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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Illustrious_Gas3265 on 2024-01-11 12:22:27+00:00.

I (21M) was the second of five kids and the only one born without any disability. All of my siblings require lifelong care. None of them are capable of being intendent and some have more physical sicknesses than others as well. Growing up my parents prioritized my siblings and never put any time or attention into me. I was expected to be okay missing out on everything and my parents excuse for my lack of opportunity was that they had no money or they would straight up say I didn't need to have those things in my life. I have some really great friends who I was close with back then. Some of their parents would offer to pay for me to attend field trips or to go to an amusement park or for a weekend vacation and my parents refused every single time. They told me I was not allowed to accept the help from others. Once I told my parents I was going to say yes no matter what they said and they yelled at me and told me I was their kid and they could stop me going if they wanted to. I think that was the time my best friends family wanted me to join them Christmas shopping in another city and my parents were not okay with that.

I resent my parents for that. I will admit to that. I feel like they denied me those chances because they couldn't have them and they felt if nobody else in the family was getting those experiences then they weren't going to let me have them either.

I also wasn't allowed to work because I was "needed at home" which meant helping out with my siblings or with household chores. A home nurse used to call in on occasion to help and she was only allowed to help my mom or dad. If she tried to help me my parents would pull her away.

When I finally turned 18 things were still kinda recovering from Covid and stuff so I worked retail for a while until I got a job where they were willing to train me and help me climb the ladder through training and working. That has been a huge life changer for me and I am finally starting to make better money. I started to spoil myself some. I bought a PS5 for my 21st birthday. I went on a couple of cheaper vacations with my friends. I'm making up for lost time honestly. I even finally bought myself a car.

My parents heard about my life from some of their friends who see me on social media. They weren't happy for me and in fact, they shamed me for forgetting all about my family while I'm "treating myself like a king" which is a direct quote from my mom. They told me I should be using what I have to help my family and giving them time off since their full time lives revolve around working and caring for my siblings with no down time. They told me I was taking my childhood resentment out on them which wasn't fair because they did their best when faced with challenges I could never understand.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/reginasdrgreoge on 2024-01-11 07:31:43+00:00.

My mom married my dad when I was three. My biological father paid child support and we spent time together but we never really bonded. His parents and I did though. They are my paternal grandparents. My step father's mom and dad and I never really warmed up to each other. They would send me $50 fo my birthday and another $50 for Christmas. My younger siblings got toys and handmade gifts. It never really bugged me. I had two sets of grandparents.

After my dad's father died his mom sold their house and started traveling. COVID screwed that up for a while and she burned through a lot of their savings.

She is now almost out of money. She still has her husband's pension as well as her own. But she can't afford a house like she had. All her kids and grandkids are trying to pool their money and get her a down payment on a home. Just an apartment she can use as a base of operations between vacations. Of she is smart she can pay her bills and still take one or two short international vacations a year.

My dad asked me to contribute. I sent $1,500. Basically all the money she gave me between when my mom married my dad and my 18th birthday when she stopped.

I could afford more. My husband and I are DINKS (Double Income No Kids) for now and we paid off our home in five years because we made it a priority.

My mom asked me why I didn't give more and I told her that my dad's mom wasn't really my problem. They are disappointed in me and said that I shouldn't be holding a grudge against an old lady. I said I didn't hold a grudge. Of I had I would have sent a container of leftover Chinese food flavored with spit. Now they are saying I'm being childish.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/StatPaddingORiley on 2024-01-11 12:15:17+00:00.

I (19M) live with my Mom (39), Step dad (36M) and my 2 younger brothers (15M, 3M). My mom and Dad split up during the pandemic which took a hard hit on me as I was close to my dad.

Three months later she started dating my step-dad who we'll call Steve, I liked Steve at first as we had a lot in common and he has done a lot for me but over the past few months I've started to dislike him. He talks about respect a lot and he expects me and my brother to respect him because of what he does.

We had moved house recently and I was excited as it was the first time I had my own room as I had always shared with my brother, I had asked both my mom and Steve to knock on my door if they were coming into my room which I don't believe is a hard ask. My mom has always done this but Steve never does, he always swings my door open and I always ask him to knock, a few days ago I asked again to which he replied "when you get your own house you can have privacy", this bugged so I responded with "you're a grown man, knocking a door shouldn't be hard for you" this set him off and he started raising his voice saying "I'm the reason you have a house over you head, I don't see your dad paying any bills", I then told him to not speak about my dad like that as he had nothing to do with this, I told him that for a guy who expects respect off everyone he's the most disrespectful person I've ever known and that he should earn my respect, too which I replied he hasn't earned yet and he never will. He told me to leave which I did.

I'm currently staying with my dad and have gotten phone calls and messages from the other side of my family telling me to go back to their house and apologise to Steve, but i don't feel like I have to. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/No-Debt6328 on 2024-01-11 07:00:02+00:00.

I (34M) am engaged to my fiancée “Emily” (31F). Both of our families are lower class so we have to pay for the wedding by ourselves. We talked it through and I suggested we have a more chill, smaller wedding and save our money for a downpayment on a bigger house. I make significantly more than her (she’s a teacher and I’m a doctor) so I told her I would take care of the majority of expenses like the venue, catering, and planner if she just paid for her dress and smaller stuff like that.

Last week her parents hosted a party for us before the wedding and her mom kept making comments about how she can’t believe how small our wedding will be or that we’re not hosting it at the fancy hotel downtown that’s “just so much better and elegant” than what I chose. I even overheard her talking to her sister about how small the diamond is in Emily’s ring and that it’s embarrassing a doctor won’t treat her daughter better (I spent about 5k which I thought was fair).

She just seemed so hung up on the fact that her daughter is marrying a doctor but the wedding/ring aren’t on a “doctor level”. Based on what I know, I think she is a little embarrassed about her family’s socioeconomic status, and was hoping her daughter marrying a doctor would help “improve” her image to her friends and extended family.

Throughout all of it Emily looked extremely embarrassed and awkward and kept trying to tell her mom it was fine and her mom just said “you need to learn to stand up for yourself”. This is when I just lost it and told her mom she can be uninvited from the wedding if she has so many problems with it and is embarrassed by how “cheap” I am. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Notmychildnyoubitch on 2024-01-11 08:09:41+00:00.

Hi I'm 37F. I have a 10 year old son. I'll call him Sam.

My son was invited to a sleepover from one of his classmates, lets call him Taylor. Because I didn't know his parents very well, we got together a few times so we could get to know each other. We eventually set up a date and the other mother which I'll call Lady for now on, insisted on hosting the event. I agreed and later dropped my son off, telling him to behave and all that jazz.

Toward the end of the day around 9-ish, I got a call from my sons phone. He has a basic flip phone for things like this. He was upset and wanted to come home. I asked what was wrong and he told me that Lady wanted to put him in a diaper.

I told him to put her on the phone and she answered it in a huff telling me my son wasn't being stubborn and misbehaving. I could hear my son in the background saying he just wanted to go home. So I told her I'd be there in a few minutes and hung up.

When I got there i was let in by her husband, he apologized for the trouble and I went to find my son. He was still upset when I found him sitting at their kitchen table along with Taylor. Asked him what was going on and he explained to me that because Taylor wet his bed Lady wanted him to wear a diaper as well. I turned and looked at lady and told her Sam doesn't wet the bed and didn't need to put anything extra on for bed.

She argued back that it wouldn't hurt him and would make Taylor feel better. To be honest I kind of understood where she was coming at and even considered asking Sam if he'd be willing to do it for his friend.

That was until I saw the thing, I was expecting a pullup. But this was what looked like a thick adult diaper meant to fit kids. Then the shocker came when my son told me she tried me make him take off his pants and lay on the floor so she could put it on him. I turned back to Lady and told how inappropriate this all was and collected his things to leave. She got belligerent and said Sam didn't have anything she hasn't seen before.

So we left, Taylor the pore boy looked crestfallen. Not that a blame him at all. But my problem and the reason for this post is do to the fact Lady put what happened on facebook. Most of the commenters are on her side.

So am I the asshole for taking my child home?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Plenty_Hearing3606 on 2024-01-11 06:12:57+00:00.

I (28M) have been dating “B” (24F) for almost a year now. Her college friend “K” is getting married this summer and I’ll be her plus one to the wedding. K just asked B to be the maid of honor. The issue is that B’s ex boyfriend is going to be the best man and she gave me a heads up that they’ll be walking down the aisle together and will have to meet up at some point before the wedding to prepare a joint reception toast and plan the bachelor + bachelorette trip (requests from the bride and groom).

Obviously I don’t want to tell her who she can and can’t hang out with, but I just don’t feel comfortable with B spending so much time with her ex, especially because they only broke up a few months before we started dating and have a lot of history together. I asked her to see if she could make some changes to those plans because I would have the respect to do it for her if roles were reversed. It became a huge fight because she thinks I don’t trust her even though that’s not true.

She also said that she doesn’t want to change any of those plans because K specifically asked her and her ex to be in charge of all of the bridal party together. I even suggested what if she just texted/Zoomed with her ex, I don’t see why they have to be in person and hanging out for the planning. To this she just said she can hang out with her ex, it’s “not that deep”. I don’t know if I even want to attend the wedding anymore as her plus one because it just feels like she’s picking her ex over our relationship. Since then, K has texted me saying I can’t tell B what to do (which I didn’t, I simply made a request) and that I’m ruining the wedding planning. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/reginasdrgreoge on 2024-01-11 07:31:43+00:00.

My mom married my dad when I was three. My biological father paid child support and we spent time together but we never really bonded. His parents and I did though. They are my paternal grandparents. My step father's mom and dad and I never really warmed up to each other. They would send me $50 fo my birthday and another $50 for Christmas. My younger siblings got toys and handmade gifts. It never really bugged me. I had two sets of grandparents.

After my dad's father died his mom sold their house and started traveling. COVID screwed that up for a while and she burned through a lot of their savings.

She is now almost out of money. She still has her husband's pension as well as her own. But she can't afford a house like she had. All her kids and grandkids are trying to pool their money and get her a down payment on a home. Just an apartment she can use as a base of operations between vacations. Of she is smart she can pay her bills and still take one or two short international vacations a year.

My dad asked me to contribute. I sent $1,500. Basically all the money she gave me between when my mom married my dad and my 18th birthday when she stopped.

I could afford more. My husband and I are DINKS (Double Income No Kids) for now and we paid off our home in five years because we made it a priority.

My mom asked me why I didn't give more and I told her that my dad's mom wasn't really my problem. They are disappointed in me and said that I shouldn't be holding a grudge against an old lady. I said I didn't hold a grudge. Of I had I would have sent a container of leftover Chinese food flavored with spit. Now they are saying I'm being childish.

AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/No-Debt6328 on 2024-01-11 07:00:02+00:00.

I (34M) am engaged to my fiancée “Emily” (31F). Both of our families are lower class so we have to pay for the wedding by ourselves. We talked it through and I suggested we have a more chill, smaller wedding and save our money for a downpayment on a bigger house. I make significantly more than her (she’s a teacher and I’m a doctor) so I told her I would take care of the majority of expenses like the venue, catering, and planner if she just paid for her dress and smaller stuff like that.

Last week her parents hosted a party for us before the wedding and her mom kept making comments about how she can’t believe how small our wedding will be or that we’re not hosting it at the fancy hotel downtown that’s “just so much better and elegant” than what I chose. I even overheard her talking to her sister about how small the diamond is in Emily’s ring and that it’s embarrassing a doctor won’t treat her daughter better (I spent about 5k which I thought was fair).

She just seemed so hung up on the fact that her daughter is marrying a doctor but the wedding/ring aren’t on a “doctor level”. Based on what I know, I think she is a little embarrassed about her family’s socioeconomic status, and was hoping her daughter marrying a doctor would help “improve” her image to her friends and extended family.

Throughout all of it Emily looked extremely embarrassed and awkward and kept trying to tell her mom it was fine and her mom just said “you need to learn to stand up for yourself”. This is when I just lost it and told her mom she can be uninvited from the wedding if she has so many problems with it and is embarrassed by how “cheap” I am. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/CoW_mAn on 2024-01-11 05:09:53+00:00.

Back in August I settled a contentious end of tenancy with a landlord that evicted my family for landlord use of home after 11 years with no problems. They frequently tried to break the law in their favor during the eviction and I frequently had to cite the relevant legislation and assert our rights. Part of the settlement was they were supposed to return the August rent cheque

When we did the final walkthrough they forgot the cheque. I told them as long as they ripped it up or they just didn't cash it that it would be fine

In January, 5 months later, I check my account and see they cashed the cheque!

I replied to the email from August where the landlord agreed to return it and said:

"I demand to know what the hell you are doing cashing the cheque for August rent that was supposed to be returned to me as per your e-mail below.

This money needs to be returned immediately or I will be reporting you for fraud.

Time is of the essence in this matter, respond immediately."

When we spoke on the phone the landlord said "be careful when you talk to me like that" and generally admonished me for the word choice and tone of my email

Later in another call they admitted they deposited the cheque by mistake, they had recently received a cheque from someone else and accidentally deposited the wrong cheque. They returned the money a few hours after that second call

So was I wrong for using stern language with someone who had illegally taken over $1,100 of my money? When we are victims of fraud or theft are we still obligated to be kind to those that stole our money? Or were they wrong for keeping the cheque for 5 months and not reading what they were depositing?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/paronormal_14 on 2024-01-11 01:53:01+00:00.

I (14nb) have asked my parents (45m) and (47f) to not do it while I'm home on countless occasions and even my siblings have yelled at them about it and yet they seem to not care they always do it late at night too. even if I have school the next day their just in their room going at it the floors and their bed are already hella creaky which makes it even louder they know it makes me uncomfortable and yet they still do it so AITA in this situation?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Plenty_Hearing3606 on 2024-01-11 06:12:57+00:00.

I (28M) have been dating “B” (24F) for almost a year now. Her college friend “K” is getting married this summer and I’ll be her plus one to the wedding. K just asked B to be the maid of honor. The issue is that B’s ex boyfriend is going to be the best man and she gave me a heads up that they’ll be walking down the aisle together and will have to meet up at some point before the wedding to prepare a joint reception toast and plan the bachelor + bachelorette trip (requests from the bride and groom).

Obviously I don’t want to tell her who she can and can’t hang out with, but I just don’t feel comfortable with B spending so much time with her ex, especially because they only broke up a few months before we started dating and have a lot of history together. I asked her to see if she could make some changes to those plans because I would have the respect to do it for her if roles were reversed. It became a huge fight because she thinks I don’t trust her even though that’s not true.

She also said that she doesn’t want to change any of those plans because K specifically asked her and her ex to be in charge of all of the bridal party together. I even suggested what if she just texted/Zoomed with her ex, I don’t see why they have to be in person and hanging out for the planning. To this she just said she can hang out with her ex, it’s “not that deep”. I don’t know if I even want to attend the wedding anymore as her plus one because it just feels like she’s picking her ex over our relationship. Since then, K has texted me saying I can’t tell B what to do (which I didn’t, I simply made a request) and that I’m ruining the wedding planning. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Broad-Math-3713 on 2024-01-11 12:05:53+00:00.

Hi as the title states I am seeking advice on if I WIBTA if I (27f) do not give my ex- boyfriend (27m) (27f) half of the car settlement money??? He is leaving me bc I allegedly slapped him in the face twice after he spat in my face repeatedly during an argument? Btw he did call the police and file a report, I was not arrested as there was no proof of the accusation. He says this is unforgivable, and he is moving out when he starts his new job on Feb 12th. Fast forward it’s been over a month since the incident, we are starting to get back to normal until I show him screenshots of a girl he cheated on me with insinuating they were still talking. He lost it accused me of being toxic and everything went back to him treating me like he hates me. Then right before Christmas our car gets totaled . I worked and ought w the insurance for coverage and am waiting for about $10k in settlement money all coming in my name (car wasn’t worth much ). I had thought we reconciled, and he spoke about to moving back in the room w me. But then he got in a heated argument this past Sunday night and when he kept telling me how he didn’t want to hear my voice, I told him to sleep in the other room. The next morning he proceeded to pack all this stuff and ask his friend to come get his stuff, meanwhile I am begging him not to blow up our future and plans. We have an investment idea for the 10k. Again bc he didn’t leave, and he spent all his time in our bedroom w me talking about our future together I thought we reconciled. Until yesterday morning at 9 am his friend calls him and asks to hangout and says he can pick up his stuff. He hops up proceeds to tell me he is taking his things and we started arguing. After he insists he is really moving out I told him I can’t afford to invest thousand and pay this rent all alone. He then proceeded to tell me I am threatening him with money and he can just leave rn. So he took almost all his stuff besides a few outfits and left. He came back last night and proceeded to tell me he is leaving not bc of anything but me and he’ll never forgive me for beating him and putting hands on him. He keeps saying I never can fix this and he is leaving no matter what . Then he will say nothing changed and we can lay together and there is the smallest possibility he doesn’t leave me . BUT he basically already moved out , and it telling me if I don’t help him get a car then he will block me and never speak to me again after he leave but if I help him he may still be there for me when I call.

What do I do?

Edit to add: Do I keep playing nice and acting like his girlfriend until he leaves, do I give him half the money?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/horses5104 on 2024-01-11 12:05:41+00:00.

some background: i (24f) met this person (23f) at work about two years ago. we had fun working together and laughed a lot so we started hanging out outside of work. it was fine at first but i soon realized that outside of work she was a bit different. she wanted to talk bad about the manager (who is my friend also) and stay out late, drink and smoke. she kept calling our hang outs “dates” even though she very openly has a girlfriend (who i also know). she got another job and stopped working there as much and i got promoted which i found out through the manager that she quote on quote was crying and very upset and angry (that i didn’t deserve it etc) that i got the promotion and not her despite me always putting in double her hours every week. she was fun to work with but i realized then that it probably wasn’t going to work outside of work and she got really shady and cold towards me because i told her what she did made me uncomfortable. flash forward and she’s been texting me now for a few days asking to hang out again and i’m not sure i want to since she was talking about me behind my back. aita for not wanting to?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/FrostyBitchBong on 2024-01-11 11:53:10+00:00.

I'm 18, and I have a 10 year old sister. She has this character named Hannibal Gookith, a fancy frogman in her own personal victorian fantasy world. He's a radio host, and he's all she ever talks about or draws.

Our uncle came over, and she talked to the family about new developments in Gookith's radio career. After a bit, uncle snapped at her and said "Jesus, no one cares. It's not real, and you'll be over this in a week, stop."

I told him to leave, we argued for a bit, but he left eventually. My sister seems less enthusiastic about her character now, and I'm trying to light a spark again. But I feel like maybe I ruined an otherwise good get together. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Broad-Math-3713 on 2024-01-11 12:05:53+00:00.

Hi as the title states I am seeking advice on if I WIBTA if I (27f) do not give my ex- boyfriend (27m) (27f) half of the car settlement money??? He is leaving me bc I allegedly slapped him in the face twice after he spat in my face repeatedly during an argument? Btw he did call the police and file a report, I was not arrested as there was no proof of the accusation. He says this is unforgivable, and he is moving out when he starts his new job on Feb 12th. Fast forward it’s been over a month since the incident, we are starting to get back to normal until I show him screenshots of a girl he cheated on me with insinuating they were still talking. He lost it accused me of being toxic and everything went back to him treating me like he hates me. Then right before Christmas our car gets totaled . I worked and ought w the insurance for coverage and am waiting for about $10k in settlement money all coming in my name (car wasn’t worth much ). I had thought we reconciled, and he spoke about to moving back in the room w me. But then he got in a heated argument this past Sunday night and when he kept telling me how he didn’t want to hear my voice, I told him to sleep in the other room. The next morning he proceeded to pack all this stuff and ask his friend to come get his stuff, meanwhile I am begging him not to blow up our future and plans. We have an investment idea for the 10k. Again bc he didn’t leave, and he spent all his time in our bedroom w me talking about our future together I thought we reconciled. Until yesterday morning at 9 am his friend calls him and asks to hangout and says he can pick up his stuff. He hops up proceeds to tell me he is taking his things and we started arguing. After he insists he is really moving out I told him I can’t afford to invest thousand and pay this rent all alone. He then proceeded to tell me I am threatening him with money and he can just leave rn. So he took almost all his stuff besides a few outfits and left. He came back last night and proceeded to tell me he is leaving not bc of anything but me and he’ll never forgive me for beating him and putting hands on him. He keeps saying I never can fix this and he is leaving no matter what . Then he will say nothing changed and we can lay together and there is the smallest possibility he doesn’t leave me . BUT he basically already moved out , and it telling me if I don’t help him get a car then he will block me and never speak to me again after he leave but if I help him he may still be there for me when I call.

What do I do?

Edit to add: Do I keep playing nice and acting like his girlfriend until he leaves, do I give him half the money?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/horses5104 on 2024-01-11 12:05:41+00:00.

some background: i (24f) met this person (23f) at work about two years ago. we had fun working together and laughed a lot so we started hanging out outside of work. it was fine at first but i soon realized that outside of work she was a bit different. she wanted to talk bad about the manager (who is my friend also) and stay out late, drink and smoke. she kept calling our hang outs “dates” even though she very openly has a girlfriend (who i also know). she got another job and stopped working there as much and i got promoted which i found out through the manager that she quote on quote was crying and very upset and angry (that i didn’t deserve it etc) that i got the promotion and not her despite me always putting in double her hours every week. she was fun to work with but i realized then that it probably wasn’t going to work outside of work and she got really shady and cold towards me because i told her what she did made me uncomfortable. flash forward and she’s been texting me now for a few days asking to hang out again and i’m not sure i want to since she was talking about me behind my back. aita for not wanting to?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/FrostyBitchBong on 2024-01-11 11:53:10+00:00.

I'm 18, and I have a 10 year old sister. She has this character named Hannibal Gookith, a fancy frogman in her own personal victorian fantasy world. He's a radio host, and he's all she ever talks about or draws.

Our uncle came over, and she talked to the family about new developments in Gookith's radio career. After a bit, uncle snapped at her and said "Jesus, no one cares. It's not real, and you'll be over this in a week, stop."

I told him to leave, we argued for a bit, but he left eventually. My sister seems less enthusiastic about her character now, and I'm trying to light a spark again. But I feel like maybe I ruined an otherwise good get together. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Autumn_Fox_23 on 2024-01-11 11:52:36+00:00.

My Ex (lets call him John) and I were dating for only a few months before I broke it off. It was nothing major… id gone through a sever accident and we never saw each other or really spoke. I though it was a clean break, but John started acting weird. He would find me in random classes (this is Senior year of High School) and would even find me in classes I wasn’t supposed to be in. Idwk how… He would also pin me to walls and block exits by standing in my way. He wouldnt let me walk with other people and if i did (to get away from him) he would sot by my car and wait till I came out so he could confront me. He would also sit in his car (our designated parking spaces were close) and would wait till I came out to my car so that he could follow me out of the parking lot. He would constantly make comments about how we would eventually live together and would touch me w/o consent while making excuses like “there was a hair on your shoulder” My friends were split. Some were on my side and some said that I was making a big deal out of nothing. And i was at fault because I was being dramatic and wanted attention… AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Mindless_Research_88 on 2024-01-11 11:50:39+00:00.

Brought gummie edibles. I notified my brother that I have edibles, showed the bag, and where I put it. I also showed him the pills I take, along with the other candies in the bag. So he has this sweet loving dog. Can do do all sorts of great tricks, but seems to be lacking the most important like being house broken, not digging in garbages, jumping on people despite being over 100+ and more. However, I didn’t KNOW he lacked such basic training due to the fact he can do other things that most dogs can’t. As we went out, they locked him in my room. I TOLD HIM, ‘my stuff are in there, are you really doing to lock him in with all my stuff?’ I wasn’t thinking about the edibles at the time, I just thought it was weird that you would lock peoples stuff with a dog inside, mind you the room is small. He told me there’s no worries and put my mattress against the wall incase he pees on it. I found it odd considering this dog can do crazy tricks like get a specific person for you in the house when needed(in order words, communicating to the person that the owner wants them). Not only did I cover my bag with a robe, my laptop was on top of it. The dog not only got into my bag, my bag looks absolutely UNTOUCHED and the rest of the candy was there. It was until my brother told me his dog was acting weird and questioned me if went into my bag. I said absolutely not (because again, my bag looks UNTOUCHED), until I went to show him the gummies for them to be complete GONE but yet every other single candy was not touched. If I knew the dog had a tendency to get into bags I wouldn’t in a million years allow them to lock him in my room with anything at all.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Autumn_Fox_23 on 2024-01-11 11:52:36+00:00.

My Ex (lets call him John) and I were dating for only a few months before I broke it off. It was nothing major… id gone through a sever accident and we never saw each other or really spoke. I though it was a clean break, but John started acting weird. He would find me in random classes (this is Senior year of High School) and would even find me in classes I wasn’t supposed to be in. Idwk how… He would also pin me to walls and block exits by standing in my way. He wouldnt let me walk with other people and if i did (to get away from him) he would sot by my car and wait till I came out so he could confront me. He would also sit in his car (our designated parking spaces were close) and would wait till I came out to my car so that he could follow me out of the parking lot. He would constantly make comments about how we would eventually live together and would touch me w/o consent while making excuses like “there was a hair on your shoulder” My friends were split. Some were on my side and some said that I was making a big deal out of nothing. And i was at fault because I was being dramatic and wanted attention… AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/littlemoviegeek on 2024-01-11 11:46:37+00:00.

Basically, I threw some paper to him and it (accidentally) hit him in the face. I immediately apologised, and he ignores me. I try again and he gets mad at me for repeating myself and apologising straight away because apparently I have to wait at least ten minutes. Later, I go to say goodnight to him before bed, and as I walk off he says to me, “are you forgetting something” I respond with “I don’t know, am I?” and he proceeds to tell me to apologise. I say sorry and apparently because I’m standing with my hands in my hips which is how I always stand whatever the situation, I’m being rude, he proceeds to lecture me. I explain that I meant it when I apologised and he tells me how I ‘only apologise to get my way’ which is a total lie. The lecture continues and he refuses to believe when I tell him how to me it wasn’t a big deal and acts like I stabbed him or something. I eventually give in and apologise and walk away. From the other side of the house I hear “unheard you idiot” so I go to ask him what that was about. He tells me he just said “it’s the attitude” so it may just have been a mishearing on my part. Anyways the night ended with us both fairly mad. Should I have done something differently?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Mindless_Research_88 on 2024-01-11 11:50:39+00:00.

Brought gummie edibles. I notified my brother that I have edibles, showed the bag, and where I put it. I also showed him the pills I take, along with the other candies in the bag. So he has this sweet loving dog. Can do do all sorts of great tricks, but seems to be lacking the most important like being house broken, not digging in garbages, jumping on people despite being over 100+ and more. However, I didn’t KNOW he lacked such basic training due to the fact he can do other things that most dogs can’t. As we went out, they locked him in my room. I TOLD HIM, ‘my stuff are in there, are you really doing to lock him in with all my stuff?’ I wasn’t thinking about the edibles at the time, I just thought it was weird that you would lock peoples stuff with a dog inside, mind you the room is small. He told me there’s no worries and put my mattress against the wall incase he pees on it. I found it odd considering this dog can do crazy tricks like get a specific person for you in the house when needed(in order words, communicating to the person that the owner wants them). Not only did I cover my bag with a robe, my laptop was on top of it. The dog not only got into my bag, my bag looks absolutely UNTOUCHED and the rest of the candy was there. It was until my brother told me his dog was acting weird and questioned me if went into my bag. I said absolutely not (because again, my bag looks UNTOUCHED), until I went to show him the gummies for them to be complete GONE but yet every other single candy was not touched. If I knew the dog had a tendency to get into bags I wouldn’t in a million years allow them to lock him in my room with anything at all.

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ok_Hovercraft286 on 2024-01-11 11:45:27+00:00.

SIL married my brother 10 years ago. They each had a daughter (both 18 now) from different relationships. My niece was really excited by the idea of a sibling and a bigger family. She used to ask her dad to give her a sibling when she was still in preschool and while she did stop asking, the wish remained. The fact she thought step-niece was the coolest and best person ever made the excitement more palpable. But it was clear from very early on that step-niece did not view my niece in the same kind of light. The girls were very different and very early on my niece became very demanding of step-niece's time and SIL and my brother were very eager to see them spend time together so they encouraged niece in her demandingness and would scold step-niece for wanting to put friends over her sister.

I became concerned about how demanding my niece was being. She wouldn't even ask step-niece if she wanted to do something, she would tell her, and neither my brother or SIL batted an eyelid. Step-niece would say no and my niece would tell her no was not an option. So I spoke about my concerns to my brother and he told me he knew it was going to push his stepdaughter away in the future but he also knew how much my niece wanted a sister and how much his wife wanted her daughter to accept his as a sister. So he wasn't going to get involved.

A confrontation happened between SIL and step-niece a couple of years ago that the rest of us were made aware of. SIL told step-niece that she would need to get used to having her sister in her life because when she grows up she's going to have to make the time for her and this is good practice for that. Step-niece told SIL that she could just not see her at all and SIL that wasn't a possibility and she would always be part of the family.

Step-niece turned 18 in July and she moved out of my brother and SILs house and has not been to visit or kept in touch with them since. My niece has tried to talk to her over DM or call but she has ignored her and maybe even blocked her in places. The only people this seemed to surprise was SIL and my niece. My niece cried for days about it and said she didn't understand while SIL has grumbled for months about it. But during Christmas it was at an all time bad and she showed up to the family celebration we had on the 30th and was blasting her daughter to everyone and saying how surprising her actions were. A lot of the family moved away from her but when she sat down next to me to do her vent, I told her only she and my niece were surprised and the rest of us saw her daughter's actions coming a mile off. I brought up that step-niece had even told her what she'd do 2 years ago and she didn't believe her.

SIL called me insensitive and told me nobody could have known a teenage girl was serious when she was having her little temper tantrum. She said most kids would never want to be away from their siblings or their families like that and it's cruel for me to lie and claim otherwise. AITA?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/littlemoviegeek on 2024-01-11 11:46:37+00:00.

Basically, I threw some paper to him and it (accidentally) hit him in the face. I immediately apologised, and he ignores me. I try again and he gets mad at me for repeating myself and apologising straight away because apparently I have to wait at least ten minutes. Later, I go to say goodnight to him before bed, and as I walk off he says to me, “are you forgetting something” I respond with “I don’t know, am I?” and he proceeds to tell me to apologise. I say sorry and apparently because I’m standing with my hands in my hips which is how I always stand whatever the situation, I’m being rude, he proceeds to lecture me. I explain that I meant it when I apologised and he tells me how I ‘only apologise to get my way’ which is a total lie. The lecture continues and he refuses to believe when I tell him how to me it wasn’t a big deal and acts like I stabbed him or something. I eventually give in and apologise and walk away. From the other side of the house I hear “unheard you idiot” so I go to ask him what that was about. He tells me he just said “it’s the attitude” so it may just have been a mishearing on my part. Anyways the night ended with us both fairly mad. Should I have done something differently?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/that1dudeuno on 2024-01-11 11:40:08+00:00.

So I enjoy fantasy settings and anime. Whenever I'm watching a show or a clip of a show online I can always hear my wife in the background making a nasally voice and imitating the characters. I brought this up to her attention and told her that it feels like she's mocking me. In response she started yelling that it was just jokes and I need to be less sensitive. This morning it happened again so I ignored it and now she's mad at me for having hurt feelings. Am I the asshole