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How to stop "Fall in love" so easily? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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(It's weird to call it "falling in love", because it's more like a childish and annoying infatuation, but anyway...)

I'm already terrible at socializing, but it's especially difficult for me to create genuine friendships with women because I can't help thinking of them as "possible future partners" (or some bullshit like that) and feel "jealous" when I see them talking to other men. It's stupid, a really stupid and annoying felling.

I know there is something in me that I need to change, but I don't know what, and I need some assistance.

I would like to feel more comfortable with my singleness and reserve my feelings for someone who can really reciprocate, while forging more non-romantic relationships with other people.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago (4 children)

If you cannot have platonic relations with women simply have those platonic relations with people you do not view as romantic interests. Unless you are also attracted to men then you are in a bind.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago (3 children)

I, indeed, am in a bind, 'cause I'm bisexual.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Then let me start off by making clear our conversation was purely platonic and I did not mean anything by it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Don't worry, you're not my type anyway ~

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago

Alright playing hard to get I see how it is.

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