The idea of a romantic attraction, while I don't judge others romantic attraction; I hadn't always been directly attached to romantic dates. As I was beginning to discover myself, I went from deciding on being a demi-sexual, to then realizing I was more of an aromantic type. I had been made fun at for not going on dates, but not everyone was arophobic towards me and meet some nice and accepting people, after coming out as aromantic publicly.
It seems like every few months or so I look into my identity again and may decide that, based on my last identity, that while I identify with this, but in this way. Figuring out what matches me with all the terms, isn't necessarily difficult but self exploring can be time consuming and figuring out what fits you. While some people might look at it as romance, preassumingly.
Different perspectives can help you learn from others experiences. Having that extra confidence that you don't have to act or be a certain way, perform certian actions can be relieving to a relationship.
Even as an aromantic person, from time to time I might head out with my partner, we might get something to eat, we don't consider it like a romantic date it's just casual just going out, hanging out etc. People would consider it as romance. We do bond on some things, but we're still not dedicated to the romantic aspects. But doesn't mean we won't go out and eat or do activities together.
I can tell you I am accepting of you and your partners, and yeah just whatever keeps you all intact and your well being healthy just go with it.