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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/asyouwere_x on 2024-01-23 15:48:13+00:00.
I (F18) met my boyfriend, Niam (M22) a couple of months ago at uni. We clicked almost instantly and it felt like I've known him forever, we have similar interests and hobbies, not to mention that he is extremely attractive and a great musician (he's doing a degree in music tech, makes his own music in his spare time).
Another perk of being with him, is that he lives in an apartment close to the campus. I still live with my mum and my commute usually ends up being about an hour, involving a train AND a bus. It's such a treacherous journey, whereas with Niam, it is a fifteen minute drive.
Recently, Niam said that he had talked with his older brother (who he shares the apartment with) and he's agreed that I could move in if I wanted to, I obviously said yes.
For some context, my step-mum, Beatrice (F63) has been married to my dad (M60) for the past 16 years, she's always been there when I was growing up and I do usually see her as my main parent.
When I told my step-mum about the fact that I was going to be moving out soon, she got very upset. She said that she doesn't approve of me moving in with Niam. When pressed about it, she said that he's not a responsible person because he's already got two kids (clearly my older sister has started gossiping to her about him), he's got a bit of a reputation for being rough, and she argued that the apartment isn't adequate.
I argued back that Niam is responsible, and that he's only seen as rough because he is working-class and has a regional accent. Plus, the apartment is adequate, it is a floor in an old Victorian house but he and his brother have decorated it in a way that makes it look like some kind of 70's hippie lair - it's not like they neglect it. In the end, I told her that her opinion is irrelevant and that I only told her I was moving out out of courtesy.
She's been upset ever since, and has been saying that she only wants the best for me and it's hurtful to just throw it back in her face.