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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/itsnevercertain on 2023-10-04 23:27:14.

I just cannot see myself hooking up with my friends at all, so hearing that men think about that is always jarring to me. Is it true? Obviously this is not something I can ask in real life, I can't have my friends thinking I'm trying to do them.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/sadunderhappy on 2023-10-04 21:23:09.

I’m a 22F and I don’t have a consistent sex life that involves other people. I masturbate pretty much everyday, sometimes twice. I used to not do it this much but I stopped taking birth control , and stopped having sex, 6 months ago and have noticed I’m pretty much constantly horny now, not sure if the birth control is correlated or not. All throughout the day, all I can think about is sex. I don’t mind daydreaming about it at work, but it’s keeping me from doing my schoolwork because I can’t focus. As soon as I open a word document my mind drifts off to sex and fantasies. yes it’s hot, but I’m not getting anything done. Having sex with someone won’t really help either because then I’ll just daydream about the sex we had. Any ideas?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Oops_Im_Horny_Again on 2023-10-04 17:17:05.

Me (20f) and my bf (21m) have a very healthy “no pressure, you can always say no/stop” dynamic which both of us have communicated about and upheld. But I still can’t shake a strong feeling of guilt everytime I stop sex in the middle of things.

Last night it happened where we were having sex and it felt good, but then it started to head down a path of feeling not so good anymore, and even kind of uncomfortable. My bf noticed I had gotten quiet, asked if was ok, and I asked if we could stop, so we did. And even though he stopped immediately and was totally fine, I still felt really guilty, since I knew he had been enjoying himself. Especially when he went to go “take care of himself” I really felt like I had failed or something.

So how common is this for people? Especially couples who have been together longer, how often do you have to put things to a halt to sex as it’s happening?

Edit: Since everyone keeps suggesting it: Yes we were using lube, we pretty much always use lube.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Super_Change3512 on 2023-10-04 16:34:18.

I was always intrigued by my wife's past sexual experiences mostly because her ex was extremely well endowed. Over the years I kept picturing her with someone much bigger than me. I finally opened up a few weeks ago in my drunkenness and she seemed okay with it but I was apprehensive on getting into more detail.

Well last night she was giving me a handjob and we were just casually talking and then out of no where I asked her to talk about her experience with the biggest penis she's ever had. I asked her to show how much bigger he is than me. And then she started talking dirty about how she'd love to get filled up by someone huge and I ejaculated so quickly and seemingly a lot more. She saw how much that turned me on and gave me permission to at least seek out someone huge and maybe get to watch her.

Is this a normal kink? Like I don't want to be cuckold, just want to watch her with someone huge. Might invest in a penis sleeve or something for myself.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/stinky-boys on 2023-10-04 03:26:27.

I was having sex with my gf and came quick but kept going for a minute or two because she was enjoying it. When I pulled out there was cum on the base of my dick and on/in her vagina. We both didn’t know if this was mine or hers and assumed it was hers. There was still semen at the tip of the condom in the reservoir and didn’t appear to be much going down the sides. There was some in the ring part at the base of the condom but we assumed it was her. She is usually very cummy and she is convinced that it was all her and not me but I’m worried about it. I’ve seen online that even if some leaked out it’s not enough to get pregnant as usually the force of ejaculating pushes the semen into the cervix. Idrk why I’m posting because there isn’t really any advice but I wanted to see. This is my first time continuing at all after cumming and I’m pretty paranoid because she is not on BC

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Personal_Mud9010 on 2023-10-04 10:17:03.

My dad died when I was 10 years old, but in his will he left his house to me. More specifically, he left it to my uncle with instructions to give it to me, but my uncle is great, so when I turned 18 he took me out for the day, and we hung out, and he made a whole thing of giving me ownership. He did a great job of keeping track of stuff and holding on to the stocks retirement funds and life insurance money that my dad left me.

My dad left most of everything to me, with some going to his brother, my uncle, and my aunt. He also left me my car, that my uncle kept until I was 16. The car is technically still in my uncle's name and he pays the insurance.

My dad also left my mom a bit of money, and he even left some money to my half brother M12.

He and my mom were never married. They stayed together even though she cheated, but he still never wanted to get married. My mom says he wanted her to jump through hoops if she ever wanted to marry him, and it never happened before he died.

My mom married my stepdad(My brother and sister's F9 father), And we stayed living in the house. My mom got to live there with me, because of my dad's will, and my stepdad moved in with her.

My mom quit her job after she married my stepdad, and he's the sole income earner, with her as a SAHM. My uncle has never charged my stepdad rent. My stepdad just pays utilities, and he's been giving my uncle money for property taxes. So he's been getting a pretty sweet deal.

Anyway, the other night, I had my boyfriend park down the block and walk to the house so I could sneak him in through the garage, and I had him up in my room. My stepdad ran into him in the morning, when he was trying to sneak out through the kitchen and didn't expect my stepdad to be up. We apologized for startling him and I was a little embarrassed. I tried to laugh it off and tell him it wasn't a big deal and just be casual, but he wasn't having it.

Stepdad fucking blew up at me, saying that I'm not allowed to have boyfriends or girlfriends over, that it's inappropriate, and that it's disrespectful fucking whatever. I told him I didn't have to listen to him, and he tried to pull some my house rules bullshit. That's when I told him that it's actually *my house*, and it always has been. And he's lucky I don't charge him rent. (It's not like I'm going to kick my mom in my siblings out or something, but still, fuck him)

He was fucking livid! He called me a spoiled little brat and he kept having a tantrum. He told my mom to say something, but she kind of just stayed out of it, kind of like she always does. He tried to yell at me some more, but I just told him that it's my fucking house at I’ll do what I want. If I want to have my boyfriend over I can.

I work retail because I don't want to blow through the money my dad left me (It's enough that I could live off it through college, but definitely not long-term. My uncle says I should do my best not to touch it anymore than I need to).

I told my stepdad that if I did charge him rent, even if I gave him a fantastic deal, I could totally just quit my job. He just said I wouldn't fucking dare, but by then it was time for him to go to work anyway.

I gave him every fucking opportunity to not pick fights, but he's just a dick sometimes.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/RecentAlternative380 on 2023-10-03 23:08:29.

I'm not sure if this is the right sub to ask the question, sorry if it's not.

I (28F) am talking to a guy on Feeld. We're meeting in person this Thursday and having sex is a possibility if we like each other - conversations have been going in that direction.

Now I'm new in the world of online dating so I'm a bit nervous already. But I have a rare 'condition' called kosmemophobia. Basically, jewelry triggers me like some people are triggered by spiders - I want to stay away from it and it disgusts me. Sleeping with someone who wears jewelry is a nightmare scenario for me.

Should I tell him up front about this? On one hand, it benefits him if I find him as attractive as possible. On the other hand, I know it's a rare condition and I am afraid he'll think I'm a weirdo. I'm pretty normal, I would say, social, outgoing, not too bad looking, this is definitely my weirdest quirk. Would you find it weird if someone you had not met told you something like "hey, jewelry turns me off, please don't wear it to our date?" This might be a silly question, thanks in advance!

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Zyry2738 on 2023-10-04 06:10:22.

So I recently hooked up with this woman that I met a few weeks ago and everything seemed to go well. However a couple days ago I got a text from a woman saying that she got my number from the woman that I had sex with and now she seems interested. How often does this happen?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/karma-chameleon0-0 on 2023-10-03 22:15:10.

Throwaway account for obvious reasons, but basically my partner and I were getting freaky last night and the next thing you know he’s talking dirty to me and I’m fingering myself. For some dumb reason, I put my fingers in his face and ask if he wants a taste. He then tells me something like "not tonight", and we move on. I go home thinking nothing of it. But then, the next morning, I get a text from him saying that he thinks I have an infection because apparently my vagina smells “really strong” in a way that “isn't just metallic.” For context, I'm a virgin and the only other sexual activity I’ve engaged in is masturbation (which I haven’t done for months prior to this encounter). My vagina feels normal, and I haven’t had any strange discharge or anything. I also showered beforehand, so I doubt it’s a hygiene thing. My initial thought was that it could’ve been the garlic parmesan wings I had for dinner that night. I’ve heard that cranberry juice makes you smell better, so perhaps chicken wings have the opposite effect? Also, would my menstrual cycle have anything to do with a bad smell? My period ended less than a week ago, and I’m worried that might be making me stink too. We were also in a car on a warm night, so sweat is probably a factor here as well. And, worse case scenario, are there any infections that someone in my position could have that would cause this? Could one of my other holes be infected, which would make it seem like my vagina smells? I’ve been on the verge of tears all day so any help would be appreciated. Thank you all in advance.

EDIT: Thank you guys for all your support and advice! Just to clarify, no he has not smelled my vagina before. This was our first time doing anything like this. Also, I talked to him today and he just said that it smelled really strong. I asked if it smelled fishy, and he said he didn't know (which I assume to be a no).

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ThrowRAJohnThe on 2023-10-04 05:37:50.

My (33M) wife (33F) wife is the supreme nerd. PhD in Chemistry, history buff, math whiz, trilingual, quotes LoTR and Marvel...the works. She's beautiful and kind and good at a lot of things, but she is not really "sexy" per se. In the traditional understanding of the word at least. I'm intensely attracted to her and she is, to me, easily the most breathtaking woman in any room, but sexy isn't really the world that comes to mind. She's incredibly awkward and that showed tonight when she tried to do this dance routine that she got off of YouTube, I think. We haven't really been having sex because we have 8 month old twins that are just starting to sleep through the night and our other kids are 5 and 3. I am tired by the time I get to bed and legitimately just want to go to sleep.

I was in the office downstairs. She came downstairs in minimal clothing and the one pair of heels that she owns, brought her phone/bluetooth speaker, played "Body Party" and started doing this absolutely ridiculous dance routine. I was smiling because I appreciate where it was coming from, but she tried to go down and fell and that's where my reaction went from "aw this is cute" to uncontrollable laughter. Idk wtf is wrong with me but she was not amused and quickly left to the living room. I told her I wasn't laughing at her but the move she tried to do in those heels was just never going to go well, and asked her if she was okay. She said "well, my husband laughed at me when I tried to do something nice for him so no I'm definitively not okay." I told her "sexy" isn't really her thing and that's okay. Realized immediately that that was not the right thing to say because she looked shattered. Said she was going to bed.

I feel like a good and proper asshole with no idea how to make up for it. Because no matter what she can't unheard that but I don't think I expressed my meaning very well.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Hot_Yellow1741 on 2023-10-04 03:09:44.

Last night I climbed into bed & snuggled with my husband, only because he woke up a little when I climbed in (about 30 minutes after he went to bed) & I felt like a cuddle. Laid there enjoying my cuddle & he started rubbing my back, then my arms, I was waiting for him to kiss me good night & roll me off (I am a hot sleeper & last night was too warm) as this is the norm, 52M, 46F with 3 teens in the house & those assholes get up at all hours.

Nope he grabbed a fist full of my hair, yanked my head up & kissed the living daylights out of me, then pushed my head down to suck him off and then fucked me hard for a good hour (I loved everything he did).

Each time I move today I feel where he was, I even have light bruises from his fingers on my hips & a few love bites around, one was noticed at the gym this morning.

Any suggestions on how to return the favour tonight, I was just going to climb into bed & suck him off again, but thought there might be a better option. I really don't mind walking funny tomorrow.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Emergency_Hotel9564 on 2023-10-03 20:54:29.

I don't even really know why I'm typing this, guess I just want to put it somewhere and it's a strange conversation to have with friends. In the past I (f, early 20s) was repeatedly sexually assaulted and abused by an ex partner. This led to me developing a condition that made sex painful and I had to do a lot of physical and mental therapy to get over it and for a long time I thought I'd never be able to have sex again, never conceive my own child, have a long term relationship, it was awful. But I worked hard to move on, and I met someone. The sex is amazing and safe and happy. I feel like I've lost my virginity all over again, everything with this man feels new and exciting. I'm so happy all the time, we're trying all these new things in bed that I've never experienced and I feel like I've unlocked a whole new part of my life. I'm glowing from the inside out every day. I've never felt this cared for, safe and satisfied during sex. Due to my own anxieties I was unable to orgasm for a long time even solo and this man takes the time to make sure I finish every single time. It's amazing, I just want to live in this happy bubble forever. Anyways, bit of an odd post I think but I just wanted to say it somehow, I love sex and I'm happy. I didn't know it could be like this :)

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ItsSoPCItsKillingMe on 2023-10-04 03:40:12.

So new account but not new. Just had to make a change. Ok so I am 35f and I am married to a 42m. We have friends that are also 42 and married. We will call them Ashley and Tommy. We have known them 4 years. So I have known Tommy has a crush on me for a while because of his mannerisms. I just ignore it and avoid him. But a few weeks ago he bumped into me and cupped my breast in front of everybody at a football party. But it was done in a way that looked accidental. It definitely wasn’t. There were a lot of people around so I didn’t blow up. But I gave him an evil death stare.

Later that night I told my husband. He said he couldn’t be sure what happened because he didn’t see it clearly but that if I said that’s what happened than he was happy to go have a “talk” with him. I told him to not worry about it. That he was drunk and I mainly was concerned about my husband knowing.

Yesterday Tommy texted me about an upcoming sporting event we had intended to all go to together. He said my husband wasn’t replying which to be fair, my husband is awful about replying during work hours. But then Tommy kept trying to extend the conversation asking about life stuff. So I started withdrawing from it. When out of the blue he texts me and says “so Im not going to lie I have the hots for you. I can’t stop thinking about you. I know you are lonely but if you want to come over I think we can both do each other a favor.”

I was disgusted honestly. I’m in no way attracted to him and what a dog. So I texted back “Tommy I am a happily married woman. Don’t ever text me again. If you need something you text my husband or have your wife text me. And if you ever do text me, I will show a screenshot of this conversation to both our spouses.”

He never replied.

So I feel like I shouldn’t tell my husband and friend because it destroys 2 families. Am I doing the right thing? 😕

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Specialist_Cap6247 on 2023-10-03 23:23:07.

Almost 4 year relationship. Partner has “no desire” for me, claims I’m insanely attractive,deep in love, is outwardly affectionate in all other aspects ect ect..but in the bedroom desire is 0.

I’m a very sexual person with a high libido. I’d go daily if I could. Sex is fun, feels good, and is even better when it’s with someone you love and trust completely. We average once a month at most.

Not married, but right now this is my forever person. He has no desire to fix the problem so it’s a take it or leave it type situation. I don’t intend to leave, I can get myself off, I just miss feeling desired and my self esteem has taken a hit. Is this relationship doomed?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Ok-Payment3034 on 2023-10-03 22:27:34.

Yesterdaywhile buzzed , my wife (35) and I (37) did something we always fantasized about, but should have left as a fantasy. We had a MMF threesome, with a neighbor.

We picked a neighbor because we thought the chances of a repeat performance were less likely. It took a while of talking to get him ( 25 ) to try it too.

Anyhow, to be honest, we all really liked it So what's the problem ?

She was going down on me, he slowly worked on inserting in her anus. I thought something was up because the pace slowed, and she stopped moaning and starting making grunting sounds ( the same kind of sounds you make after dropping a deuce ) but I just didn't know exactly what he was doing behind her.

Well it hit me when we changed positions and she went to mount him in a reverse cowgirl and I saw him inserting in her anus.

My problem is I have always wanted to have anal sex with her and never have been afforded the opportunity, she always said " No " and

yet there he was taking her anal virginity ( without even asking her first ) and having at it throughout the whole threesome. I feel something has been taken from me and I can never look at her the same.

I talked to her about this afterwards and she had apologized saying she " got carried away and went with the flow of things "

I know it took two to tango, in this case three, but I'd think it would have been understood that our "guest" would at least have the same guidelines as her husband, or less.

Didn't know I needed to write up a contract covering the rules.

I know I carry a certain portion of the blame here, but how do I move forward?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/sad_mango_2638 on 2023-10-03 17:46:47.

My boyfriend and future fiancé that I love with all my heart is so bad in bed and it annoys me so much. He can’t even kiss me right and I’m so tired of directing his every little move just to make it somewhat okay.

His kisses are too hard, it’s like he’s putting his head’s weight on my face and I can’t move my lips unless he reduces the weight. I’ve told him a million times about this while kissing and I still have to remind him till this day. Besides the weight, he is also very monotone. No playfulness no changing the rhythm.

When we have sex he has noooooo fucking clue what to do with my pussy and clit. He has a good dick and he knows how to use it well but I don’t cum from PIV sex, I need clitoral stimulation. I’ve guided him, shown him, held his hand in the process and nothing works. I’m getting so frustrated, he is so bad at everything that has to do with handling a partner, he lack rhythm and coordination. I have yet to have my first orgasm by him..

Not to mention the enormous feeling of disappointment when I have to tell him the 100th time not to do something or to actually touch me right. 5 years later and he still hasn’t figured out how my body works.

Help, how can you fix an unfixable lover? I’ve done the talking, the showing, the guiding, now what???? Am I doomed to have bad sex and awful makeout sessions forever?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/CapnJackSparrow6 on 2023-10-03 19:59:51.

Me (M24) and my gf (F22) had sex this morning and were under the impression that we had the house to ourselves (a rare opportunity, might I add).

So of course we got busy. I was performing like Shaq in his prime, we were loud as fuck - absolutely no filter. Picture a big guy running in flip flops. Just firing on all cylinders; after all, nobody was home.

And then we finish and I go to use the washroom just to discover my grandma in the living room folding laundry.

I am not a suicidal person by any means, but man I would not mind if someone shot me in the back of the head right now. I am so fucking embarrassed I feel like throwing up. Why did it have to be my grandma of all people?!

Someone please help me get over this.

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/karlos1234554321 on 2023-10-03 19:50:14.

I 19m was at a party and started talking to her during the night things got heated, she didn’t want to have sex which was good since I didn’t have a condom but she offered oral. I was ecstatic and took her back to my place to shower. After a while when we where ready and watching a movie she whispered to me “Im trans and have a dick” not that exact but that was the jist. I knew before I met her from another time so I was okay with it, but I got nervous and responded to that “it’s okay i have a dick too” she laughed and eventually got back to it after she stopped laughing. What should I have said that’s more appropriate? I felt so embarrassed I didn’t want to un woma her in any way I just didn’t know.

Edit:THANK YOU FOR ALL THE TIPS I FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF BUT I AM NOT A A PART OF CONGRESS OR ANY WORLD GOV I PROMISE I DONT WANT TO DISCUSS TRANS ISSUES LEAVE THAT TO THE PROFESIONALS THERE NOT MAKING LAWS BASED OFF THIS POST IM NOT XI HIMSELF

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/burner9069 on 2023-10-03 18:44:05.

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and we're both 25.

Everything in our relationship has been great up until about two months ago. A couple months ago she asked me if I'd have a threesome with her and another guy, she wants to watch me get fucked by a man and she said she knows a guy who's up for it. I told her no because I'm just really not comfortable with that at all it doesn't sound fun it sounds awful I want to make her happy obviously but I don't wanna do that.

She said it's fine and I thought she'd leave it at that but she keeps bringing it up, she keeps asking me even though I always say no. It's exhausting, she's making me feel really shitty about saying no and it's really messing up our relationship.

She accuses me of not loving which is definitely not true at all I love her so much I don't understand why she would think I don't.

I really don't want to do it but I don't want her to leave me either I literally don't know what to do I'd really appreciate some advice please

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/CandyMain4249 on 2023-10-03 10:12:20.

So I’m classified as a plus size woman (I wear a size 16, I’m 5’9 and weigh 240). I’m nervous about having sex 🙃I hung out with this guy and have him head, which was my very first time and he told me it was the best he’s ever had which I’m assuming is a lie 😂 he asked to hangout again soon and I said yeah. Clearly I know what he wants next. He’s not a plus sized guy so I’m just worried. Can I have some tips or advice or something? Pls don’t judge me or hate me lmao. Idk why I’m so nervous about it

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/sarah0119 on 2023-10-03 14:12:27.

So I’m 31F and recently divorced, so I’ve been dating sites and such just looking and going out here and there, recently went out with this guy who was 34 and he was hot and was a gentlemen. After 2 dates in I looked up his fb and boom, married. When i asked he told me he was single, I feel bad now because I know as a women what it’s like to be cheated on. Do I tell his wife? Do I just ghost him? Ask him?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/Ok_Conference6782 on 2023-10-03 17:04:56.

feel self conscious about it . Like I wonder if the guy is into it. A previous partner said he didn't do it much when we met but then decided to do it cause he was suddenly wanting to go down on me. I was suprised cause when we discussed it wasn't something he's into.

So my question is ..do u guys actually enjoy it ? What dou get from it ?

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/xCoffee-Addictx on 2023-10-03 04:15:19.

I just REALLY need to hear that I did the right thing.

When I tell you this was the best sex of my life, I mean it. We were seeing each other 1-3x a week and our sessions lasted for hours. He made my body do things I never knew it could and he always said the right things. I think he’s really hot and the sexual compatibility is just through the roof. We had been seeing each other for 6 months.

I didn’t want a relationship at the start as I was emotionally unavailable and needed to focus on myself, and my career. Just recently however my feelings have started to form.

We don’t text/ talk much these days which is why I’ve been pretty confident that he only likes me sexually, yet I still feel like we have a decent amount in common and like taking things slow would’ve been worth giving dating a shot. I would never want to ask that of him though as it would probably make him uncomfortable to say no.

I texted him that I was sorry but I can’t do this anymore. He asked why and I told him that I have feelings I’m unable to keep detached. He said that’s understandable.

I wasn’t trying to bait him or ask for more (I was kinda hoping he wouldn’t even ask me why as I really didn’t need further rejection) and I 100% expected this type of response, yet I’m still sad about it. I have no interest in getting with anyone else and I fr feel like the sex will never be topped. Goddamn feelings just haaad to go and ruin this for me..

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/DoctorMingus on 2023-10-03 00:32:42.

She's REALLY HOT and her buttox hole was prestige, super clean, I could stick a dipstick in there and it wouldn't smell and be brown. But... idk how you people do it, eating a butthole turned out to be way less hot than I thought and the whole time I was doing it I felt sickened.

Is this normal? I'm scared she'd want me to do do that again

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/ThrowThatFroYo on 2023-10-02 21:43:37.

I’ve been seeing this girl for about 2 months now. We’ve only had sex twice. she’s only had 1 sexual partner before me(we’re both in our late 20s) so there are some things she’s new to. One of those things being doggy. She was nervous to try it but was open to giving it a shot. We ended up not doing anything in doggy because she was too tight and doesn’t like to get fingered but her butt did not have a great smell. In the moment I figured I could power thru it but the memory of the smell has been living in my head and I can’t get over it. I’m not new to the back door having a bit of an odor when in doggy but this was just particularly strong

She’s a really sweet girl and I 100% know if I told her in a gentle way she’d die and probably never want to try doggy again. So how do I navigate this?