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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Smol_Daddy on 2023-10-02 20:47:34.

You're right. There is no difference physically and mentally between a 17 year old to an 18 year old. The age of consent should be even higher. Maybe 20? 21?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/BonFemmes on 2023-10-02 16:26:03.

My BF tries to be a good lover. Sometimes I'm just not going to get there. I fake it to get it over with. Sometimes I fake it just so it won't become a thing. Sometimes i fake it, hoping to make it happen.

Am I lying to him? Is this bad?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/misfit8807 on 2023-10-02 20:11:02.

I've never seen her but in that moment of her passing by I had started to feel defeated until she said that.

I bought a new lawn mower this spring it worked great, in the spring, this summer was so hot and no rain I didn't need to use it. This morning I went to mow and it wouldn't start.

There's no primer on it so I Googled watched some videos tried some suggestions and was able to diagnose it was not getting fuel and was clogged.

I was taking the carburetor off and my next step I didn't have the proper tools so was was just having to make shift one and it felt like I'd never get the bowl off. That's when she passed by and said Get it girl.

It gave me more confidence I got it off drained the gas and cleaned the clog put everything back together and it works.

Those little moments of encouragement really matter. I never thought I'd be more excited to mow because now I can and it's not broke.

So Thank you to the woman who encouraged me and to all yall who do the same for others.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/jortsborby on 2023-10-02 19:01:00.

He’s been fired! Thanks to the support of a fellow redditor who reached out for me, the shop has been made aware of his harassment and he was fired!

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ebbie45 on 2023-10-02 18:06:03.

Y'all, I JUST got done speaking at a work press conference about the dozens of women murdered in my location in the past year by their husbands and boyfriends. And I get this comment on reddit.

I have no damn patience anymore. Takes like this are quite literally delusional, and any man who holds them should be damn ashamed.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ranchojasper on 2023-10-02 18:30:35.

In the 13 years since I got married and hyphenated my last name, I've been told literally hundreds of times by men that I "must hate men" because I didn't completely remove my last name and use only my husband's.

I mentioned this in comment in a different sub (it was a relevant thread) and I have a guy absolutely losing his mind about how I'm just "making this up for attention." What?? To be honest, I'm kind of surprised even the most dedicated misogynist would try to deny there are millions of men out there who are offended when women hyphenate or keep their last names after marriage. I really thought it was just common public knowledge that there are a lot of men who get wildly offended at this? Like to the point of rage so explosive it seems violent?

I certainly know I'm not alone; how many of you have experienced this?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/GreenMirinda on 2023-10-02 16:49:25.

I will keep this vague on purpose, but will try to explain as best as I can. We are in our late 30s, early 40s.

I have a client who requires we meet once in a few months, usually to discuss the project we are working on or a new one. This can absolutely be done online, but this client requires meeting in person.

Since the first meeting my BF has had a problem with it. He keeps saying it makes him uncomfortable and why cant we just meet on Zoom like normal people. I completely get his position, but this client has their own ways.

The situation has escalated a bit as we used to meet near my work for a few hours, but this time I need to travel there and spend one night in a hotel. I would like to point out that there is a lot of money involved in this meeting and it will only help my company (which I own).

My BF position is that it makes him uncomfortable and I should not go. We are supposed to go away for the weekend and he said if I book the flights to meet this client, I can cancel the weekend plans becuase he wont go there with the thought that the very next day I will be doing something he doesnt agree with.

I have tried to explain that millions of people travel for work meetings, but all he says is that I should choose him and not my client and that he feels unappreciated and like I prefer to make money over his feelings.

I dont like him giving me an ultimatum about the weekend trip and I told him I will go on my own if he decides to stand his ground.

He is usually a super reasonable person and thinks rationally. This is out of the left field and I dont know how to handle this anymore. He wants me to refuse to travel and make them come here but I dont want to do that. They are the ones who want to pay me a ton of money for my work, the least I can do is travel to them.

Do you have any ideas how to find a compromise or solve this going forward?

Sorry for the rant, we are in the middle of the fight and I am not thinking clearly. I feel like I am living in a crazy town.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/1stanleynickel on 2023-10-02 16:18:42.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we’ve lived together for a little over 2. I’ve seen the way he treats people he thinks don’t matter, like people he doesn’t know or have personal interest in. He’s not always kind, and occasionally I’ve seen his temper flare and he turns on me. He can be very argumentative and defensive over very small things and it really feels like I’m talking to a teenager. I’m afraid of backlash from him. I don’t want to end the relationship with a terrible memory of him at the end.

I know it’s time to break up, but what’s killing me is having no idea how he will react. I realize I don’t owe him the opportunity to blow up at me and possibly say nasty things, but I feel terrible for moving out while he’s out of town and leaving a letter. I still love him on some level even though I know it’s not right for me being with him and it feels like a massive betrayal to shock him with this. I’ve told him recently that I don’t think we’re compatible and he gave me pushback. I know there’s no sense trying to convince him.

We also have a ring camera that I don’t want sending him notifications the whole time I’m moving out and I’m worried about that because he’s been keeping tabs on when I come and go. If I shut the Wi-Fi off will it continue to record footage?

I haven’t left yet, I’m planning to do it the end of this week. I guess I’m looking for advice, tips, validation, and anyone’s experience who has done a similar thing. I’m not thinking very clearly due to the stress and anxiety lately.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Its_Alive_74 on 2023-10-02 12:58:31.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/mothmanr6 on 2023-10-02 16:48:39.

Because her husband noticed my nipples.

This happened last Friday. Apparently my brother in law made a joke to my sister about me not wearing a padded bra. He makes jokes about everything and I don't think he expected her to say anything..

Anyways when I saw her, she said "geez, mothmanr6, are you cold? Wear a padded bra." My brother in law happened to come into the room at that time and I think he felt bad and joked that "he has the same problem".

Later on, I brought it up to my sister and she told me that men notice these kinds of things so I should do something about it.

I'm still upset after several days. It's taken me a majority of my 20s to be happy with how my nipples look. They are always on alert and at one point I've considered plastic surgery to get them to be less noticeable as I was and sometimes am, especially now, ashamed that they are noticeable thru most shirts and tops. I've gotten so tired of trying to find thick, expensive, and often uncomfortable bras to cover them up so I've resorted to bralettes and not giving a fuck but now I feel like I've been belittled back into being ashamed of my prominent nipples.

If my husband commented on another women's nipples, I'd ask him why he was looking at her boobs.

Now I don't feel comfortable around my sister...I feel judged and criticized. I know she would say I'm being too sensitive and dramatic but I feel like if I were to get SAed, she'd ask me what I was wearing.

Has anyone else had experiences like this?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Shot_Cup698 on 2023-10-02 15:14:59.

Do you like to show them off so other people can be jealous that their partners aren’t as good looking as yours?? I find this whole thing completely bizarre. Someone shared this in another group (not sure if/how to link as I’m not v active on here and don’t really know how things work) that he was excited to take his smoking hot wife to his Christmas party, he was pretty sure she’s better looking than the other wives going, and that he was ‘proud’ to be with her and ‘show her off’. Along those lines basically. This sounds insane to me and I replied saying as much. It seems a lot of the comments are agreeing with this guy though, and other people feel proud of their wives because of how they look. Surely you can’t be proud of how someone else looks? Interested to hear thoughts on this.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/lurker627 on 2023-10-02 13:50:01.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Cellar_Door_789 on 2023-10-02 12:56:42.

One time I was hanging out with a male acquaintance and he invited me to go out for drinks later in the evening with some of his friends. I go with him to an apartment for the pregame and it turns out a guy who had a very open crush on me for years, who I had always turned down, lived there. There were a lot of people at the pregame that came to the bar with us. The guy who had the crush began acting if I was there for him. I had to eventually set a boundary because he WOULD NOT STOP TOUCHING ME. When I put up the boundary he threw a tantrum, like full blown tantrum, thrashing, yelling and cursing my name in the bathroom. And people having to come up to me to reassure me that I was safe and that he wouldn’t touch me again.

And the kicker! Something eventually developed between me and the guy who invited me. Like this tantrum dude saw me show up WITH ANOTHER MAN and thought ‘bet, she’s here for me.’ I’m speechless.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/lolalynna on 2023-10-02 15:20:46.

Every October, a anti-choicer group stands on a street corner with anti-choicer signs. Being fired for being pregnant, trying to file an EEOC claim, fighting unemployment and trying to find a job while 20 weeks pregnant. I am pissed and tired of this.

Partner and I are gonna go counter protest, what should our signs say?

Edit: adding words

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/strgazr_63 on 2023-10-02 14:34:41.

I just moved to a new town and I had a pile of moving boxes that needed re-homed so I posted them on Nextdoor for free in case anyone needed moving boxes. I was contacted minutes later by some guy who asked if they were still available. I said they were. I have no personal info on my Nextdoor page, no last name, no picture, nothing but my first name. H said he'd come get them but he may need help and asked if my boyfriend was there to help him. I don't have a SO but I told him my "boyfriend" was working on the roof so he said he'd get them another day.

Big red flag as he had my phone number for texts and he texted again and asked if they were still available. I said I'd put them on the curb for him but he was insistent he'd need help (for empty boxes that I would carry to the curb myself?). I blocked him on Nextdoor and on my phone.

This guy was fishing for my age, relationship status, and where I lived (I gave him none of these things) so I blocked him and looked him up online. He is a sex offender for CP.

Generally I am really careful about giving anyone my phone number but I was busy unpacking and distracted. I have always checked out anyone I would meet for the first time on the sex offender registry but I was distracted with moving.

Be careful out there. Creeps are everywhere.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/princess_o_darkness on 2023-10-02 09:26:23.

Sorry in advance, it’s a long one. Just trying to process how my son, who is not even 3, is already keeping me on my toes with regards to gender.

We have tried to be neutral parents from the start, not overly pushing one way or another. Simply keeping toys interesting and colours as bright as possible and not sticking to one “aisle” or another.

Even with that, he definitely gravitated very early on towards trucks, machines, dinosaurs. He plays “rescue man” and “fix it man” and charges around with sticks as swords. All very much the stereotypical boy. We are of course happy to encourage whatever makes him happy and I love seeing him run around roaring like the little gremlin that he is.

Two constant exceptions where pink and sparkles enter our lives have been Gabby’s Dollhouse and My Little Pony (friendship is magic). He picks them out all the time and loves them both.

But yesterday he came running to me with “mommy mommy I need help!” He was watching my little pony and he pointed to the TV saying “I need to watch something else!” in a panicked way. I thought maybe something scary had happened in the episode so I asked him why, and he answered “it’s all ladies!” I asked him what was wrong with that and he frowned and said “it’s all ladies…that’s…not good!” I replied that there’s nothing wrong with being all ladies but he still seemed worried until I also pointed out that one of the ponies was a man. He appeared to relax after that and watched the rest of the show with no issue.

He was barely two and he corrected me when I said “police lady” and he said “no, police man” I told him ladies can be police but he didn’t believe me, saying “ladies can’t wear police hats”(?!?) until I pulled up loads of pictures online of women in police uniforms (and hats).

Multiple times I have had to correct him when he says there are no “fix it women” - fair enough, our house is under constant construction and so far we haven’t had any women on the crews coming in and out. BUT I do ALL the DIY around the house (my husband does ALL the cooking), so he’s seen me regularly with power tools and I’ve fixed plenty of things with him.

I see all these news stories about young boys becoming hooked on Andrew Tate etc and always thought somewhat smugly that’s no way going to happen to my boy. But then I hear “ladies are not good” and it strikes a little stab of fear in my heart for this sweet, innocent, funny, bright boy entering such a polarised world.

Anyone else relate? Any advice for fostering healthy gender perspectives now and in future?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Cute-Kiwi-Boy on 2023-10-02 07:00:03.

Women get criticized for the revealing nature of being braless and it's (by some) labeled "fatherless behavior". Is it acceptable?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/IrisFromOmelas on 2023-10-02 08:11:23.

Yesterday I was walking back home from uni and some guy tried to approach me. At first he complimented my shoes then my general appearance, and when I told him up front I wasn't going to give him my number he went defensive and promised he wasn't going to ask me. I dubiously hummed and went to leave, but then he followed me and started a 10-minute long monologue about his life, his personal problems, his fiancée whom he was trying to leave but it was complicated, really he just dumped his whole life story onto my lap.

He kept saying he wasn't hitting up on me and maybe we could be friends, but while he was talking he kept trying to invite me for coffee or give me a ride in his car. I shot him down every time, and as he talked I stayed as placid as possible, giving my best impression of a microwave ("mmmmmh"), but he just kept talking and, more importantly, kept following me as I was walking home, and I did not want him to know where I lived.

I got out of the situation by texting a code word to a friend. It's a word that we specifically have for when we have to call the other immediately to get her out of situations like these. The guy still walked behind me as I was on the phone, so I faked an emergency that required me to go to my friend's place and was finally able to get rid of him.

Overall I know it turned out fine but the encounter definetely left me annoyed and tense put a damper on my day and I wish I was able to get rid of the dude before he held my leg for 15 minutes. So I was wondering if any of you knew some techniques to get rid of men who can't take no for an answer.

I've tried looking it up on google but, ironically enough, when I search things like "how to fend off men hitting on you in the street" I get things like "how to hit on a girl in the street". Haha.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/hoelysin on 2023-10-02 01:46:50.

The past 4 days have been a nightmare but all my friends are alluding to me overreacting. But seriously. Migraines, tension headaches, two week early period, cold sweats, insomnia, going to the bathroom every five seconds, the worst abdominal cramps ever, crying over nothing. The list goes on and on. But why do other people not get these symptoms or maybe they just get 1?

My pharmacist was super casual about it. I thought I might feel nauseous for a couple hours at worst. This hasn’t happened to anyone I know or even the other people I’ve seen online experiences.

I’m convincing myself I’m just a weakling bc why tf am I so world stoppingly affected by a lil plan b???

So my question is, did you have a good or bad experience with plan b? Any symptoms? How long for?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/shortasiam on 2023-10-02 03:19:16.

I'm currently 5 months pregnant with my first kid and I've just been reflecting on how vulnerable pregnancy truly is. My husband and I have an amazing relationship. We're best friends completely, respect each other, we haven't had a fight in almost 2 years (knock on wood). We've worked really hard on our communication and I'm really proud of the relationship we've created and maintained.

However, due to some changed at work he's been insanely busy and stressed. Also since we're about to have a baby, he's been saying yes to every event that comes up trying to see his friends and get new experiences while he can. Plus his work changes have led to him having to travel and do more evening networking. He's exhausted and stressed and I KNOW he would much rather be home with me.

I on the other hand have super slowed down at work and all my close friends are having very serious personal crisises at once and aren't really available physically or emotionally right now. Besides this I'm more of a home body anyways and my energy isn't the best.

I know logically that all of this is temporary, that my husband loves me, he does so much for me, took over all household chores during the first trimester when I was feeling awful. We are together all day 2-4 days a week, since we both work from home and he has to go in twice a week at most.

Yet, I feel so completely abandoned and scared every moment he's not completely emotionally engaged with me. I watched hesitate for less than half a second on a picture of a hot girl on Instagram and started bawling. Between the pregnancy hormones and my ADHD I don't remember what I'm doing from one second to another. If someone wanted to gaslight me right now... I would be completely defenceless.

All this is to say, I'm so damn grateful I have a partner I trust right now and I never truly appreciated until now how completely vulnerable pregnancy makes you.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Honkhonk81 on 2023-10-02 01:54:42.

What he did wasn't SA, but it was as close as you can get to SA without crossing the line. He fucked with my head to get into my pants, then would ghost me for days at a time. I thought he was my friend - he comforted me after I went through a breakup, he also knew I had been raped before. But he decided to wait until I was drunk and made a move on me. It turned into a weird, bitter situationship that traumatized me. I accepted him treating me so badly because I guess, at the time, I was so lonely I would accept anything. I left the job that me and him worked at together, and he stayed. Everyone likes him there. I didn't tell many people about what happened. I don't know what to do, but it makes me sick that he is out there being happy, when I am traumatized by the really gross shit he said to me and made me do. I'm lonely, but he's the one who deserves to be alone. Does anyone have any advice?

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/eternalkittenMum on 2023-10-02 00:07:39.

Example 1: we took a cute & funny picture together, at a weird angle, that we were sharing with some friends. Laughingly. I made a joke about myself having a big forehead in the picture (again laughingly) and he frowns, and proceeds to turn my direction and give me a ‘pep talk’ about how I shouldn’t talk bad about myself. meanwhile i was just emphasizing how funny the picture was which was the whole point of the conversation we were having at the time.

Example 2: i got home late & he stayed on the phone with me for 20 mins while I was looking for parking outside of my city apartment; I ended up having to walk a bit back to my place once I found a spot. he was asking me about my day throughout the call. as i was sharing and walking back to my apartment, he stopped me mid story to tell me to take a seat and drink some water. although i was a bit out of breath from the stairs in my building: I felt fine. but he started to again, like, give me a pep talk about calming myself and allowing myself to rest, telling me I should take better care of my body and walking me through what I should do to relax the rest of the night….. I was like… I’m….. fine????

Example 3: i came home from work and despite not being super high energy, told him I wanted to possibly have a friend over later that day. I guess he thought I sounded too exhausted to do that, and spent 15 minutes trying to convince me to prioritize my peace and not worry so much about my friend to the point that I ignore my needs and hang out with them, that I work too hard and should give myself respect enough to say no to my friends. but I literally initiated hanging out with them and wanted them to come over. I was just sharing with him that I was a little lower energy than usual because of work.

what is this and how do I handle it? I makes me feel like there is an air of superiority and that he thinks he knows better for me than I do for myself.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/shallah on 2023-10-02 02:52:51.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Whipped-_-cream on 2023-10-02 00:59:40.

My husband passed on Sept 19. I’m very sad to say I didn’t make it there to hold his hand as he left this existence and that is something I will live with forever. However, 6 days later I discovered he was cheating on me for most of our relationship. Confirmed by emails he somehow didn’t delete with pictures of her naked in my apartment (thank god not in my bed). He even bought her sex toys last April (around when we got engaged). No emails after that, but that means nothing really. He didn’t protect me or her from this. I’ve got every detail of her life, her full name and address, phone number & email. She lived around the corner from the hospital he was in, I wonder if she visited him while I wasn’t there when he was dying. I’m supposed to pick up his cremated remains next week and spread them where he wanted. Not sure what to do now, to be honest.

What I want from Reddit is this… What can I do to help feel better after this betrayal? I want to be mature but I also want to do the most nasty things to her. Help me brainstorm lovely subreddit!

I’m not sure how to link my other posts but in my post history you can see when everything happened.

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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/SkinnyBtheOG on 2023-10-01 22:41:37.

Original Title: Have the American women here heard about the conservative project Agenda 2025? It sounds like a conspiracy theory but it's not. It will radically rescind female rights worse than we've already seen. A female lawyer gives an overview in this video.