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How much contact is too much contact? (monyet.cc)

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I've actually been wondering about this for a while. Realised this is a really good place to ask!

So when you're dating someone in Malaysia. How often do you like to check in with your partner? How much is too much or too little?

I'm a pretty independent nyet so once every couple days feels about right for me. And maybe share some funny link if it pops up. Any more and I start feeling this slightly smothering obligation hanging in the air. But I've heard a pretty wide range on what people think is normal / makes them insecure. Like some couples wish each other good morning and good night every single day kinda thing. (But also some couples wear 100% matching outfits when they go out. Pls just let me die instead)

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago (6 children)

I think it's cute to wear matching outfits when they're like seniors though, no?? xD

I don't know, "check in" sounds so.. I don't know. Almost formal and separated. Of course, in my head I'm thinking these two people are living together. If they were, it's natural to ask "want chinese for dinner?" stuff like that. I don't know if that's called checking in though. It's only natural to communicate your day to day stuff.

If living apart though.. probably once daily on a minimum, yeah. But not like "what you had for lunch" coz i mean who cares right, after 1242342 lunches. But I do think anything less than that, relo is probably not a priority for them at that point. It shouldn't feel like work. Aaaaaaaand if you need so much private space that you need to lock everyone out including someone you're supposed to love.. that just means that your work/life is out of whack... but I suspect you know that. :x

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

well maybe not ask what you have for lunch, but just sending a picture of food lol. my partner had two dogs, she also sent me pictures of them on the daily. Same dog, same face, same personality but it's just nice knowing that they're well and alive? until one of them recently passed.

so there's some comfort in knowing that the other half is alive, fed and being full.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Sorry to hear about your fur baby T.T For most it really is like a child (I would argue better than a child, even..) but i ABSOLUTELY would trade good mornings and "what you had for lunch" with an actual picture of their lunch and 1000000000 times better if pets.

I suppose I am okay if my SO sends me stuff for me to look at but expect no response, I would like to operate like that too while achieving the same goal (thinking of you) instead of the "Why did you ignore my question about your lunch but can respond somewhere else?" thing like arghhhhhh

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