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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/tessmal08 on 2023-09-23 04:31:54.

This happened a few months ago. I went in to my pcp for my annual wellness exam. Everything was going fine until I wanted to speak with my doc (a female) about my recent heavy periods. By heavy, I mean an ultra tampon every 2-3 hours heavy. Luckily only for the first day or two but it leaves me exhausted. I’m telling her that this is happening and how I considered going to the ER once because I was bleeding so bad. Mid conversation, she stands up and walks out the door leaving me completely confused. Comes back a couple mins later with a packet of paperwork and asks me if I have a will or advance directive in place. I looked at her and said “Why? You think I’m going to die?” I was half joking which I tend to do when I’m uncomfortable or nervous. She replied that they’re just trying to make sure their patients have them in place. I asked her again about why my heavy periods could be happening. She shook her head and asked if I’d like her to prescribe me some birth control to help. And that was it. No further questions, no sort of exam, nothing. My husband had a vasectomy and the last thing I want to do is go back on the pill for whatever reason. Especially not a well thought out one. I was honestly shocked at the whole thing.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/smexychica4991 on 2023-09-23 04:29:54.

Most if not all dudes who cat call women have no genuine interest in the women herself. They cat call because it amuses them, they do it just because they can. They enjoy the power of making someone else feel uncomfortable. By the way, most of the time the attention is unwanted. Some women do enjoy that type of attention, but the majority of women don't like having objectifying, almost lewd comments being yelled at them from some random stranger.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/HereAgainWeGoAgain on 2023-09-23 03:04:10.

Just had a video chat. Haven't even met once. Been talking for a week or two. I'm in my mid-30s. He's in his mid 40s. He doesn't own a home, and asked if I own mine.

I lied and told him I don't. I've been warned by multiple women not to let men know you own your own home so that your don't become a target.

It made me uncomfortable that he asked. Is it a red flag?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ornery_Basketcase on 2023-09-23 02:55:29.

And would you consider this scolding?

My bf only does this in front of his kids, which makes it even more embarrassing and demeaning. He's done it 4 times to me but I get more and more angry each time.

So if I say something he doesn't want me to say or talk about (for example just now I said I didn't like the whiney indie girl vocals of the band his daughter was listening to, AFTER she asked me my opinion) he tells me to quit bashing it or tells me he doesn't want me to talk about it (whatever it is that I said). He talks to me like he's talking to one of his kids.

Like you can't tell me what I can and can't say. And IF I were truly being offensive (which I never say anything hateful, ever!), talk to me later about it, right? Like don't fucking scold me in front of the kids. I feel like that's chauvinistic. Man telling woman to be quiet.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/No-Construction9594 on 2023-09-23 03:23:34.

I don’t think me as a heterosexual women will ever be fulfilled with a man. They disgust me in all shapes and forms when they talk about sex and I’m realizing there are no men who are the exceptions- they’re just better at hiding it.

My soon to be ex who I cherished ruined our relationship over a lot but it all started with a not so secret porn addiction. When I caught him he was in straight denial and everything went to hell from there.

I was his first everything, so he told me but I learned he lied a lot in our relationship and it’s so messed up considering I thought he was someone who was so different from other men.

I’ve lost hope. Please tell me there is more genuine peace and a happiness with living alone with a pet than a man.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Sensitive-Concern598 on 2023-09-23 02:22:39.

Like, I'm not looking for grand gestures. I'm not looking for a man to spend a bunch of money on me. I'm not looking for a guy who looks like Henry Cavill or Oscar Issac. I just want a partner who is as into me as I am into them. Why is that too high of a standard?

The last few relationships I've been in have felt so one sided. If I wanted to go out on a date, I had to plan the whole thing. One of my exes was chronically late to everything, and not like 5-10 minutes late. Like, 30-60 minutes behind, no matter the circumstances. No remorse. Another guy spent every free moment he had drinking/drunk, so getting him to do couple's stuff was a nightmare. And he complained about it constantly. I am so angry at myself for wasting 2 years of my life on that asshole.

So now, at 30, I feel like I've gotten a pretty good idea of who I am as a person and what I want out of a relationship (I have my amazing therapist to thank for that). And I don't think I want anything unrealistic. I just want someone who is going to match my energy. Who will initiate conversation as often as I do, who will take am equal interest in my hobbies as I do theirs. Someone who actually want to spend time with me, and show up on time, sober and happy to see me.

But apparently, that's too much to ask. At least it was too much to ask the guys I've dated.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Depressonsandwich on 2023-09-23 03:20:30.

My dad is currently in the process of hiring a new manager for one of the company’s smaller stores. They hadn’t really had any good candidates yet until this guy applied, he was absolutely perfect in every way and had lots of experience in similar roles.

When the man comes in to do the in person interview my dad automatically notices that he refuses to talk to the female coworker who is with my dad and made her so uncomfortable she had to leave the office to go and cry.

Dad decided not to hire him and made sure the female coworker was ok. It was so blatant that dad noticed it straight away.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Massive_Cult on 2023-09-23 00:11:34.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Fantastic_Fly7301 on 2023-09-22 21:58:19.

The card reader at my work broke. Can use tap to pay or have to have the chip fail 3x then the mag strip will work. So I spend a good portion of my day telling people to take their card out and put it back it. The number or men who go oooo get to do something dirty, or chuckle and just say dirty. Like the card reader being broke is hard enough having to deal with people being pervy on top of that making me want to quit.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/alokaloka22 on 2023-09-23 01:34:37.

I know it’s a trend and that’s exactly why I felt like I had to say: just don’t, really. Or, if you do, don’t finger anyone.

There’s no such thing as “if done right/properly, it’s fine” or “it’s only a problem if you don’t know how to do it”. THE problem is having long nails and there’s no possibility to don’t cause fissures and pain in a woman’s vagina if you’re going to finger her with long nails.

It’s an absolute turn off, it hurts, it causes micro wounds that can even make a vagina prone to getting an infection.

Please, don’t be this person. I get amazed at how there are many women who still don’t know about it.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Spare_Violinist2272 on 2023-09-23 00:51:39.

Basically the title. Me abd my boyfriend of 4 years were talking about something really boring today, so please bare with the boring story to follow. However, it's now ended up with me sleeping in the spare room as I'm so confused with how I feel.

I was talking about a friend of my friend and how she apparently used to be a bully.

My boyfriend (t) then said this person couldn't be a bully she's just a b*tch. I then replied saying that can be how girls bully. T then foot annoyed and said "alright, why are you always disagreeing with me?"

I was then quiet as we had to walk around a supermarket but then when we left I said "I was disagreeing with you disagreeing with me, that doesn't mean I'm always disagreeing with you" in (what I thought) was a relatively calm tone. He then got annoyed saying that we'd only been around each other for two days and we were already arguing all the time.

I'm so confused and at a loss, I think I now just stand up for myself more. I'll admit I do react with a tone when I'm spoken to with a tone but I think I'm always respectful. I feel like my boyfriend is making me feel bad for standing up for myself by trying to make me feel like it's just me being argumentative.

Sorry for the rant, has anyone had this before? Any idea how to deal with it? I think I should be ok to say how I feel without feeling like I'm the one ruining the relationship.

I'm also happy to be told I'm in the wrong by anyone here, so please feel free to provide me with constructive criticism.

Thanks all x

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/unhingedvibe on 2023-09-22 23:18:13.

Hi! I'm incredibly awkward so I need step by step instructions. I've never had a guy come over to hookup at my place so I feel incredibly lost??? Who makes the first move??? Do I just bring him to my room, do l offer him some water, do I play a movie should I have music on etc etc? Please someone give me step by step instructions on what to do when he steps through my door. He's really hot and cool and I don't wanna fuck it up smh.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/BeachPeachMcgee on 2023-09-22 21:50:41.

I'm almost 30 years old and have been menstruating since I was 14. I've struggled the entire time with severe period cramps. I'd have to call in sick to school/work. I'd be bed ridden, losing consciousness, and had severe nausea/vomiting from being in so much pain.

I once waited 9 hours before seeking medical treatment to pass a kidney stone, because I thought it was just period cramps.

Every damn month, for one day, I'd be completely fucked up.

But since it was only 1 day, I couldn't justify dealing with the symptoms of birth control. I tried and failed many times.

In February I got a new job, that was a huge upgrade from what I was doing and making before. It's stress free and I love what I'm doing. Ever since I started working this job, my lifelong struggle with period cramps just... went away? I bleed for half as long, and they are half as heavy... just poof...

I know stress is a big part of menstrual pain, but I am having a hard time believing it can just go away entirely after starting a good job.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? What are your theories?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/otadak on 2023-09-22 22:12:15.

I’m 29 years-old and I was born in 1994 in NY. My grandpa (who has since passed) purchased Teddy for me the day in the hospital gift shop before I was born. I’m hoping that someone out there can help me find him.

I had a really traumatic childhood and Teddy was the only one who was there for me through everything. I carried Teddy with me everywhere throughout my childhood and I slept with him every night. He was my best friend and I miss him so much.

When I was in 9th grade, my evil (and that’s putting it lightly) stepmother threw him away in the trash while I was at school one day. I was devastated and was told “it’s just a bear, you’re 14, get over it”. The thought of him being tossed into a landfill haunts me to this day. My dad eventually divorced her, but the pain and trauma this woman caused me still lingers (to the point where i was diagnosed with PTSD).

Three years ago, my boyfriend contacted the gift shop at the hospital where I was born and spoke with an employee who was able to look to see what brands they had as suppliers in 1993-1996: GUND, Ganz, and Aurora. These brands have very particular designs of their bears and I was able to narrow it down to GUND. I sent a representative from GUND the picture of me and Teddy and she was able to look in their archives to confirm for me that he is in fact a Karitas Tender Teddy by GUND. She said she did not have any other information she could provide.

Teddy was a very light pink color with black/dark brown eyes that felt like marbles. I remember his nose being hard and not sewn into his face. He has very rounded features, and his stuffing was more stiff-like and he was not floppy. He did not have any patches or threads sewn on him and he did not have a mouth. He did not have a rattle inside. I believe he was between 18-20”. I have scoured Mercari and Ebay and have only found the bear in other colors or smaller sizes.

This link is the closest I’ve found, except I remember him having a hard nose. This bear is the same color and material and overall shape:

I’ve attached a picture of me and him below (I know I look like a boy lol thanks for the haircut, Mom 🙄).

I know it’s a shot in the dark here to ever find him again. He got me through so much during my childhood and I will never give up on him. I appreciate any and all help I can get 💗

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/sourdoughbitch on 2023-09-22 21:19:14.

I work in a corporate setting full of men and when I walk down the hallway I politely smile at them or say good morning. There are a few men who look at me and immediately look away when I smile or won’t even look in my direction at all but are sociable with others. I don’t smell! What could be the reason behind it? It doesn’t affect my job but I am just so curious.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/NectarineOverPeach on 2023-09-22 21:13:14.

Sinks separate from toilets, and no trash cans in the bathroom with the toilet. The trash can that is by the sink doesn’t even have a liner. I understand the intention to make the sink available to others but come fucking on.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ThrowRA7788990w on 2023-09-22 21:24:33.

I (F23) recently graduated from university and have >40K GBP of debt. My (M31) long term bf has quite a good job and he’s done very well for himself. He’s been talking about paying off my student loans from his savings, so I don’t have to repay it from my payslip.

This is where he’s been acting creepy, telling me how I will owe him, but can “repay the debt in other ways”, i.e. that I will owe him and have to repay him with sexual favours. He’s said I should be proud I “give blowjobs worth this much” and that repaying the loan will be worth every penny for him. He’s been saying how if he pays it, he expects a blowjob every night when he gets home from work. He’s saying how I best start giving him the ones where his thing goes down my throat and where my eyes water so much, he can see my mascara running.

He's started treating me like his personal secretary, telling me to do his admin, like checking emails telling me to dress up in a way which makes him feel like I exist to serve him. He puts his hands on my body and starts rubbing me down, on my breasts and vagina, then telling me to “get down there and fix what I’ve done”, when he becomes erect. He often doesn’t let me go until he’s satisfied himself, he also doesn’t let me go until I’ve also had an orgasm and he’s seen me all flushed out. It’s start to feel like he masturbates using me as his personal sex toy ☹

I feel grateful for him wanting to pay this off and we love one another so much. He’s very loyal and I’m proud of him. We want the same things in life and I’ve v attracted to him, I worry that I am letting down the female empowerment community with this dynamic.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/isathrowaway220 on 2023-09-22 20:48:23.

So something shitty just happened and I really need to vent about it. I’m so angry and hurt right now. My brother tried to purposely crash his car because he didn’t want to go into work today. We work at the same place so we usually carpool in together. He kept complaining the whole way there about how much he hates his job and how he wishes they would fire him.

On the street leading into our work there’s a side street that has a really bad blind spot. People coming out of the street into the main rode tend to just pull out carelessly. We’ve nearly gotten into an accident more times then I can count just from driving past it. Today when we were passing that side street he started speeding up really fast. I got scared and told him to slow down and he told me to shut the fuck up. I thought he was just afraid of being late for work at first but then it dawned on me. He was hoping someone would pull out of the side street and he would get into an accident. He wouldn’t have to go to work. Here’s the thing, the side street is on the passenger side, meaning I would’ve been the one feeling the crash the most. I could’ve been seriously injured or even killed. But I doubt that crossed his mind. Or he just didn’t care.

I’m so mad. He acts like such an entitled child. He hates his job so much but doesn’t even attempt to find a new one. My mom and I have been telling him for years now to just quit. My mom even wrote a resignation letter for him. He refuses and complains that no one else will hire him. So he just stews in his mysery and takes it out on us. He does nothing to improve his life. This whole incident just infuriates me so much. He’s so selfish. He’d risk his own sisters life because he doesn’t want to go to work. He’s like a child trying to everything to get out of going to school. Only difference is he can freely leave this job at any time. But I guess risking his car and sister just to get out of working is easier then quitting a job that pays $16 an hour and finding something better. But what do I know? I’m not his sister, I’m just a nag and collateral damage in his dream on-purpose car crash.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Professional_Suit270 on 2023-09-22 20:28:33.

Original Title: WOMEN OF VIRGINIA: Get ready to VOTE! Every seat on the state legislature is up for grabs on November 7, and early voting begins TODAY! Republicans are moving to ban abortion statewide if they win, so vote to protect women's reproductive health!

News on early voting getting underway:

Republicans already control the Governorship, and that position will NOT be up for grabs, but the entire state legislature will, where Democrats have a narrow majority in the State Senate and Republicans have the smallest possible majority in the State House.

Governor Youngkin aka Trumpkin has previously discussed his desire to curtail abortion access in the state . Abortion is currently legal in Virginia through the first and second trimester, and the state is the only major one in the South and Southeast to have widespread access other than Florida, where their Governor Ron DeSantis is in court trying to enforce a 6-week ban. As such it is a crucial destination for women's medical and reproductive care in the region.

Youngkin is trying to pivot on the issue, and is running on a "common ground compromise" of 15 weeks with exceptions. But we've seen in almost every Republican state that has restricted abortion how the exceptions, especially for saving the mother's life, were so vague and unreadable that doctors were scared to perform their jobs in fear of Republicans prosecuting them for the woman not being near death enough to qualify it as a threat to her life.

We've also seen in less rural states under Republican control how they ran on "common sense compromise" abortion legislation to get elected, only to then turn around and try to ban it entirely less than a year later. In Florida in 2022, Republicans instituted a 15-week ban with exceptions just as Youngkin proposes in Virginia. As with other Republican states, the exceptions were poorly worded and didn't protect anyone, leading to this . Republicans then won the next election and less than ONE YEAR later, that 15-week "common ground compromise" became a 6-week abortion ban WITH abortion pill restrictions . Which they are now trying to enforce in court.

Don't let Virginia be the next state to befall this fate. Get out and vote to protect your reproductive rights!

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/JustMyOpinionz on 2023-09-22 19:12:45.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ShinyHappyPurple on 2023-09-22 18:59:11.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Professional_Suit270 on 2023-09-22 18:38:26.

Original Title: Brazilian Supreme Court to vote on decriminalizing abortion in the First Trimester. Current law only allows abortion in cases of rape or to save the mother's life, although 1 million take place every year outside those exceptions

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/twiggy_panda_712 on 2023-09-22 17:52:18.

My close male friend confessed his feelings for me, and I don’t feel the same. I am openly lesbian and he knew this from the start of our friendship. So even though he knew he wouldn’t have a chance, he still told me how he felt. I responded in a very gentle and nice way while still being honest and I don’t feel the same and never will. This person is a really good friend and has accepted me and supported me in ways others haven’t (I’m auDHD so I’m kind of a lot to handle and get along with). I don’t want to stop being friends with him. I value our friendship and want to continue being friends, but this will absolutely change things. I don’t want things to be awkward, but I know they will be. Perhaps he’d been dropping hints for a while that he liked me romantically, but my autistic ass didn’t pick up on any of these cues. Regardless, I would like to continue being friends with him, I just don’t know how to move forward after this. Do I act like nothing is changed? Do I set new boundaries? Idk what to do:(

Edit: just some things I wanted to add. We have a long distance friendship bc I graduated college and moved back home, so we already don’t see each other. Also, I told him I wasn’t upset that he told me but I am. He knew I was gay and still chose to share his feelings and make things awkward. This has also happened to him before. He had a close female friend and confessed his feelings for her to which she responded that she was a lesbian and didn’t feel the same. They stopped being friends after that. He actually told me this early in our friendship so I made it very clear I was gay so he wouldn’t develop feelings. Yet here we are anyway.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Choice_Ad_7862 on 2023-09-22 17:26:05.

I've got a teen who is taking medication for some mental health issues and she says it just isn't working at all. Like she feels no change from it for better or worse. We have tried many many meds at this point and she says the same thing for every single one. She's tried every antidepressant on the market, plus lithium, plus various ADHD meds, plus anxiety meds, plus sleeping meds, plus various supplements like iron, magnesium, vitamin D. All of them having no effect good or bad. Is it possible that truly none of these meds have any effect on her? I'm not sure what to do to help her anymore.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/womp-the-womper on 2023-09-22 18:25:03.

Last night I was taking my dog out to go potty before bed. We live on the top floor of an apartment with an elevator, which I use because of disability and convenience. I was alone, a man joined us in the elevator going down. Immediately he starts asking me tons of personal questions and complimenting different parts of my outfit (which just made me feel really seen and not in a good way). He starts asking me if I’m taking my dog out on a walk, and what our usual walking route was, and if we cross through a park. It made me really uncomfortable, and I did not reply because of course I didn’t want to tell him my route and where I was going (as an alone women at night). We got off the elevator, he went out the front door and I went the other way to avoid him. In the parking lot as he was walking to his car, he kept looking back at me and waving.

In hindsight I should’ve just gone back up to the apartment and come back down a bit later but I was sick and tired (the fever also clouded my judgement/ ability to respond)

A few days earlier in that same elevator, someone heavily under the influence of something cornered me in that elevator and kept reaching for me/ my dog.

Both times I responded as submissively as I could (other than slapping the dudes hands away multiple times) because I was genuinely worried (as a SA survivor).

I don’t know if the guy last night was genuinely a creep but he really creeped me out. I feel it should be common knowledge to not ask women about their “usual route” especially while it’s night and they’re alone- and asking if you’re going on that route now.

Im just glad I have my scary looking German shepherd with me, which deters people from escalating any creepy behavior.

Being a women is exhausting!!