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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/mazzyyyyystar on 2024-01-23 21:49:38+00:00.
I've (F17) met my biological parents not too long ago, Dawn (F33) and Lennon (M34). It was insane how quickly I felt like I slotted right between them, and how much they dote on me. They've shown me the sort of care and affection I had been lacking with my adoptive parents.
My adoptive parents, June (F59) and Steven (M60) weren't too happy about the situation, when I asked about my bio-parents before, or asked them to help me look for them, they've always just said that it's for the best to just let it be.
I don't have too much of a good relationship with June and Steven, they were always a bit conservative with rules and they were distant to a point. It always felt weird to call them 'mum' and 'dad' but I did do it.
Lennon and Dawn both work creative jobs, Dawn's an art teacher and Lennon's an art illustrator which I thought was cool and led me to spend more time with them, as I did GCSE art and they helped me with that. I've even started spending nights over at their house, which I absolutely love, the decor of the place, and the fact that it's a cottage with chickens in the back. As well as going on days out with them, to get piercings or to museums or anything that seems remotely interesting. It's really brought me closer to them and it led to me seeing them as Mum and Dad, and calling them that.
I slipped up at dinner with my adoptive parents the other day though, and whilst talking about what we did on Saturday and I referred to Dawn and Lennon as mum and dad. It's really upset my adoptive parents, they said that they were the ones that had raised me for the last 17 years and not them. They said that Lennon and Dawn having me was irresponsible back then and that it was a good thing they were mature enough to choose adoption, but shouldn't be trying to force their way back in now.
I told them that I'm grateful for them raising me, but Dawn and Lennon are also my parents, just because they weren't ready doesn't diminish any connection we have right now.
I have been feeling bad about it recently though, as it has upset June.