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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Oops_Im_Horny_Again on 2023-10-04 17:17:05.
Me (20f) and my bf (21m) have a very healthy “no pressure, you can always say no/stop” dynamic which both of us have communicated about and upheld. But I still can’t shake a strong feeling of guilt everytime I stop sex in the middle of things.
Last night it happened where we were having sex and it felt good, but then it started to head down a path of feeling not so good anymore, and even kind of uncomfortable. My bf noticed I had gotten quiet, asked if was ok, and I asked if we could stop, so we did. And even though he stopped immediately and was totally fine, I still felt really guilty, since I knew he had been enjoying himself. Especially when he went to go “take care of himself” I really felt like I had failed or something.
So how common is this for people? Especially couples who have been together longer, how often do you have to put things to a halt to sex as it’s happening?
Edit: Since everyone keeps suggesting it: Yes we were using lube, we pretty much always use lube.