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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/knightsrook6 on 2024-01-24 04:49:06+00:00.
I’ve (31M) had this friend (31M) for about 20 years. A few months ago, he asked me to be his groomsman in his wedding in a few months, along with 5 other of his friends.
For the first 10-15 years of our friendship, we were very close. Same school, studied the same things, same uni, almost identical career path, hung out a lot, went on trips, etc.
For the last 2-3 years, our friendship has been the opposite. We hang out 3-4 times a year, usually when I initiate, and text every once in a while. This is in stark contrast to the other groomsman and other friends, who he sees a lot more regularly.
I do admit our friendship has been up and down for a few years, but over the last few months I’ve tried to improve it. Asked him and his fiancée to go to an escape room, invited him to lunch, watch football games, etc. he has very rarely initiated and text me up to do something.
I’m at the point where I don’t really feel close to him anymore. We’re certainly not at “groomsman” level , particularly in contrast with his other friends. AITAH if I tell him I’d like to attend as a guest? I feel like he’s just inviting me as I’m a “legacy” friend at this point, and it kinda feels shitty.