The idea of a romantic attraction, while I don't judge others romantic attraction; I hadn't always been directly attached to romantic dates. As I was beginning to discover myself, I went from deciding on being a demi-sexual, to then realizing I was more of an aromantic type. I had been made fun at for not going on dates, but not everyone was arophobic towards me and meet some nice and accepting people, after coming out as aromantic publicly.
Had someone, on Lemmy.ml question why I picked this identity. Not sure how to feel about that. Some day I posted about it on this community. On a similarly named aromantic community hosted on lemmy.world. Honestly, blahaj.zone has a more seemless vibe to it overall. This must be how the lgbtq+ community feels as a whole. While i'm still conversating with them in the comments, they seem to be trying to take this middle position of not invalidating my experience, while questioning why I chose that. Not sure if that is phobic or not.
Yeah, outside of this instance and maybe beehaw most of the threadiverse is pretty hostile and not accepting.
Still, sorry you had that experience. We are what we say we are, no matter if we choose or come to it as nothing else feels correctly/we just know.
I found out from their moderation history, that they were highlighted as being an alt right troll, regarding past comments they posted, which fits because they were seeming a bit off from the normal Lemmy user. They were also, so far, the only person to reply to the post on that community.
Lemmy.ml I thought was one of the accepting instances, then I found the user wasn't using an account directly on Lemmy.ml. I reported the user to see where it goes. How Lemmy.ml handles it.
lemmy.ml mod banned them from their server for 'gatekeeping', and removed their comments. I'm actually impressed, mainly because I got a mixed response to being aromantic on Lemmy, which I wasn't really expecting given how LGBT friendly the Fediverse on other platforms is known for being. But this is mainly based off of two users, one on each aromantic related community. But still. 50/50 reception over all so far.