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I feel like less of a man because of how emotionally sensitive I am. (lemmy.fmhy.ml)
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I don't know how else to describe it, but all my male friends and family are very unemotional. Not in the sense that they don't feel anything, but that they are a lot better at handling them and I feel like I'm not. I've tried meditation, therapy, healthy eating and a better sleep schedule but nothing works. I still anger and get upset at the smallest things and I feel like I'm less masculine than my friends. Im even known as the super emotional guy in the group and they often tease me about it, which makes things worse. My family constantly talk down to me as I don't work out much and am very thin and short while my younger bros are jacked and tall. I don't know what to do and really needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I completely understand where you're coming from. I've always been more sensitive than most guys my age. I was also a late bloomer and I'm quite scrawny. The majority of my friends in school and even now are female, I'm just more comfortable with them.

It's okay to be the way you are. I would focus more on handling your feelings than worrying about being "manly." Don't let the social standard of masculinity bring you down, some people like us just aren't that masculine and there's nothing wrong with that.

I fought trying to be masculine for years and I was never happy. As I embraced just being who I am, I found myself being more comfortable. Besides, toxic masculinity is complete shit and the less people with that mentality, the better.