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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm a 5'4" trans guy. And as much as I would like to be taller, it's frankly not worth it. And it's not a gender dysphoria thing, height insecurity is generally more about societal expectations. I know multiple trans guys who have had meto or phalloplasties and those are fairly invasive surgeries with weeks to several month recovery times, the surgeries to be taller? You're talking months to years, and they literally break your legs, and you have to re-learn how to walk . You're bedridden for months recovering and it's incredibly painful. I've never heard of any trans guys going through that surgery because it flat out isn't worth it. It's all very deeply insecure cis dudes who really should be required to go through therapy beforehand but because they're cis I doubt it. I've just learned to be happy with fitting in budget airline seats and fancy European sports cars.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah that's the disappointing realism. no magic captain America process to make me big that costs 20k but if there was I see no issue why people shouldn’t do it if it will make you happier.