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24 M at a 3‑way fork for my life:

 ① Seattle/Portland SWE job, 

 ② unfunded CS PhD (live with in‑laws),

 ③ $90 k Columbia BME master’s. 

Which of these should I do?

Stats:

Me: 

24 M, fresh BS CS (+ physics minor, 4.45 GPA, undergraduate research internships, swift student challenge winner, US citizen)

Spouse: 

27 M, tech lead remote, $210 k comp, recession resistant job, very smart. But is not yet a citizen, temporary protective status from Syria, been in US since he was 13, scary times but ignoring it. 

Current debt: 60 k @ 14 % (2k / mo) (Consolidated credit card debt)

Accepted programs: 

• PhD CS @ UCCS  (3-4yrs, 20k per year est)

• MS Bio Medical Engineering @ Columbia (18 mo, $90 k tuition) (Have two weeks to accept/decline)

We like the PNW, the humidity and rain, and culture have been so nice(at ABnB right now). I could maybe get a tech job at about 100k, but slightly concerned with this economy, love research, my dream job would be R&D engineering job in the long term, but often requires masters/PhD. 

Or maybe I pay money and network with rich people and create a start up at Columbia, or maybe I should start working now in case my spouse gets deported and we need to do something(sorta in denial about this option for now).

Or maybe we live in big house with my spouses parents (adoptive US citizens) in the country, like we have for 5 years now, but the 40 minute commute for UCCS PhD and isolation in Colorado Springs is something my partner, and to some extent I, want to leave. (Very loving and supportive, very grateful for them but we want to be adults and decide things like what’s for dinner for ourselves). 

Or maybe I’m young and dumb and lack perspective and we should stay there until we pay down debt, but maybe moving is the jolt we need to start budgeting properly.

(Consolidated credit card debt is going down from 80k, just that partner used to have slightly excessive lifestyle, and has paid my way through college)

What do I do with my life?

So many choices right now, and they feel so final, difficulty sleeping for the past few nights.

Thank you for all your thoughts ahead of time!

I keep seeing posts mentioning this phenomenon more and more often.

For instance:

More and more men are being sucked into parts of the internet that circulate misogynist content, leaving their families to deal with the wreckage

'Andrew Tate phenomena' surges in schools - with boys refusing to talk to female teacher

Like, why? Why now? Why even? I really wish I had a time machine where I could go to the future and ask them what the general reasons were for this social development. But I feel like I'm looking for the specific thorn on a cactus that popped my balloon.

I'm about to take a long flight and am looking to expand my music library

Things in the broadest of senses, stories/books/movies/shows/games/etc., technologies, jobs, whatever you tend to keep on the lookout for.

I didn't think he would really do it.

Whatever "too long" means to you. What eventually helped to lessen the pain?

I'm going with Danny Devito! That fuck would straighten out the church. He got good morals. He just a nice guy. What about you?

Hi, maybe you can help me with some tech suggestions. At my local scouts troop I'm one of only a few guitar players. At camp fires I play the guitar and provide lead vocals, so that others can follow (which is important especially for songs, that are not well known). Because only a few can sit directly beside me and others might talk in parallel, I need to sing very loud, to give an orientation, which makes me hoarse way faster.

I would like to have something, that amplifies my voice, with decent quality (so no megaphone), a microphone fixed to my clothes or my head (as I need to play the guitar in parallel) and being portable (easy to carry, relatively small and powered via battery). I am able to spend like 200€ for it (300€ would be the hard upper limit). I can also build something myself, though I would need orientation on what to build exactly. I don't have experience with audio electronics, but with microcontrollers.

Thanks in advance for your help!

Which instance is better and why?

Posting this because I can’t really talk to my family or whatever. I have one main friend but I don’t think she cares on a deeper level so it always just feels like I’m alone. Who do you guys turn to for help? It’s always been a struggle for me, it’s like no one is really there. It feels like I’m living the same day over and over again and I’m not contempt with my own thoughts and it’s hard for me to get over it. I’m not sure if I’m just depressed and I’m so good at hiding it or I’m just so numb to everything. I forget so much of my past and it’s so hard for me to sit with myself and figure out what the fuck is wrong with me. I just lost something so good in my life because I made a big mistake and that’s also something I won’t get over. I can’t win things back and it’s sad to accept reality of things. Sorry for this depressing as post but I don’t have anyone to really talk to

Following on from https://alex.lemmy.ca/lemmy.ca/comment/16014727

In almost every scifi-action movie of the 90s, there appears an exercise machine (?) with three concentric rings, and you strap into the middle and spin around in all directions. IIRC the outside ring is immobile and upright, while the inner two move on different axes, so the user can spin any which way.

Universal Soldier, Fortress, Drive and a bunch more had it, but I don't have screenshots.

So I've posted my terrible attempt at drawing what I mean. (Either that or the logo for my new political movement.)

Anyone know what it's called?

And whatever happened to it? It's the future now, why aren't we all spinning around in every direction, in between sessions on our hoverboards and flying cars?

EDIT:

Thanks, everyone. Turns out it's called an aerotrim.

• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aerotrim

So far, seen in the following 90s scifi movies:

• Contact
• Drive
• Fortress
• Gattaca
• The Lawnmower Man
• Universal Soldier

Share a link or face the consequences: me asking you politely to share a link.

This is just a fun game, don't answer anything personal or identifying you don't want to!

You are presented with an opportunity to choose between two distinct options for a post-scarcity life. The parameters of each option are as follows:

Option 1: Earth

Live anywhere you want on Earth, with the condition that space is limited and must be shared equally with others. You can have whatever you want, as long as it can be produced by a replicator. If your friends and family live on Earth, you can visit them in person. However, you will be subject to the same limitations and constraints as everyone else on Earth, in regards to space and legal codes that bind you (that are decided democratically).

Option 2: Customised Continent

You will be allocated a portion of a habitable planet, up to the size of a continent (but it can be as small as you want) with the ability to customise the environment to your liking, including:

• Biome (e.g. temperate, tropical, desert, etc.)
• Approximate gravity (within reasonable limits)
• Sun color and type
• Geography (e.g. mountains, valleys, coastlines, etc.)
• Other environmental factors that make sense

You will have access to the same replicator technology as Option 1, allowing you to produce anything you need. You will be part of a planet with 1-7 other continents, each inhabited by other individuals or groups who have also chosen this option. You can interact with them if you wish, but it is not required. However, unless you invite others to join you, you will only be able to communicate with loved ones on Earth (or anyone else not on your planet) via video call. You can invite others to join you, but then you share agency over what happens in your continent with them.

Which option do you prefer?

I've been meaning to ask this for a while. I saw a comment a month or so ago. Person said they keep their thermostat at like 65 in the winter and 78 in the summer. 78 seems fucking insane to me. That's too damn hot for inside. How do you sleep at 78 degrees?

Are they a lizard person or am I a baby?

Edit 1: I love all the comments on this! Never thought this post would create such discussion. Looking at the comments vs upvotes it honestly seems 50/50ish that 78 is hot for the indoors. Can lemmy do polls?

You can choose a new sound or sound(s) to make when you fart. The sound can't be quieter than your fart would otherwise be. Nor can it be shorter than your fart would otherwise be.

What would be your farttone?

Some of my ideas Owen Wilson's "Wow". The scream from that one disturbed song. The entire audio of the Bee movie.

Edit 1. 18 more of you commented than updooted. "No judgement", I say while judging you...