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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Sea-Surprise5348 on 2024-01-19 01:17:58+00:00.
My sister moved houses last week. We both are married with young children and I live 30 min away. I let her know to tell me if she needed any help. She asked for help with my niece a few of the days while she packed and I was available for two of them. She declined help for one of those days and told me my niece would just stay at school later that day.
Their move day was on a Friday, and she told me the movers would come then. I assumed since they had movers that day they wouldn’t need extra help. My last text interaction was to “let her know if anything changes” with needing help with my niece since when she declined my help. I had work Friday and went out for dinner with my family and some other friends after work. Those friends ended up coming to our house afterwards to play some games.
My sister apparently got wind of my plans and is now accusing me of having a party instead of helping out with the move. I’m taken aback because I asked several times how I could help and she didn’t explicitly state that she needed help the day the movers would be there. I also was working until 5 so would have only been available to help in the evening anyway. I’m also not sure how my kids would have fared with all the chaos even if we did show up in the evening, and there was no offer to get takeout for dinner if we helped them etc. She is now giving me the cold shoulder. AITA?