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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/wickedone20 on 2023-09-22 18:12:05.

My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend just broke up with her. They were semi long distance and he was supposed to come see her next weekend with his mom. She’s been so excited, she was counting down the days.

But he called her today and told her having a long distance relationship is too hard and that he’s losing feelings for her. So he told her he wasn’t coming and broke up with her.

My mom was never there for me during my first heartbreak and I just really want to support her as best as I can. Does anyone have any tips here?

We already had a long talk and she does online school, so I told her she could take the rest of the day off. And if she needs anything at all, I’m here always. She said she just wanted to lay down and cry and I told her whatever she needs to do, that’s more than ok.

I just don’t really don’t know how else to support her. Seeing my baby heartbroken has definitely got me feeling the same for her…

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/graciebeeapc on 2023-09-22 17:10:33.

This is not meant to hate on them back, but I feel like when I encounter someone hateful or misogynistic on the internet there is a pretty good chance I’ll click on their profile and see that they’re a middleschool to highschool age boy and love playing first person shooter games. Anyone have theories for why that is?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/riverthenerd on 2023-09-22 17:06:49.

I’m 24 and a nonbinary afab. I have had a scoliosis diagnosis since middle school. I’ve tried bracing and multiple rounds of PT. Hell, my parents were even desperate enough to take me to a chiropractor. Nothing worked but the brace, which just slows progression but doesn’t reverse anything. Last year I had a 5 year follow up X-ray and I was told I had 2 32° curves. The orthopedist literally said he could do nothing and that I will just become disabled when I’m older. This year I saw a rheumatologist for widespread joint pain/hypermobility and he did a spine X-ray to see if my scoliosis was causing at least the hip pain. He put my scoliosis at moderate-to-severe. He ordered a lumbar MRI, which revealed I had herniated discs, bulging discs, and osteoarthritis. And that’s just my lumbar. Who knows what I’ve got going on in the other parts of my spine where i have equally terrible pain. And because I have curves under 45° i can’t get surgery due to “liability concerns”. Doesn’t matter how horribly I’m suffering or how poorly the conservative treatments work.

The pain is so bad that I get stomachaches from the amount of ibuprofen i take. And I combine the ibuprofen with Tylenol Arthritis (max otc strength) and lidocaine patches, but nothing changes. Some days I stay in bed. I also have chronic leg pain that occurs with the back pain that feels like my legs are being crushed. Leg pain that’s so mind numbingly severe that sometimes I need someone to stay with me so I don’t do anything insane to escape the pain. Like I literally lose my mind from experiencing pure agony beyond my comprehension.

Today i saw a man with a VERY mild case of scoliosis say he was “finally” offered surgery after being diagnosed for TWO YEARS. He posted his xray and it was so mild that at first glance it looks normal. He said that because he was having nerve pain his doctors offered spinal fusion. When people asked if the surgery was really for his scoliosis since it was almost too mild for a scoliosis diagnosis, he said “yes that’s what they told me”. He’s getting several vertebrae fused to straighten out his slightly imperfect spine. ITS NOT FUCKING FAIR. WHY DO I HAVE TO SUFFER FOR YEARS AND WATCH MY SPINE FALL APART WHILE MEN GET CURED WHEN THEY START HAVING TOO MUCH PAIN? I have never felt so enraged. Men can literally just waltz into a doctors office and ask for major spinal surgery with several potential complications and get told yes because it’s their body their choice, but I could kick and scream for even something as small as a lidocaine 5% prescription and they would probably call me dramatic and tell me to try a 5th round of PT. I don’t know why suffering is expected for us. Good for him for getting relief, but why can’t I have that kind of relief too when I have it so much worse and for so much longer?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Genuine_friend012 on 2023-09-22 16:45:29.

I feel out of place. I know I am not asexual. I do have sexual urges. I do find men attractive enough to fantasize. But never have I had sex with them. I know some of my friends who likes casual hookups and that is ok. But I feel like there is something broken in me because I want sex but the thought about having sex just scares me. I have no sexual trauma or abuse. It's like I like the concept of swimming but when it is time for me to go inside the water I freak out. It's just the way I am. When people hear about it they go like "Really? A virgin." Like it is a bad thing. Going on dates hasn't been that good. As soon as guys know I am a virgin, they either get turned off or hyper fixated on my virginity. One guy once said "Thank god, there aren't many women like you." I don't know why but it was a bit offensive because he was more interested in the fact that I was a virgin rather than who I was. Am I broken? I don't seem to find anyone attractive enough to have sex with. It's also a religious thing but I am not very religious (I read porn and erotica).

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/mawkish on 2023-09-22 15:58:11.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Any_Suggestion_6134 on 2023-09-22 16:11:31.

So this has been going on for a year or more now where pre period I start feeling like crying, feeling tired and feeling like no one wants me etc. I’m late twenties and I didn’t know this was going to happen. I just caught on as I’m in a health kick and have been working out etc and I noticed all the momentum STOPPED right at the time of the cycle and now that I’m a few days in I feel like yeah I’m back to my old self a bit. But every month this happens. I don’t think I had this symptom as a teenager. It’s hard to have energy with this going on.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/thisgirlkills on 2023-09-22 15:59:40.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/gottaloveagoodbook on 2023-09-22 14:55:15.

My father's best friend has a son. That son fell in love with the daughter of a wealthy family. The son and daughter are happy and cute together, and married about five years ago.

The daughter works at the international business her family runs. She does very well. Obscenely well. They make a product you've absolutely heard of. No, I'm not going to tell you which one it is.

Ever since these two crazy kids got married, my father has been somewhat-subtly hinting that the two of them should help him out. Send him one of their better products for free. Give him a job. Maybe just take him out to dinner and pick up the bill.

He doesn't make these requests very often. He sees the couple quarterly, but he only requests something every-other year at the most. The couple have always shut him down kindly.

It came off as a little tacky to me, but I'm neurodivergent so I'm usually wrong about this kind of stuff. I figured that if he was asking infrequently and graciously accepting their Nos, there wasn't a problem.

Well. I was trapped in a car trip with Dad for over an hour this week and he wouldn't stop fuming about the way he was being treated. He thinks the daughter, in particular, should show him some respect. She should have personally sent him a message saying that there were no positions available. She should be acknowledging his requests in writing, even when they were going to tell him no.

And I just... what?

I asked him why exactly he thought she had to do that. He said he's earned that much respect because he's in his 70s. (He's been on this kick lately where he thinks his age allows him to bestow unquestioned wisdom on the masses and get back only blind respect in return. Even though his hot takes are mostly garbage.)

Then he said that 'she doesn't even have a real job anyway', so she has the time. This young lady recently earned a PHD and now sits on her family's board of directors. I'm 99% sure she's busier than the two of us combined.

I was about ten seconds away from blurting out, "Why would a brilliant, happily married, 20-something heiress give a damn what a fat, old, miserably divorced man thinks about her?"

Thankfully I stopped myself and redirected. But I'm not sure if I'll be able to pull that off next time. And for many reasons I need to make sure Dad doesn't cut me off right now.

So. I need scripts.

What's the best way to gently but firmly tell an man to stop expecting a 20-something Dr. Executive to cater to him because I'm Old and I Changed Your Husband's Diapers?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/n42cy on 2023-09-22 14:30:13.

I’ve been working at my current job for just over a year now and in that short-ish time I’ve managed to overlap all the old employees. I believe if you are to do anything you gotta do it right. My name is constantly mentioned in manager meetings and i have been asked to apply for a promotion twice now. They make me do all the busiest hours and days and even when I go over and beyond this ONE manager (mr. X) always has something to say. Recently, I again got asked to apply for the promotion. In the past I have declined as I am not too interested in advancing in this job. Side note I’m finishing up my commercial pilot’s licence and the job I have now is just to keep me busy (workaholic). I thought it might look good to show I have managed others on my resume as it is a good skill to have and I am already doing so as we have no manager in my department. I say all of this to say I give my 100 + 10% at work. But this Mr. X is against my promotion saying I do not smile enough and am intimidating. It reminds me of a scene in Ted lasso where Rebecca, the only female manager, finally sees the room of men as just little boys in suits. It’s funny to me that my lady managers always love me and the opposite is true for the male one. I think the added bonus of being even average looking or slightly better and they feel entitled for you to smile and be ‘approachable’ because anything else that confirms that you are not going to make yourself small to match their non existent self esteem make them quiver in their boots. It used to anger me before but now I just chuckle. It’s almost as if you ran at them slipper in hand threatening to hit them. But no you just kept it professional and conversation to a minimum. I hope I see more women rise to higher positions whatever job they do. But in the process I hope you never lose all you positive attributes these men love to label as negative.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/coffeediva98 on 2023-09-22 10:57:58.

So yesterday I got a message that said this ‘Hey cutie I recognise you from the shop xx’. Straight away I was like okay this is creepy. He had obviously searched up my name from his receipt as my first name isn’t very common so I’d be easy to find.

I shouldn’t have replied but he has no pictures of himself, so I had no idea who he is. I thought, well work can’t do anything if they have no idea who he is and I would be paranoid thinking every man I serve could be the one who messaged me.

So I asked if I know him and how he found me. Apparently I came up as friend suggestion which is bs as we have no mutual friends. He said I served him today. So I asked what he looks like. He described but I really wasn’t sure so I kept going and got more details. He said I’ve served him multiple times and then I worked out who he is. He said he’d send a pic on Snapchat which I don’t have and seems sus as fuck to me. So I replied saying I only talked to you to work out who you are as it’s very creepy for you to do this and now I know who you are I will be reporting this to work.

My work have found him on the cctv. I’m sure what exactly they’re gonna do but at least they’re aware. I’m just kinda scared cause I didn’t think it was that serious but my bf thinks it is. Should I be worried?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/BaddyBadBxtch on 2023-09-22 08:34:26.

I'm sorry to say, as a woman I've witnessed most aggressive and cruel nature from men. When you point it out, men crap themselves and get red faced. Like I had some just try to troll me when truth is spoken.

No not all men are bad but given the amount of public rage online/off its mostly men.

I'm white. I know my race is the most racist lol..I'm not mad. It's just truth. I let ethnic men/women rant on white people and go on about my day.

Just..ugh

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/verifiedgnome on 2023-09-22 06:51:39.

I was listening to Drew Barrymore by Bryce Vine today and I realized that I am never going to enjoy sex the same way men do. I might desire and imagine it like them, but I will never actually get what I picture in my mind. It will never be satisfying because (based on past experiences) they just don't care. The vast majority don't care to try to please women at all. That is just deeply saddening to me and I'd like to know if you good folk feel at all the same.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/chill_no_stress on 2023-09-22 04:24:36.

It’s really long but thank you to whoever reads this 🥺

Since probably April/May of this year, I’ve been experiencing itchiness mostly around my labia (not really in my vagina). It comes and goes throughout the day, but when the itchiness comes, it’s INTENSE and so unbearable I have to scratch it—it’s been like this daily even right now.

Initially, I put it off until it got noticeably worse so in June, I went to my PCP, who swabbed me and did a pap smear and STD testing (all normal/negative). It came back positive for yeast infection and BV so I went on a round of Diflucan/fluconazole and antibiotics.

I think the symptoms got better for a day or two but then the itching can back AGAIN. So I went to OBGYN, and a PA examined me and found yeast under the microscope (she walked to the lab with a sample but idk how that works?). She put me on two more rounds of Diflucan and tested me for mycoplasma and ureaplasma (which came back negative). My symptoms seemed to get a bit better for a day or two but I wasn’t completely sure if my yeast infection was resolved as I was traveling abroad and had no way to follow up, and I was still itchy everyday with either that typical cottage cheese discharge or smegma (at this point, IDK what a normal vagina/vulva looks like but I do have some whiteish coating on me on most days).

Fast forward to this month, I came back to my PA and she was surprised to hear I’m still itchy constantly down there so she did another full work up and blood panel. Everything was normal (normal A1C levels, CMP, no STDs, negative for yeast or BV), and they had a physician explain the results with me and suggest a colposcopy. He said that normally, it’s for patients who have abnormal paps but since I don’t, he’d examine me mostly visually. (It’s important to mention that I have had pain and major issues trying POV sex with my one partner once (we couldn’t fit it in past an inch), can’t insert a tampon in without pain, and couldn’t handle a pediatric speculum during my first PCP visit so I voiced my fear with him on having anything inserted in me).

Today, he did the colposcopy and told me two things:

• he saw genital warts on my lower labia, which are too small to see with naked eye (I believe is what he said)
• my hymen is unusually small which is why I experience pain with POV and speculum. He said the incidence is like 1:10000 and he can perform a procedure to open it. But the thing is, when I told my PCP about these concerns back in June, she assured me that my vagina is normal and said sex is uncomfortable in the beginning and my PA also assured me my vagina looked normal too during my last visit…I can’t tell who to trust, whether I really “need” surgery, and I’m scared that I’ll never have sex without pain :(

I am so frustrated, scared, and confused. I went home crying all day today. I feel dirty and unhygienic. I thought I had a yeast infection and BV this whole time (and I guess at some point I did), but now I also have warts?? I’ve only been with my one partner this whole time and he had a negative STD panel/never noticed any weird lesions on his penis so how could I have gotten them? (He and I are each others firsts, both 24, and we mostly grind without clothes and use oral/digital stimulation sometimes). (I’m going to another gynecologist tomorrow to get a second opinion.)

I guess I’m wondering if anyone has any advice or similar experiences. Is it possible for genital warts to be so small they can only be seen with a colposcopy? (My mom examined me later and couldn’t find anything.) And is it possible that my “unusually small” hymen can actually just be that specific doctor’s opinion and it can be stretched through sex or trying to myself? Is pain during sex/speculum normal or am I the weird one?

I’m at my wits end because I’ve also tried so many things on my end too: daily probiotics, clean cotton underwear, boric acid suppositories, monistat, keeping vagina dry after showering, holding off sexual stuff this past month, and more. But I STILL have an itchy pelvis and it’s SO ITCHY. Someone please help 😣 thank you for listening if you’ve made it this far.

**Edit: I think it’s important to mention that while I experience pain/discomfort with penetration/speculum, I’m able to insert almost a finger up myself without pain because I used boric suppositories (so idk if it’s mentally related/vaginismus or an actual issue like the gynecologist said about my hymen). Also, the doctor offered to treat my “warts” with strong acetic acid but I haven’t gone yet/am figuring out if I should go even if maybe it’s not warts (not sure if it will harm me if I don’t actually have genital warts).

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Mel-bakerson on 2023-09-22 02:59:55.

Original Title: My Manager (who was my Ex) gave the cops fake information and they came breaking my window. All because he was jealous of another co-worker, mistakenly thinking we were in a relationship when we were not. I'm scared and not sure what to do

(Previous thread broke the media so reposting again)

I'm facing an issue with my Manager who I broke up with a few weeks before he got his current position, for treating me like garbage, putting it bluntly. He would make advances I didn't want, curse at me, and treated me like property.

Awhile after the breakup, I was hanging out with a male co-worker and things were fine until one day he gave me a hug while departing for his new job on his last day, which I gave back (he was a good friend), in the view of my manager. He got jealous, and asked me to come into the back storage room where he insulted and yelled at me as if I was HIS. I tried to tell him it wasn't a relationship but he kept cutting me off making assumptions. He then kicked down a stack of chairs in anger, and after that I quickly clocked out and went home because I was afraid he'd hurt me, then submitted the complaint to HR. But HR said it would take a few days to look into the complaint despite it's urgency, showing HR is useless.

Today in the morning I heard noises and woke up to see what it was, then I saw my window break right in front of me with a pole outside,. Police were trying to break into my apartment! Apparently, I wasn't answering the door so thinking I wasn't there they were preparing to break in, a neighbor got some of it on camera before he was stopped:

Video of police breaking my window due to my managers fabricated "report"

Eventually after I went outside and clarified things, I found out they were told that I had weapons and planned to harm people in the neighborhood, and the "evidence" was apparently given to them by my manager from a "concerned customer in panic" who knew me (?) and it was enough for them to not take any chances.

But because the police were said to be acting in good faith, they are not paying for the window, and a couple legal attorneys told me the same which terrifies me. The cops did say they would investigate the report, but said it may take up to a MONTH in some cases, and they were so relaxed about it (I hope it wasn't because of my skin color, but I'm concerned by the complete lack of urgency)!

The window costs $129 to replace and I don't get paid until next week. But I quit my job because I was scared what he would do to me at work if he was making fake police reports. The only other thing the police suggested was file for him to not get within a certain distance from me, but the cops aren't patroling so why would that matter? I don't have credit for a loan or creditcard so I'm not sure how to afford a window replacement as 129 is a lot here

I already live in a rough low-income neighborhood in a rural town, break-ins happen on occasion, so now I don't know what to do. I got no window anyone can climb in, even my manager. He's already showed violence toward me so who knows what he's capable of, and he knows where I live, and I just had to send HR my resignation because I can't risk going to work and him doing something to me. I didn't feel safe.

I'm still rattled and am having trouble calming down. I don't know what to do. I'm thinking of just staying inside until I can get my previous job back rarely leaving my apartment, but I'm concerned about my apt not being secure. Cops are taking it slow on dealing with what's clearly a fake report and won't repair the window, and HR is taking their sweet time to investigate a violent manager who was kicking chairs at work. I'm trying to avoid anything that could bring me harm.

Was quitting after the police were falsely called the right thing? I don't know anymore.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Odd_Information1013 on 2023-09-22 03:55:46.

I tried to post this in an unpopular opinion sub that was getting sus posts about gender lately, but it got immediately removed. Just thought that was funny! /s

Anyways, this includes the entire acronym of LGBTQ. They're my sisters and I don't care what the media or news says — I do not fear the average queer woman, no matter her birth sex. Likewise, I feel LESS safe around the average cisgender, heterosexual woman. The "average" where I live are Republican Christians, and I know exactly how they feel about me as a lesbian.

I do not feel forced around by my sisters. I do not feel like my spaces, or my voices, are being taken away. I do not feel like I am forced to date them, or have sex with them. The average queer woman (and man, but I speak as a girl liker lol) knows exactly how it feels being hated and feared, spoken of as a predator because of their identity. There's bad apples in every group of any people on earth and I know this very well, but I love my queer siblings as a whole; and I feel like this opinion is genuinely not allowed to be heard of, at least outside of LGBTQ circles.

The worst people try to convince anybody outside of the demographic that lesbians as a whole despise those that have a differing gender identity from their birth sex, and I'm here to say for a LOT of us... it's just not true. Man, woman or something else, you have space at our big gay table.

Be good to each other. That's all. 🌈

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/caill__eesi on 2023-09-22 03:10:51.

An unknown number started texting me the other day saying that they saw my tits and started asking for nude photos. Then they revealed that they already have nude photos of me. I didn’t believe them at first and thought it was just some rando messing with me or a scammer and then they sent me a screenshot of what looked like a video of me topless from about ten years ago. I was absolutely floored. And they said that they have much more. They wouldn’t reveal who they were or where they got the nudes but they said that they got them recently. I remember sending nudes to my boyfriend in college when we were long distance for breaks. My theory is that perhaps my ex posted my nudes on a revenge porn site with some of my information and this was someone texting me from that? Because they were mostly just asking for more nudes (wtf) and trying to scare me but they soon lost interest and stopped texting me. I’m just very confused because what this person sent me is quite old and also my college boyfriend and I broke up nine years ago and it wasn’t a very bad breakup so I would be shocked if he posted my nudes somewhere. And if he did post them why would I be hearing about that for the first time now? And then also is there anything I can legally do about this?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/stallionofcinnamon on 2023-09-22 02:33:54.

My mom has lived with me for years, she lives in a different section of the house and besides folding laundry and occasionally doing dishes, she keeps to herself and does her own thing. I’m due in November and my husband has told her to be out by then. She found a place and is leaving next month. I’m heartbroken. I don’t want her to leave. She’s my best friend and she would be so helpful when baby comes. I have an older child and just feel like I need her here. For help. For support. For love. My husband said I should be able to handle things while he’s at work, and I’m with newborn and taking care of my older kid and the house, and that if I need help, I could pray to God.

I’m so scared. What if I need her?

Edited to add: we got married last year

dit 2: she even pays rent to us. Which is super helpful.

He says he doesn’t like her enough for her to stick around, but she was here first. It was a package deal, if he moved in and married me, he knew she lived with me.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Hippeye on 2023-09-22 01:59:46.

Hi everyone, I (33M) am a VP at a TK-8 school.

Last year while subbing a 5th grade class some pro-Tate chatter started. I explained to the students that he is a misogynist predator with worst than awful behaviors. The students accepted that and I heard nothing moving forward.

This year, a single 8th grader announced he would go on “moral crusade to spread the good word of Andrew Tate”… I pulled him aside and gave him the 8th grade version of my speech. It did NOT go the same way. He was much more staunch that Tate is an Alpha male, billionaire, and we are just jealous of his expensive watch.

I tried explaining that he basically admits to human trafficking for his money. He promotes SA because he believes men are meant to be dominant. He debated that he’s only been indicted, not found guilty so he’s just a victim of haters.

Now, here is where I want to ask for help. He told me if I could give him proof of Tate saying he is pro SA, that his business model is manipulative human trafficking (or if he is found guilty) he will stop promoting human filth. I tried looking up content, but kept finding articles that speculate that he is a bad person…can anyone help me get evidence from this POSs own mouth I would be so appreciative.

Also while I am here I just want to say thank you to this sub. I have just been a passive lurker/supporter as long as I can remember. Reading stories, listening to responses and viewpoints has helped me be a better person and better support to so many. I am a straight white guy and know that I need to be a loud and fierce advocate for equal rights (silence is acceptance). This sub has helped me fight that fight. So, Thank you.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Arcade_109 on 2023-09-22 01:54:25.

Full disclosure, I am a man. My girlfriend and her 1 year old have been living with me for the past few months while they look for an apartment. The bio daddy started coming around her place and verbally threatening and harassing them. He does not have any rights to her. There has been no paternity test and his name is not on the birth certificate. He has no parental rights to her daughter.

Along with this, another one of her exes who also would be shitty and abusive to her has recently started texting her with different numbers asking for them to be friends and maybe more again. She tried to be nice and said, "I will contact you if I decide I'd like to be friends. In the mean time please do not contact me."

Anyway, we even switched daycares not too long ago. This morning she went to drop her daughter off and the daycare lady texted her and said that a car had kept parking on the other side of the road and taking notes or something when she dropped her daughter off. Then they would leave after she did. She noticed it for a couple days now.

We assume it is either bio dad or other ex being bastards but we aren't sure what to do. Obviously I will be going to drop off at daycare with her from now on and I'm gonna try to find out about the car. But we aren't sure about the best course of action. Has anyone ever had a similar situation or any advice on what they might do? Thank you.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/reginamab on 2023-09-21 22:00:24.

some examples that come to mind: astrology and horoscope, magic, spirituality. celebrities, kpop, romance and YA literature. beauty, make up, fashion, skin care. relaxing video games such as animal crossing and the sims. shipping, fandom stuff, fanfictions.

i want to point out that:

• these hobbies are not exclusive to the female gender!
• there are girls and women who are not interested in these things, we are all different

anyway this is not the main point of the post. rather, the fact that these hobbies are considered stupid precisely because they often target a female audience. and don't tell me, "but kpop has a crazy fanbase! but horoscope has no scientific basis it's just nosense! but fanfiction is garbage!!" because that's not the point of this post. you could say these things about so many stereotypically male hobbies but no one does.

tbh i think we are used to think that our interests and hobbies are stupid unless they are approved by men. i had a group of gamer friends, and i felt ashamed to say that i liked playing the sims. they would make fun of me because it's "girly stuff" so i stopped playing it and talking about it. I never talk about the fact that I used to write fanfiction in the past, and i read YA books sometimes, because I know men would find it cringe.

thoughts? opinions?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/DocumentDelicious177 on 2023-09-22 01:01:03.

I know this is fairly common, unfortunately. For so long my family used me as a therapist, just talking about one another. When I tried to get a word in.. suddenly they had to go. So judgemental, aunts told me not to go xyz place, that some crime occurred there so it’s dangerous. But a lot of pressure to have a boyfriend.. oh but friends are fake you don’t need them. I distanced myself. They told me not to let others influence my life because they wasted their life listening to other people.. but in my big age (in my 20s) they’re telling me I shouldn’t go to therapy or get put on antidepressants because it makes you addicted.. I’m itching to tell them “yea like ur drinking” but that would be rude.

They talk and mull over the past, so many women in my family are obsessed with their adult sons and saying the wife pulls them away from the family. And my brother is 19 and they let him do whatever. They don’t tell him anything because he’s a mommas boy. My mom does everything for him… but him and my dad would tell me to wash the dishes. He goes out and doesn’t have a curfew. I do. I moved out for a while but it did not financially work out- I got into a mess. I’m back at home. I don’t hear the end of it. I wanna pull my hair out. Even going out, my aunts see me out, or other family hears me come home at 10pm and they tell each other and my dad. I’m so sick of it. They called me a “street girl” for going to my friends bday dinner and coming home at 10. I’m lucky to even have some friends left but I don’t have a good support system and I’m like this close to losing it

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/KatAtWork on 2023-09-22 00:49:05.

So, had to share this, as I was completely horrified.

A woman that's close to me recently went to her annual OB/GYN appointment. She's been having some issues, and while discussing this, the female doctor said the following to her:

"Well, you know, once we as women get married, our bodies no longer belong to us."

What. The. Fuck. Can you take legal action or file a complaint against a doctor for something like this? (Texas)

ETA: Her husband was also aghast. Said he has never thought anything like that, and they've been married over 40 years.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/loveiseverything__ on 2023-09-21 22:55:38.

i really just don’t understand men. i’m 5’0 i weigh around 117-120 depending on the day, i’m a curvy latina meaning i have breasts and a butt. OF COURSE IM GOING TO HAVE A STOMACH. they’ll complain that all they see around are fake women with plastic surgery (which is stupid they’re real women as well and they deserve respect too even if you don’t agree with how they went about their bodies) and bash women like me who have “real” bodies. if they see a woman with a flat stomach but she’s very lean she looks anorexic and could eat a burger. they say they don’t like makeup but call women who don’t have makeup tired and say they don’t look put together. and while it doesn’t hurt my self esteem because idc what a man has to say it’s tiring having to constantly defend women against these attacks on our image. i wish we could exist without being insulted for every fucking thing we do.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/permanentscrewdriver on 2023-09-21 21:45:17.

I have two kids, 10 and 12.

I had an abortion when I was 21, I was young and studying so it was an easy decision at the time. I had my kids with the same guy I got pregnant with the first time. I am not ashamed of it and I tell it easily when this conversation comes up. I want it to be an open subject and the discussion to be easy.

The subject came up one day and I told it to the other adult, my kids were around, they heard and I think that's ok.

I just wanted your take on the subject!

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Healthy_Regular156 on 2023-09-21 18:25:37.

I went to my favorite cafe today, to recover from the toil of living in a hypercapitalist society. I noticed a guy reading a book by Jordan Peterson on the next table. After I finished my coffee I went to pay at the counter and the guy was also behind me.

Now, normally I pass very well. So, when I looked back the guy told me to smile I was a little irritated, but I ignored him and turned around towards the cashier. I was preparing in mind how to respond if he tells me to smile again, when he said something absolutely horrible to me. "You will never be a woman."

I was so shocked that I was speechless for a moment. Then I told him how misogynistic and transphobic that sentence was. He started arguing with me and repeating that sentence. Fortunately, my cashier got in the argument and asked him to leave.

The guy left in a huff, but I don't think he will abandon that cafe and will come back again.