Ask Lemmy

This comes in response to news that I've heard of recently. Goes to show if you value your posthumous requests, organize them wisely.

The concept we generally call "dying wishes" are a staple in how we think of society. Just look to the ancient play Antigone for that. However, things don't always go as planned, especially in the wrong hands. What's the biggest difference you've seen between someone's "dying wishes" and what actually ended up happening?

Apologies if the wrong community, if there's a better suited one, please point me to it!

But, I figure we all buy USB-C cables, and being a progressive group of folks maybe someone has a suggestion so I cause slightly less waste pollution and waste? Here's hoping!

Edit: Allrighty, apparently I'm just rough on all my usb cables OR you have all teamed up to prank me.

I'm looking to drop Legal Eagle because i believe their accelerated release schedule prevents the kind of depth coverage I'm looking for. You guys follow any legal channels that dive into the history and context of the legal issues of the day?

When i post a comment and someone like it. I get a notifications saying that someone liked my post and when click on it, it is just the comment i wrote. I have to always click view post to see the context of my comment

Music to listen to whilst reposing on a divan

Boris Cocktail theme from the bar in Fourside in Earthbound is great if you use a low pass filter

Please state in which country your phrase tends to be used, what the phrase is, and what it should be.

Example:

In America, recently came across "back-petal", instead of back-pedal. Also, still hearing "for all intensive purposes" instead of "for all intents and purposes".

For those that missed the original post, I quit my IT career for a part-time job at Lowe's, for 1/4 the pay. Can't afford the low pay ATM, but I think my wife and I can muddle though until I go full-time, get promoted, whatever. I want to thank ALL of you who encouraged me! Cannot say how much more sane you all made me feel.

First thing our trainer did was give me a 10% discount card and program it. "Are you married?" Made another account for my wife. No lie, first thing we did.

I worked closely with HR on my last two jobs to build and improve our onboarding process. Lowe's made me feel amateur. Let's just say it was about as slick as such a complex legal and logistical process can be. (Yes, there's far more than most people see or think about.)

The person that got us going did the job I've done in my last two roles, got new people on the right foot. Yes, even working IT, I was the first person they met and got settled with. She did pretty damned well. Got stuck watching a recorded onboarding meeting, loathed the presenter. Ever known one of those women who are all smiling teeth, while frowning at the same time, and totally fake? "Oh my gosh! What GREAT input!" Fuck me. I started first and the other 3 guys finished first because they skipped some video. Cheating bastards. :)

LOL, they had the exact rig I built for one company. Some flavor of Debian, locked in kiosk mode, Firefox, on a crappy PC. Perfect for onboarding, training and as a time clock.

They seem pretty cool. The CEO was nice to listen to, seems a solid leader. Black guy, and they talked about DEI initiatives a good deal, doubt they're backing out, I'm sold. The store manager chatted with us for 30-minutes. Hell, my last CEO was an excellent leader, with half the staff, and he didn't take 30 to talk to 4 low-paid beginners.

The main thread I picked up, from my interview, to the CEO talk, to the manager, was that you can move up fast if you come in, do a good job and take care of customers. Well hell, that's what I'm best at. Everyone I've met in leadership started on the floor for shit pay, CEO as well.

Turns out my direct super is the British dude that's helped me before, love that guy! Be sweating my ass off in the outdoor area soon enough, the position I asked for, but I think having that man on my side will get me through.

So, be honest, am I fooling myself here? This ain't my first rodeo and I got very positive vibes, but it's a monster retailer so there's that.

EDIT: Forgot some of the meat of the story. Time and attendance policy seems lenient enough, though I'm not used to even thinking about it. PTO is crap compared to what I'm used to, which taking about every Friday off. Can't say about health, 401K, all that, but they offer it to part timers. Not great, more than I expected, who knows. All in all, no threatening crap like I expected for $15/hr. "You toe the line or you're fired!", kinda bullshit. Turnover is a metric they take seriously, and call out management on it. I'll drill into it more tomorrow when training is more 1-on-1.

Coworker. I told him to fuck off with his conspiracy bullshit. But back when I patronized him, one thing he said was that he didn't consider belief a binary as in that you either believe something or don't. He viewed all beliefs as a continuum. You can believe one thing 10% and another thing 90%, but he wouldn't let me pin him down as to whether he "believed" any particular thing or not.

All while trying to convince me "tall white aliens" run the U.S. government and Sandy Hook was faked by a bunch of actors and the U.S. military had invisibility technology and planes that aren't dumping weather-controlling chemicals don't leave trails in the sky. Pretty standard QAnon-level bullshit. But if I asked him if he believed any of those things, he wouldn't answer. Honestly, it makes sense as a dishonest rhetorical tactic.

Dude also literally drinks borax in his juice cleanse drink.

I'll start.

Laws:

Aggravated Digital Piracy. Downloading probably thousands dollars worth of content. yaRrr 🏴‍☠️ (btw, check out: [email protected] it's blocked by lemmy.world instance btw)

I flew a drone without FAA LAANC approval, and beyond "line of sight" rules. (I checked air radar online, there were zero flights near me at such low altitudes that I was flying my drone, so zero safety issues)

I sent a string of encrypted text over Ham Radio bands as a "proof of concept" for a off-grid comucation method. (Rattlegram is an app on Android and iOS, that can convert text to audio; Secure Space Encryptor (SSE) is an open source encryption app that can encrypt a string of plaintext into a string of ciphertext (this app is called "Paranoia Text Encryption" on iOS), you can copy-paste this ciphertext into Rattlegram and sent it over Ham Radio, then reverse the process on the other end. Voila, encrypted off-grid communications) Encryption over Ham Radio is illegal, but whatever lmfao, fuck the FCC.

A lot of jaywalking, because I was feeling suicidal and didn't care. Never got a fine lol.

School rules:

Probably the most common is the no-phone rule. (don't worry, my education was fine, didn't miss anything important)

My high-school (in the USA) made you wear a tie, I often don't until staff tells me to, then proptly take it off when they are out of sight. (It's so fucking unfortable) Idk why they even have dress codes when my school was so "ghetto" af.

Workplace:

That no-phone rule again 🙃

Oh, I used a pen and wrote marxist shit on the bathroom walls at my workplace (I'm not even a marxist, I just wanna fuck shit up). Never got caught. Statute of limitations probably expired by now, can't even sue me if they now found out who did it.

Websites: A lot of Terms of Service. A lot of community rules in forums.

What rules have you broken? 👀

I was watching a video and it got me thinking about this. We all know the type. The Jewish friend who comes over every year to ask if you have any leftover Easter ham. The Buddhist who everyone will brag saved them in the war. The Bahai who adheres to reincarnation instead of Heaven. The other day, I met a Muslim walking his pet pig. A match made in Heaven.

What's the biggest deviation from the norm you've seen in someone of a certain religion who otherwise would show they genuinely believe in it?

I've been noticing a recurring sentiment among Americans - frustration and disillusionment with the economy. Despite having gone to school, earned a solid education, and worked hard, many feel they can't get ahead or even come close to the standard of living their parents enjoyed.

I'm curious - is this experience unique to the United States, or do people in other countries share similar frustrations?

Do people in Europe, Australia, Canada, or elsewhere feel like they're stuck in a rut, unable to achieve financial stability or mobility despite their best efforts?

Are there any countries or regions that seem to be doing things differently, where education and hard work can still lead to a comfortable life?

Let's hear from our international community - what's your experience with economic mobility (or lack thereof) in your country?"

Or maybe its divanlayers. In any case, are people who prefer one or the other different in some ways qualitatively?

Do we have a WhoWouldWin community?

You can change the odds in either direction if it is too one sided.

• both teams are aware that a conflict is coming
• Fsociety doesn't get the dark army, and PiedPiper doesn't get the money or staff they have in the later seasons

I haven't spoken to my father in almost two years, and it’s been a painful and complicated journey. One of the pivotal moments for me was on my wedding day. I didn’t receive any message from him—not even a simple acknowledgment. I had hoped to hear from him, and his silence cut deeply, making me realize how distant we had become.

I feel a lot of anger and sadness because it seems like we will never have the relationship I’ve always wanted. I long for a connection where he takes interest in my life and my choices, even when they differ from his own. Instead, I often feel dismissed or disregarded, especially when it comes to my boundaries. For example, whenever politics comes up, I feel disrespected because he tends to push against the limits I’ve tried to set.

There's also a significant element of fear in our dynamic. I worry that if I attempt to rebuild our relationship, he might use his financial resources as a means of control over me and my family. This fear makes it hard for me to see a path forward that feels safe and genuine.

Right now, I’m in a space where I’m trying to determine IF or how I want to re-establish any sort of relationship with him. I want to find out if it’s possible for us to interact in a way that respects each other’s boundaries, takes a real interest in one another’s lives, and supports each other’s choices—even when we disagree. It’s a difficult and ongoing process, but I’m trying to be honest with myself about what I need and what I’m willing to work towards.

Half of the time I look forward to my death, it doesn't scare me since I don't see the real point of my life, what scares me is if my agony would be slow and painful.

But then what? I just stop existing and it's like I fell asleep? Do I see light? Darkness? Nothing? What is nothing?

Just as examples:

• I've never played a Pokemon game despite being just the right age where my peers were really into gen 1 as a kid.
• I have yet to watch any of the Alien or Predator franchise movies (except Prometheus, which I didn't realize was in the Alien franchise when I watched it long ago) but am planning on rectifying that when I can get a chance.
• Oh, and I've never seen the "hawk tuah" video.