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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Nobody, which is why poly is exclusively for people with a scheduling kink.

But yeah, I've never met a poly person who would bring three of their partners to a single event and introduce them all as their girlfriends. In fact, I don't think I've ever met a poly who calls their partners "girlfriend".

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier. I don't love it, it doesn't sound like a longterm adult relationship, but I recognize it's easier to say "my wife and my girlfriend".

and both of us go to family Christmas, though not everyone needs to know relationship status.

... you're absolutely right about the scheduling thing though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier.

That's pretty understandable and reasonable, but something tells me bringing another girlfriend to the same party would probably make the whole point a little moot.

Something about the post reads as "I'm only poly to upset my parents", and that's not typically what I see when interacting with the community. All the successful poly relationships I've seen have taken a ton of work and communication for it to function, and tend to be more mature than let's go upset my partners parents.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

I was in a poly relationship. I called my girlfriend "girlfriend" and she called me her "boyfriend," and she also called her other boyfriend "boyfriend" and he called her "girlfriend."

It was a great, genuinely healthy relationship, and Kyle was an excellent dude who always treated our girlfriend excellently

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can I acquire a scheduling kink?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It depends... when are you available?