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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I realize they're not really for the dead, but the living decide that their dead bodies are entitled to more space than some living. Plots cost thousands of dollars. We ostracize the unhoused. Our priorities are broken, and graveyards are yet another thing for those "with" that those "without" will not have.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I don't know. Personally I don't need a "place" to go visit someone that is deceased, but I have very close family that needs that place in order to grieve. Pets or human family, they need to be buried and have a marker.

When I lived in a more urban environment the only way to achieve that was through graveyards/pet cemeteries. With some land and the option I'd rather bury people at home now, but lots of people don't have that luxury, but still have the need to "visit" deceased loved ones, and know where they "are."

I'm not one of those people, sounds like you aren't either, but that doesn't mean that a graveyard doesn't serve a useful purpose for the majority of people.

Could they be more efficient? Sure, maybe. But honestly do they really take up THAT much space?

Definitely fits the unpopular opinion tag, but I think you've got some blinders on your empathy if you don't see their value.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I understand the sentiment and yes, just like everything else, capitalism has turned death into a money making racket at the expense of the average person.

I live near a cemetery currently and was raised near a different one, they make great neighbors. Quiet and the one near me now is also a wildlife refuge so I can’t call that wasted space. Yes, it’s privately owned but it’s open to the public. Also, I work in historic preservation and love working in and exploring cemeteries.

In the end, I just love the blend of history, architecture, and nature in one place.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Not many of the living are entitled to less than 2 m² though. I'm not sure where you're trying to go with this.