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What exercises can I do to strengthen my willpower? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've realized that I'm very mentally weak and it's impacting my success.
I suspect I have ADHD and whenever I get an urge to distract myself, I rarely manage to resist it.
I think what I am missing is the residtance to discomfort that eg. allows sports people to carry on going even when their muscles are telling them to stop. Or the thing that allows people to defy themselves and step into an ice-cold shower.

Unfortunately I am not a person who enjoys sports and a cold shower is only something that makes sense once a day. Can you think of any exercises that I can do here and now in my room, and practice routinely that will strengthen my willpower so that I can better resist my urges in the future?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (4 children)

This is exactly what you said. Workout and cold showers.
Even if a cold shower is once a day, it is enough. Willpower is like a muscle, you don't have to exert it constantly, but regularly.
As for working out, you don't have to like it, to make it. This is the hard pill to swallow, but struggling is part of it, at least in the beginning.
What I find helpful personally, is to watch a coaching video. You follow the moves of the vlogger at the same pace, and only pause when you can absolutely not take it anymore. I end up cursing at the video and hating my life on the spot.

I recon that it helped me have more control on myself (like pain tolerance). But as for the ADHD you describe, I am not sure I saw any improvement personally.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Oh I see, do you still have athe link to the video you used? Also, do you know of any good resources about improving pain tolerance? I think that's essenstially what I'm lacking atm.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I will DM you the YT channels I follow.

do you know of any good resources about improving pain tolerance?

Working out and cold showers are enough on that matter imo

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Thanks 👍

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