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[–] [email protected] 39 points 2 years ago (1 children)

proverbs 🥶🥶🥶

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Is the $70/month worth the price for the "pro" version? Or should i just pirate it?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 years ago (1 children)

pirate it. but be careful using cracked phrases! it could be actually an idiom 😱

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Bart Simpson: YOU'RE an idiom!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

better to be that than an oxymoron

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

You mean like Rush Limbaugh, may he rest in piss?

[+] [email protected] 27 points 2 years ago (3 children)

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You are a straightforward and practical people

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (3 children)

This is the way all language should be. Gendered words of any kind serve absolutely no purpose

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I couldn't disagree more, many people may not fit into genders, but most people do and simply knowing whether someone is a man or a woman is very useful. Gendered nouns though, like in French, Spanish, Italian etc. serve no purpose but do encode redundancy into the language which can be very valuable for speaking in loud places

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Other languages get around just fine without gendered pronouns. I bet there are other languages that feel like English is missing valuable concepts as well (not necessarily gender-related) , but we don't miss them since we never had them.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I didn't say they didn't, simply that the idea that "Gendered words serve no purpose" is untrue, they are very useful.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

They have their use, but I'd say in most sentences the gender doesn't matter at all.

"She went to the grocery store.": Here the gender of that person is as important as any other attribute like the color of their shoes.

Imagine we have pronouns based on shoe color, let's say "de" for someone wearing white shoes. "De went to the grocery store."

And now someone proposes we could ged rid of that pronoun and you say "knowing what shoe color people wear is very useful though!"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I would argue it does make a difference. Like I said, many people don't fit gender norms, but most people do. So knowing it's a woman shopping can suggest a array of things.

She will likely be buying some degree more female-oriented or marketed products, a strong example being tampons or a weaker example being beauty products
Her experience shopping will be that of a woman's, i.e. she might get patronised in the hardware section or sales-bullied in the technology section, both of which are quite common for women even now

I really can't think of an example where you interact with other people where a woman's experience won't be affected by her being a woman.

[+] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago (4 children)

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 years ago

It should be unimportant, but some people kick up such a fuss about having to learn new things or changing what they claim is 'natural' that it is important to a lot of people. Gender is both a social construct, and a very real thing that does warrant discussion.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The fight over pronouns is just the first step in "othering" trans people. It helps to reinforce the idea that they're strange, not like you, not traditional, not natural.

The next steps are to deny healthcare, access to equal treatment from discrimination, things like that. There are leaders in the USA making statements that transgenderism should be "eradicated."

If you aren't dealing with shit like this in your area, I'm genuinely happy for you and I hope this never comes near you. But for lots of people, it's quite a bit more serious than a first world problem.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 years ago (1 children)

As I said, the pronoun conversation isn't really about pronouns. It's about tribalism and scapegoating.

How much time did you spend thinking about pronouns or trans people before gay and lesbian relationships began to be normalized and legalized in The West?

Trans people have a new target on their backs because most people don't know someone who is trans and thus don't understand them. They're a scapegoat for right-wing groups to organize and fight against because they lost the ability to be quite so open with their homophobia.

Trans people are, according to some studies, as high as 4 times as likely to be victims of sexual assault and 3.5 times as likely to commit suicide.

Again, this is serious. Trans lives matter, Period.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

PREACH! trans people are being killed for existing. and this priviledged person is all like "dOn'T yOu hAvE rEaL pRoBlEmS?!"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago

Thanks. Some people really don't get it so I try to communicate in good faith on this issue but damn does it feel like banging your head into a brick wall sometimes.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

If it’s so silly and unimportant why do people bitch and moan about using the pronouns someone feels comfortable with?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago

I say nearly this same thing, which is probably similar to what every generation says about the next one. Wait until they "grow up" and find out what real problems are. Your pronoun won't mean much if you lose your job and have to figure out how to pay the mortgage and for groceries before your kids starve.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Is a lamp more of a woman or a man..? Do I have a masculine microwave? How married is mrs Butterworth?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

That always messed me up in Spanish class. Trying to remember the gender of objects so the rest of the sentence could be gendered properly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Mine doesn't either (Indonesian). We don't have grammatical tense, we don't have grammatical case, we don't have conjugation, declination and we still have communicate effectively!

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Isn't that Jayce from Magic The Gathering?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 years ago

Least confused planeswalker

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

a: "What's your pronouns?"

b: "I don't collect pronouns. What's your verbs?"

a: "What?"

b: "What?"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

Oh no, I'm declining!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Are there languages that conjugate verbs differently based on he/she instead of just a general usted? That would be untoldly confusing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Russian does in the past tense but I find it to be a really simple change

Example: He/She/It/They were reading

Он читал

Она читала

Они читали

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Оно читало

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Dunno how I forgot about neuter lol

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

It is confusing when you learn it.

Spanish can be hard to learn when it comes to conjugations, but pronunciation of words is way easier than English.

While spanish doesnt have different conjugations for he/she it does for articles.

Masculine article: El clima (the weather)

Feminine article: La Escuela (the school)

[–] JizzmasterD 3 points 2 years ago

Cases…😳

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

I just had to stop munching on my bugles to check if you had 2 open blue. That was instinctual upon seeing Jace

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Verbs shouldn't even be attempted.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

*Verbs shouldn't even

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Verbs not even

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Cries in portuguese language.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

French, Italian and Spanish

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