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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/neighbormomadvice on 2024-01-23 19:04:12+00:00.
My across the street neighbor, Danielle, has 4 kids, 2 boys (12 and 10) and 2 girls (3 and 7). Their dad pops in and out of their lives, he shows up for a few months to a year then leaves for a year or two.
Danielle’s kids are cute and well behaved but she doesn’t take care of her own kids. Our other neighbors, Barbara and John (mid-late 70’s) watch the kids so much that the kids think they’re their grandparents.
I had a son a few months ago and Danielle has been offering unsolicited parenting advice since before he was born. I’ve tried telling her I don’t need any help and she said something about all new moms needing some help even if we don’t realize it. I finally told her I don’t need any advice from someone that doesn’t parent her own kids and if I need advice I’ll go to the neighbors since they seem to have the kids most of the time anyways. Now she’s got my mom (I live with her) and the neighbors saying I was rude, I don’t understand her situation, and she was just trying to help.
Am I the asshole for telling her I don’t need parenting advice from someone that doesn’t parent her own kids?