this post was submitted on 29 Jun 2023
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Better identifying and labelling specific feelings is important, for sure, but it's only one step. When I say "understand your emotional reactions", I mean building an awareness of the childhood and youthful traumas that can inform emotional reactions well into adulthood in ways you don't realise — because you've been specifically conditioned not to think about it.
This isn't necessarily possible to navigate alone, and definitely requires a conscious effort towards dismantling and examining the thought processes boys and young men are taught from a very young age: that feelings are for girls, and girls are yucky, so if you feel things you're yucky.
Feelings are for everyone.
I agree with everything you said.