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It was a math pre-test so that I can stay in two classes I'm taking right now. Spent about ten minutes trying to reconnect, and eventually logging back in and authenticating. I might have to retake these courses again. >... >

What dumb things have you're housemates done? Please tell me.

...I also wish the surrounding areas of most Canadian universities weren't zoned for single-family housing... U of A, UBC, UVic... It creates a situation where most of the houses in the area have a "renovated" basement or something that is usually not done well. If there was sane zoning (maybe something like is done in Japan where there's basically isn't zoning) then I don't think I would be paying $800 a month to live in a dark, tiny room in a dark, dirty basement suite with dumb housemates that decide to unplug the router without asking and open and close doors like gorillas or talk on the phone until 2am and only stop when threatened with evection.

At least my landlord is nice...ish.

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(these questions are from a self help book by Lindsay C Gibson)

I wish other people were more _________

Why is it so hard for people to _________

For a change, I would love for someone to treat me _________

Maybe one of these days I'll find someone who will _________

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In general, I think it's used to turn the abused person into the guilty party. Excepting the cases where gaslighting is being used to confuse the person about why they're hurt it usually comes from a place of not understanding. Which is forgiveable. But choosing not to learn (or stop doing) whatever is hurting them isn't. Any time a person says "you're too sensitive" they just look a stupid, selfish jackass.

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It's barely noon and I'm ready for bed.

People that take too much require an exhausting amount of energy to defend against. By the time I'm done protecting myself, they've usually got what they want anyway, it sometimes feels like there's no point

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