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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted, clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

you might need to be slightly more direct than with someone who can focus through a whole conversation

ah yeah, this is what I was wondering about! I had heard that before and thought maybe I was being too subtle this whole time.

People w/ ADHD aren’t known for hiding how they feel

They often compliment my hair and what I'm wearing but won't go further than that. One time I complimented their hair and they blushed HARD. Like put their head down and looked a little embarrassed. Like maybe they only want to compliment me and not the other way around?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Some things that might explain the intense blushing:

a) anxiety is comorbid with ADHD. What this means is that if they do have ADHD/ADD then is it highly likely they also have some sort of generalized anxiety.

b) if this person is amab then any sort of compliment is going to send them over the moon. amab individuals rarely get the same romantic attention that afab's do. So it's entirely possible they simply didn't know how to respond to that situation (I still remember the first time a person complimented me)

All of this is to say it sounds like you have a good handle on the situation but you might want to consider slowly ramping up the obviousness of your intents and watch how they respond. Obviously do whatever you are comfortable with, but it is probably a good idea to try and take the lead in this situation (but again, trust your instincts)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I think they are amab but they ride the androgyny line pretty hard so I can't really tell.

I started wearing a trans flag necklace and noticed they started really warming up to me once they saw it. Last time I was around them they made it a point to stand very close to me to tell me something so you're right - I think I just need to ramp up my interest in them so they notice more.