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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Exotic-Risk6095 on 2024-01-23 22:45:18+00:00.
My daughter, Alice, has two children, one is with her current partner, Liam. He has three children from a previous relationship.
To celebrate my youngest child’s 21st birthday, I was planning a surprise holiday for us all to Disneyland. I found a great flight deal and was keen to get it booked. Prior to booking the holiday I spoke to Liam on the phone I told him my plan and asked him about his three children from the previous relationship coming. It was decided he’d speak to their mother, who is a very difficult character, to ask her permission. I booked the flight deal for 5, resigned to the fact that the flight cost would increase for the remaining 4 flights.
The flights are over the Easter holiday, and Liams Ex has said the children cannot come. She wants to do an egg hunt with them. Liam wants to move the holiday to suit his ex. The dates suit my daughter whose 21st Birthday we are celebrating, and of course the cheap flight deal is a factor also.
This has all backfired onto me because Liam is disappointed they can’t go, he says the other two shouldn’t go. He claims I am not treating the family the same, and has completely overlooked the conversation I had with him before booking, and the subsequent messages I have sent regarding an update on the booking.
What should have been a lovely surprise for everyone has been ruined by Liams fury at his ex partner.
So am I the asshole for booking the deal flights for my children and grandchildren and not waiting for response from his ex about their three children?