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I feel like less of a man because of how emotionally sensitive I am. (lemmy.fmhy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I don't know how else to describe it, but all my male friends and family are very unemotional. Not in the sense that they don't feel anything, but that they are a lot better at handling them and I feel like I'm not. I've tried meditation, therapy, healthy eating and a better sleep schedule but nothing works. I still anger and get upset at the smallest things and I feel like I'm less masculine than my friends. Im even known as the super emotional guy in the group and they often tease me about it, which makes things worse. My family constantly talk down to me as I don't work out much and am very thin and short while my younger bros are jacked and tall. I don't know what to do and really needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Masculinity as with all labels, is what we make it to be. Who says it isn't manly to have strong feelings or to be emotive.

If what you are seeking is emotional maturity, that isn't especially a gendered concept. It's something you can work on and build, but I'd recommend trying to mentally uncouple it from being a man. It sounds like a way your mind is beating yourself up for your perceived shortcomings.

Keep working on ways to acknowledge, accept, and let things be. Remind yourself of your goals and your strengths. At times when things get a bit out of control, show yourself compassion and remind yourself you are still working on it.