning 15 in about two weeks and i called my sister (23F) yesterday to vent to her about our mother.

to give some context my sister moved out at 19 with her boyfriend (now husband) to get away from our mother and is now living in a different state and i am planning to do the same when i turn 18.

this past week me and my mother have been arguing over my birthday thats in a few weeks and my social life, she has been saying that i am to the age where i no longer need a birthday celebration which i let her think, but my boyfriend (14M) disagrees and he has planned me an entire birthday celebration for this saturday. when i informed my mother of this she got angry and basically made a comment to my brother saying “your sister wont be going or doing anything if i have anything to say about it.”

when i heard this comment i called my sister and we started talking about all this, and much, much more concerning our mother. which ended in my sister asking if she can talk to our mother for me to which i said yes as long as she acts like she’s just asking what our mother is doing for my birthday.

this morning my mother told our family that i “tattled on her” to my sister and that we are going to have a very long conversation about how what she says goes and how i am an entitled child.

at first i thought i was in the right but when i talked to the rest of my family they said i should have just went with what my mom was saying, just kept my head down, shut up and that i was acting like a child.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ussygussymyp on 2024-01-19 02:41:52+00:00.

The title is slightly exaggerated…

I am torn here about what to do. Long story short, my fiancé (M,27) and I (F,27) moved into our first home about 8 months and it’s been mostly great. Since then I have put A LOT of effort into styling and decorating the house (like 99% of the effort). He is a stereotypical straight man in his 20s in the sense that the house would probably have little to no decor if he lived alone simply because decor is not an interest of his or a priority. It means a lot to me to have a space I feel good in and proud of. I feel like it’s important to note that he often says how nice the house looks and whenever our friends come over we receive lots of compliments which makes us feel proud and blessed.

This past fall, my fiancé went hunting and shot his first ever moose, and this thing was huge! With that being said, his dad has put the antlers on a plaque for him as a sort of trophy.

My fiancé is wanting to put this plaque on top of the fireplace in our living room. It’s important to note that our home is not huge, and these antlers are huge. They would be seen all of the time from all of the main living areas of the house (front entrance, living room, kitchen, dining room, back entrance, etc).

I’m proud of him and feel bad about shutting down this idea, but at the same time I put so much thought and effort into the look of our home and I know it would drive me nuts to have to look at it every single day.

My compromise was to put it in the basement, which he’s not at all thrilled about and is pretty upset with me for not being on board. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/unknown__usser88 on 2024-01-19 02:40:57+00:00.

I (23)f have been dating my bf (26)m for about 4 years now, We've been living together for almost 3 years. Since I moved in with him, I notice how he would always leave his mess around. He would cut his toe nails in the tub but not wash them away after or he would shave but leave the sink as is. I asked him about it several times and he said that he would clean it next time. The first few times, he would clean it but would give snarky comments like "there I cleaned it so you wont get mad". I pay no mind to it because at least he cleaned after himself, but the thing is, he would only do it for the next few days and go back to square one.

It frustrated me for a while but I just didn't say anything, I just thought," men". I would talk to him again about it and it would just be a cycle. Its exhausting.

Last night, I asked him if he can clean up after he used our extension outlets and just put it back to where its usually stored. Well it didn't end in a good conversation, he got upset and ask me why I can't do it for him, at least to make him feel special. You see I'm currently finishing my school while he works and pays for stuff for the both of us, while I do the house chores just to make the situation even.

He was really upset last night and asked me why I can't just do it for him because he's already working for the both of us, and just make him feel special at least. I don't know why he had that thought, when I've always taken care of him. Bring him his food, cleaned after him, he doesn't even have to worry about what he's going to eat because I take care of him, I dont even ask him to change the trash for me cuz I do it myself while he just play his games with his co workers every night. He said that he buys me everything that I want, but thats not the case as well. I worked part time still because we have this deal that he'll pay for utility bills but I handle my own bills and my wants to which I said sure because it just seemed fair.

He said it offended him that I even have the thought of making him pick up after himself, he said its my job as his gf to do that and I shouldn't complain about it because its a way to make him feel special. But I just feel like he's treating me like his nanny at this point.

So am I the asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Jaded_Pineapple_3559 on 2024-01-19 01:22:33+00:00.

So my sister, (19 f) asked if she could buy and install lethal company on my gaming laptop and play it. Of course, I said yes, because quite frankly I don’t mind. But it’s gotten to the point where she uses it just about every second of every day. I’m worried about her running down the GPU and essentially burning it out from using it so much. It’s at the point I have to ask for my laptop back if I want to use it. so, AITA if I ask her to not use it so much?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sea-Surprise5348 on 2024-01-19 01:17:58+00:00.

My sister moved houses last week. We both are married with young children and I live 30 min away. I let her know to tell me if she needed any help. She asked for help with my niece a few of the days while she packed and I was available for two of them. She declined help for one of those days and told me my niece would just stay at school later that day.

Their move day was on a Friday, and she told me the movers would come then. I assumed since they had movers that day they wouldn’t need extra help. My last text interaction was to “let her know if anything changes” with needing help with my niece since when she declined my help. I had work Friday and went out for dinner with my family and some other friends after work. Those friends ended up coming to our house afterwards to play some games.

My sister apparently got wind of my plans and is now accusing me of having a party instead of helping out with the move. I’m taken aback because I asked several times how I could help and she didn’t explicitly state that she needed help the day the movers would be there. I also was working until 5 so would have only been available to help in the evening anyway. I’m also not sure how my kids would have fared with all the chaos even if we did show up in the evening, and there was no offer to get takeout for dinner if we helped them etc. She is now giving me the cold shoulder. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/iloveyoustellarose on 2024-01-19 01:15:33+00:00.

So I was in the back throwing out trash and I saw this old lady with the samples cart standing in front of the bathroom door, other workers were also standing around. Suddenly the door swings open and the door handle nails this lady square in the back. She cries out in pain, it looked like it hurt. The guy looks around said "Not my fault, I don't care, not my fault" and walked away. No one said anything.

This lady limped into the bathroom and I could tell she was hurt, but not how badly. I felt really disturbed seeing this. After a while, I decided I should report this to a manager and I do so, she also seemed very surprised and concerned about the situation. She asked if he apologized at all and I said no and reported word for word what I heard him say (which I quoted earlier). She said she would speak with another manager about it as well and thanked me for reporting it. I knew the guy who did it's name but not the lady's.

I'm wondering if that was the right move or if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill? So, Sam's club reddit, (I work at Sam's, this is where it occured) AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ViolinHater on 2024-01-19 01:14:55+00:00.

My parents recently put down the rule "No dinner until 1.5 hours of violin practice is completed" since they realised I (16F) rarely ever practiced violin and if I did, it would be only for 30 minutes. I absolutely HATE playing the violin. Last time I asked them if I could stop playing the violin, they said they'd ground me for a year but they kept extending it past 3 years. People have recomended I try playing songs I like and I tried, but then I ended up hating the songs. I'm not a lazy person in general, I'm quite good academically and physically.

Around a week ago, I outright refused to practice violin and skipped dinners. My parents never thought that I'd choose that option and are extremely mad. They've taken away more things recently, such as books, art supplies (one of my hobbies), soft toys (I'm still very attached to them), breakfast (not that I ever ate it), clothing besides 1 basic outfit and my school uniform, etc.

I'm still refusing to play the violin. I've spoken to my friends about this and they just told me to give into their demands.

AITA for refusing to play the violin?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sponge_Throwaway9637 on 2024-01-19 01:11:38+00:00.

My (29F) sister Ann (30F) has always been the “golden child” in our family. Our parents always went to her cheer competitions but didn’t care that I was a straight A/B student. After HS Ann met my now-BIL and had my niece (7F).

Ann gives my niece everything she wants. IMO this has turned my niece into a bratty mean girl. She throws a tantrum if she doesn’t get what she wants and they always give in. Ann makes passive aggressive comments about how I don’t have a husband and my niece has started imitating her.

Every year our friend “Joe” hosts a Halloween party. The party is for adults but Ann always wants to bring my niece and do a “family costume”. No one says anything because she is so sensitive. The worst part is she always wants to include me in the costume but picks costumes that make me look bad. I think Ann is jealous that she used to be the pretty one but she gained some weight after having my niece. One year they were Scooby Doo characters and they made me dress up as the miner 49er. You get the idea.

Last September and they were talking about SpongeBob Halloween costumes (niece is a big fan). My niece said “auntie should be Squidward because she is so skinny and grumpy!” They all laughed and agreed that my niece would be SpongeBob, Ann would be Sandy Cheeks, my BIL Patrick and I would be Squidward.

I came up with a plan. I said it was a great idea and acted happy when Ann dropped off my costume. It was this green onesie she sewed and my BIL’s tan polo shirt (he's a big guy so it was v unflattering). Meanwhile her Sandy costume was a skintight white bodysuit and squirrel ears.

Secretly I prepared my own costume. I got a white crop top, brown booty shorts, thigh highs and high heel Mary Janes. I did my makeup to incorporate the SpongeBob color (yellow). As a cheeky joke I drew a heart “tattoo” on my arm and in the heart it said “Spongeboob”.

Well the day arrived and I showed up at the party in my costume. My niece started screaming and crying that I was wearing the same costume as her. Ann screamed I was traumatizing my niece by “stealing her costume”. I said SpongeBob is not her intellectual property so they stormed out.

After they left my costume was a big hit. Lots of people complimented me on how creative and funny it was. I normally don’t dress “sexy” but I admit it felt good!

The next morning I woke up and had missed calls from my parents and our family friend Kevin, yelling how dare I upstage my niece. I calmly explained that Ann needed a taste of her own medicine and my niece needed a reality check so she won’t become a spoiled narcissist.

Things calmed down but Ann still won't talk to me (not that I mind LOL). She’s been posting on Facebook about traitors and Benedict Arnold. Last week she posted a picture of my niece at Disney World on Facebook with the caption “if anyone hurts my sweet baby they can catch these hands”. Her post got a lot of likes and now I’m wondering, AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/kaiokrani on 2024-01-19 01:11:34+00:00.

Picture this: I'm a college student living in a 5x5 house with 4 other girls, all in our early 20s, juggling full-time school and the madness that is adulthood. I'm not just hitting the books; I'm also working a full-time job, taking 21 credit hours, and a TA, totaling a whopping 76 hours of work each week. I'm the only person in the household pulling such a "hectic" schedule.

But wait, there's more. While I'm practically working two full-time jobs, I'm also the designated cleaning fairy. I'm the only one sweeping, mopping, and doing the dishes. My roommates? They just leave their dishes in a precarious tower by the sink and ignore the whole cleaning thing. One of them has a cat, and the litter box is conveniently placed downstairs and not in her bathroom, ensuring a delightful trail of litter throughout the house. Who's stuck dealing with that mess? You guessed it – yours truly.

I tried the noble path, attempted to reclaim my sanity by ditching the cleaning duties, but the house turned into a pigsty faster than you can say "lazy roommates." Dishes piled up, the floor transformed into a hazard zone, and my own kitchen became a no-go zone. Cue the frustration.

I've pitched ideas, proposed majority rule, handed out little chore charts (which gave most of the work to me still) like candy, but it's all fallen on deaf ears. Roommate meetings? A joke. Promises made, promises broken. "We're busy," they say. Yeah, I'm busy too, but I still manage to scrub the damn floors and do the dishes.

I come home from work at 1 AM, exhausted, irritated, and hoping for a peaceful meal. Instead, I'm thrust into a drama of cleaning – dishes towering, the floor a hazardous maze. It's a cruel encore, repeated every night. The exhaustion is real, and I'm trapped in a Shakespearean tragedy of cleaning, night after night.

This weekend, I took a brief escape, leaving the house in spotless cleanliness. With the luxury of an extended MLK Jr. weekend—no classes, no work—I naively hoped for a nice, clean house upon my return on Tuesday. But oh, god forbid people clean up after themselves! A scene of utter devastation: floors transformed into sticky swamps, a towering monument of dirty dishes by the sink.And then, today, after enduring an long, miserable school day from 8 AM to 4:45 PM, I walked into our home only to be confronted by the aftermath of, yet again dishes staging a hostile takeover, the floor a chaotic battlefield. I was pissed beyond belief.

In my 45 mins of cleaning the downstairs again, I sent my roommate group chat a not so nice message. I am typically a very non-confrontational, nice person, so this was out of character for me. In essence I told them this: If I return to a sea of dishes and their crap strewn across the floor, I'm throwing it all out because I am not cleaning up after you anymore.

No more cleaning up after grown-ass adults. I might sound like a whiny bitch, but honestly, I'm just done. So, AITA for threatening to thrown away their stuff?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Moony_Beef on 2024-01-19 01:05:16+00:00.

My bestfriend (19F) have known this guy (20M) for 2 months now. They met when he was in our country for a while bc of work. They started out as friends with benefits and met each other daily while he was living here, even staying over at each others place for a week. They talked with each other for about a month and then he flies back to his home country, which is in another continent. They both are saying that they love each other but are to scared to get into a relationship, as they've heard that long-distance relationships are hard. My bestfriend is also very afraid of flying and have rejected our plans to fly to another continent for holidays in the past. I've met the guy once or twice and he seems like a nice guy from what I've seen.

Now it's been a month since he left and my friend is planning a short notice trip to him because she really want to meet him. She didn't want to tell me or her other close friends bc she was worried we were not going to be happy for her. I told her it was dangerous because she barely knows him and they don't even know what kind of relationship they have. I suggested they start with figuring that out and then wait until he comes back to our country later this year. I tried to explain that if they are serious about each other they will have to plan the future together as a relationship and bc of money/work issues they wouldn't be able to meet for months, so they would have to learn how to be apart for that long. I believe that they would also have to decide if they were willing to move to the others country, as I've never seen long-distance relationships work out in the long term.

She had fixed everything for going there except knowing if she could really stay at his place(as he's living with his parents), if she could be free from work, how much she would have to spend on food, visa and passport. The first things she believed would work themselves out but her visa and passport she's applying for this week, hoping it will be finished in a months time. I told her that these things need to be planned better, that she needed to respect herself enough to put down boundaries on both her and the guy. I also told her that it was incredible hurtful she would change her principles of not flying for a man she's known for 2 months but not for her friends she's known for years. This made her cry and say that she only wanted to be happy. She said that she didn't want to tell me because I wouldn't be as happy about this as she was.

Now I have a feeling I took it to far. I wanted to make her realise she needed to plan more and see further ahead in the future but I fear I only came across as a negative person trying to destroy her happiness... AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Lowkey_Photographer on 2024-01-19 01:05:01+00:00.

I’m not sure if AITA in this situation My friend at college came up to me Thursday last week on the shop floor and told me that that my lab partner and another classmate were talking bad about me, I then approached my classmate (let’s call him Mike) and said something along the lines of “Hey, my friend (let’s call him John) was telling me you were talking bad about me yesterday? What’s up with that?”

He explained that he wasn’t and was a misunderstanding and I apologized and said it was all good. Later on in the day on the other side of the shop I see that mike calls John over and they talk, I didn’t think anything of it, but a few minutes later John comes up to me and calls me stupid multiple times for talking to the other classmate and tells me that’s why I have no friends. Mike then comes over and explains the whole situation, which was he was talking to my lab partner because he was frustrated over our project at the end of the day and John comes up to them and asks “how’s OP doing on the project” “is that why you’re frustrated?”

Now my friend is extremely angry at me, and making me feel like I was in the wrong

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Capable-Cycle7016 on 2024-01-19 01:04:08+00:00.

I have a 15yo daughter and she needs to pick her electives. She has learnt the violin and piano for 11 years now and throughout junior and middle school we have made her go to a junior programme for music theory and ensemble, which she has graduated from.

In my opinion, her life would be much easier if she stop being petty and chose music as an elective, but she is immature. Her knowledge would not go to waste then and high school will be easier.

She chose to do science subjects, which I think isn't her strength. She has poor fine motor skills which would make life hard for her in the lab.

As her mother, of course I want her to have an easier time studying throughout her senior years, so I told her that if she doesn't chose music as an elective, she will be grounded for a month and her phone and airpods will be gone for 3 months. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/throwawaybrnu11071 on 2024-01-19 01:00:01+00:00.

I [M22] have been planning a ski trip with my girlfriend [F22] and her friends. This trip is an annual tradition for them, and I was the outsider/+1 in the group. I wasn't involved in the planning and was not part of their group chat, relying on my GF for all the details. I trusted her expertise to ensure any pertinent info would be passed to me. I knew we were going to Tahoe, but the specifics were unclear for months until the AirBnB was booked.

Once booked, I pre-emptively searched for the resort's lift passes and was shocked to find out that the lift passes for the ski resort were around $600 for 3 days, 3x the amount my GF had mentioned. It turned out she and her friends had purchased a pre-season pass at a significant discount, something I wasn't informed about at all even though we'd been communicating about this ski trip for around 3 months! I frantically searched for the pass online, but the last chance to purchase it was around a week before our conversation.

At this point, I was furious. I felt that this should've been the first thing communicated to me once I was going on this ski trip. I ended up angrily confronting my GF over the phone, explaining that her oversight was inconsiderate of my time and money. The discussion escalated into an argument. I called her inconsiderate. Regrettably, I raised my voice since I was quite mad. She ended up in tears since I mentioned I was considering canceling the trip altogether. She felt I was being overly punitive and called it an overreaction.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ThrowRAbridesmaidE on 2024-01-19 00:46:02+00:00.

I 25F am getting married to my fiance 29M in May. He owns a business and is rather wealthy. Our wedding is very important to both of us and we wanted it to be our dream. He wasn't really set on colours or themes, but I really wanted to do a pearl colour for my bride's maids and wear a sapphire colour because pearl is my birthstone and sapphire is his. He liked the idea, and I had a custom wedding gown tailored. We also agreed that it would be a black-tie event.

My bride's maids are able to pick from styles and stores I have approved of; my fiance has paid for the ones already purchased as well as custom-tailored suits for his groomsmen as he wants the wedding party to have luxe brands for their outfits, which was one of his only requests.

I have four bride's maids. My Future SIL, my childhood best friend, my sister and my cousin. My SIL, best friend and cousin have selected dresses from the list and they look amazing! They all look so beautiful.

My sister found this dress of Shien. I'll be frank, it's ugly, it's not elegant, not formal, and not from a luxe brand. I told my sister we could go shopping for a better dress together and I showed her the list of 15 brands and about 50 styles that my fiance and I had approved. She said every single one of them is ugly and she wants what she wants.

I said unless she is going to pick an acceptable dress I have to let her go. She stormed out and has texted me, telling me I'm an asshole and I don't deserve to get married to my fiance. I feel like I could have been an asshole but I don't know if I was. AITA?

Ps. Here is a link to the dress that my Best Friend (maid of honour) chose vs the one my sister chose

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Charming_Cherry_530 on 2024-01-19 00:34:57+00:00.

Ok so like a week ago my mom told me she's pregnant and ig she was expecting me to be excited but I was really not. The thing is that I have a 3yo brother and my mom works a lot of hours so I look after him a lot. Like I'm basically raising him. His father isn't in the picture and my mom hasn't even mentioned this new baby's father so it would probably be the same. And I really really don't want to raise another sibling. I'm 16 years old and I basically feel like a teen mom, I don't have any time to myself except at school.

So when my mom told me she's pregnant again I asked her if she could please not have the baby or give it up for adoption because I don't want to be raising 2 kids for her. She was really offended and said I'm just babysitting which is normal for older siblings. And she said I don't get to tell her whether to have a baby or not. I don't think I'm doing normal babysitting because I'm literally looking after him every moment I'm not in school. I take him to daycare, I pick him up from daycare, I look after him until he goes to bed. I just can't do this with 2 kids.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Squid_Hunt on 2024-01-19 00:31:25+00:00.

We have a mother-daughter couple that lives next door. We share a main wall in this townhome-style apartment building and they recently started tap dancing. At first we thought they were just working out heavily, but then it became clear they were striving to be the next Gene Kelly.

They have been pretty consistent with this activity: every night during the week, between 7pm and 8pm. Not only is it loud, but it shakes the whole apartment. After some consideration, we decided to ask them to stop.

I approached the mother and kindly asked them if this activity could be confined to the dance studio, and she got REAL spicy with me and gafaw-ed a response "Well we have to practice!!". She became very short with me and said they would stop. Then began to tell me how she has scoliosis and arthritis and somehow it helps her to tap dance? The way she reacted made me feel like I was being unreasonable.

Thoughts?