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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/sublimethirteen on 2024-01-23 21:33:56+00:00.
My grandmother has been recently diagnosed with cancer, and was in the hospital for about a week. She’s currently home on hospice.
A few days ago my mom sent me an unprompted picture of my very sick grandmother in bed with no context, or anything. I was in the middle of grocery shopping when I received it and it really upset me & I instantly burst into tears in public. One, because it’s an upsetting picture to look at, she was very visibly not well & this has been a stressful time of (unfortunately) waiting for all of us. Two, I think it was super distasteful to take a photo of someone in that very vulnerable moment. I said nothing about my grandmother and responded to my mom “Sending this was inappropriate” to which she went on to talk about how upset she is, how I’m being insensitive as to how she feels, I’m an asshole, etc;
I understand we’re both working through the feelings of grief, both of my mom’s parents passed about 15 & 20 years ago. So my step dad’s mom is all she has left (my grandfather passed in 2022). I have felt very torn feeling like I was mean to my mother and upset her when we’re all clearly going through the motions of preparing to lose my grandma. At the same time, that was really upsetting for me to see with no context especially in a public space.