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No. You, and the meme, are talking about men who are sexist and men who are lonely as if they are synonymous. Whereas, I'm taking a half second and thinking that maybe men are not biologically evil, and that there could exist a man who is not sexist and still feels lonely because male communication styles highly discourage intimacy.

The "not all men" cliche doesn't fit here. That cliché is about the context of women talking about woman's issues and/or experiences being dismissed or diminished by men who assert that because they specifically did not perform the action that women are wrong. This is different than saying that men are not a monolith and differences do exist between men that can be categorized.

Case in point: yes, I absolutely relate to the feeling of being lonely. I've been the 20 year old boy, living alone in a fly-infested apartment who thought to himself that he is going to die alone. I grew up with a dad who couldn't handle that I bought a school folder with a cat on it because it was too girly. Even if I wanted to express what I was feeling, I never developed the skills to even identify what I was feeling to even begin talking about it.

It took three years of work before I was able to understand that I was able to want things for myself. I cried in the car after I finally let myself buy a fun treat for myself, and not as part of any reward for something I did, but just because I wanted to.

So yeah, I do get worked up when I see posts like this, because posts like this is everything that I'd see when I was trying to find out why I was feeling so lonely. And the advice they gave then was the same advice you're giving now: "there is something wrong with you, fix your loneliness by yourself". And maybe I feel like things can be just a bit easier.