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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/NoYellow3210 on 2024-01-19 02:55:08+00:00.
My fiance (M38) and I (F30) got engaged in November, back then there was not like a proposal or something like that, just a conversation between two adults that agreed to get married.
We shared this news with anybody important in our life, we didn't keep it a secret or anything, we just didn't make it public in Social media. I asked my BFF (F29) to be my MOH and she was honored, I was also her MOH because she is getting married in valentine's day.
Now, last weekend my fiance and I went to a beach resort to celebrate our anniversary and he surprised me with the ring and a grand proposal (even thought we were already engaged).
I posted the pictures of the proposal in my social media, and now my BFF is upset because I announced my engagement a month before her wedding.
I was unaware I had done something wrong so I asked why is this a problem and she said it takes the attention away from her wedding, and now it will not be special anymore since the attention will be on my engagement.
She said I should've waited until after her wedding to announce the engagement.
I don't see it that way. It's not like I got engaged at her wedding. Anybody important in my life already knew about the engagmeent since November. In my BFF's wedding guests list, people either don't know me so they won't care about my engagemetn, or already knew about my engagement since Nov(like mutual friends), or know me and just found out about my engagemetn but there is no way it overshadows my best friend's wedding as she is way more important to them than I am (her parents, siblings, etc).
The way my friends sees it, I should've waited until after her wedding to announce my engagement. She is really upset and she demoted me from being MOH. I don't feel like I did anything wrong. Reddit, AITA?