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Men and eye contact, how to interpret it? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Men, help me read eye contact.

Mainly interested in this guy who's always extremely serious when looking at me: he holds eye contact and i've caught him looking at me when I can't see him but whenever we interact he's dead serious.

Never smiled back to me, he's always nice though.. He doesn't seem shy but maybe I can't tell cause he seems very masculine... I don't understand if he's just serious, or shy or intentionally doing that. He almost looks angry but I can tell he's not haha

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (10 children)

Probably just someone without well calibrated facial expressions. Learned to be very stoic and show no emotions.

Easiest way to find out would be to just ask him what he's thinking when he looks so seriously at you, though I understand that's probably very scary.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (9 children)

Yes I thought about it, but the weirdest for me is not smiling back at me. That's what typically happens even with strangers, no? I happen to smile at someone I'll never see again and they smile back, it just happens and I'm not the most social person myself... But in this case we bump into each other frequently, he will nod or say hi but smiling NEVER

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Is he staring at you or just in your general direction. Sometimes I'll just look in a direction and let my mind wander - eyes are open but not seeing anything because I'm in my head. And people who don't smile can have a variety of reasons to do so.

Best thing you can do is ignore it and not dwell. Otherwise, just ask him. He knows best. "Hey, I saw you staring off into the distance, anything on your mind?" or ask him what kind of things he thinks are funny, if anything funny happened to him lately, maybe prefix it with something that you saw or happened to you that you found funny. "I watched COMEDIAN last night. They're my favorite. Do you watch comedy?" or something else.

I just wouldn't be too direct about him not laughing or smiling. It may come off as "smile more princess" and could piss him off - I know it would piss me off. But asking me about stuff that I like and am interested in can get a smile on my face. It could on him too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No he's looking at me when this happens, straight into my eyes and might say hi or nod, depends, but I just wish I knew what he thinks of me

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Ask him. We can't know ;)

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