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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/HedgehogDense4520 on 2024-01-22 18:14:13+00:00.
Over the weekend, my wife and I went over to my parents' house because we had a death in our family. Many extended family members came, and we had quite a spread of delicious food. My wife is horrible with names and easily gets confused, and she sort of had an excuse last night because there were cousins there who she hadn't met before. However, she was asking me names of people who I had introduced at at least two or three other family dinners, which understandably made me annoyed.
I told her who so-and-so was, and she asked how they were related, whose biological children they were, etc. I finally just lost it and told her that the response will be the same when she forgets in six months again. She sort of gasped and got this really shocked look on her face, and I sarcastically told her that I would print a diagram of my extended family later, but it would be bad manners at that particular moment. I sort of laughed to myself, but she got up and walked over to my father-in-law and barely acknowledged me for the rest of the evening. I found it incredibly childish that she decided to punish me for her obvious mental inadequacies.
When I tried bringing up the subject later, she still somehow tried to pin the blame on me, even though she kept deciding to forget this information time and again. I told her that it's annoying for me to keep answering the same questions over and over again, but she totally refused to see my point. She just kept going on and on about how I had "belittled" her and how I needed to apologize. If anyone is due an apology, it's me, and I can't help but find the absurdity of her position humorous. Today, she barely kissed me before heading off to work, and it's pretty clear that she is unable to admit that she's in the wrong, even for one second. She didn't used to be this big of an egomaniac, and I'm starting to question what I can do to help her learn appropriate behavior. I'm feeling pretty defeated. AITA?