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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Affectionate-Low-599 on 2024-01-23 05:54:50+00:00.
My SIL decided about 3 months ago that she wanted to leave her husband & asked if she could stay with us until she got an apartment. She had a job she started within a week & was supposed to put her kid in daycare the following week. I’m a SAHM so I agreed to watch her kid while she worked until she got him into daycare. With help from her mom, this was only supposed to take her a month all in all. My husband & I have 3 kids & live in a 3 bedroom home so this was a lot for us to take on.
3 months later & she’s quit the job, is bouncing back & forth between staying with us & her “ex”. Her kid is 4 & isn’t on any sort of sleep schedule. He just whines all day & night. My kids have school so they have a bedtime but it’s hard for them to sleep when her kid is still being extremely loud. She’s a terrible house guest- never cleans up after herself, comes & goes at all hours of the night & not locking the doors back, POOPING WITH THE HALLWAY BATHROOM DOOR OPEN, goes to sleep in mine or one of my kids’ beds without asking, she starts drinking & leaves me to deal with her kid all night, I could go on & on. It’s causing a lot of problems in our family. We’re all so uncomfortable.
She makes comments about how much she loves in here bc she can just be a kid & im the mom. I truly believe she only stays here bc she’s tired of the responsibility that comes with having a kid, home, etc.
Would I be the asshole for asking her not to stay here anymore? & if not, how do I (people pleaser 🥴) ask her not to?