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XMPP is more safe, I can't remember what exactly but I remember the whole XMPP vs Matrix thing, and matrix has this metadata problem, that spreads like a literal virus; instead of exchanging individual messages- entire chats while encrypted is stored in each server you federate. in regards to privacy Matrix isn't the best. on top of that most people sign up matrix on matrix.org so that's a huge chunk of metadata.
However, your family and friends are sometimes boomers when it comes to signing up for xmpp. so what I'd do is use both and spoonfeed them every step of the way to use xmpp. I'd like to make an easy guide for xmpp one day.
Right, like my parents, lol. When I created a private XMPP server for family, what I did was create their accounts and tell them, "Download Conversations onto your phone, and here is your login." That worked for them..
As far as guides go, I have seen so many. I often direct strangers to joinjabber.org, but I do not know how effective it is. I feel like it's too much for normies even though they try to make it simple. Any service that involves choosing a provider and creating a login is out the window for 99% of people.