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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Fast-Lobster357 on 2024-01-24 04:53:10+00:00.
My boyfriend and I are going to be celebrating our 5 year anniversary in February. We are both in college and work 2-3 shifts a week. I’ve been telling my boyfriend how much I’d love to go to this nice steakhouse for our anniversary. It is on the more expensive side ($50 entrees) but with it being a milestone anniversary, I thought this would be a special treat. (Side note, I’ve also been driving him around for the past two years, since he doesn’t have a car and I do. He doesn’t want to pay for gas, so I thought he would be more willing to spend a little extra on our special dinner haha. He also never pays for my food if we get something quick to eat, which is fine, but another reason I thought he would splurge a little for our anniversary.) My boyfriend is paying off college, but he also buys clothes or other non essential items frequently, so it’s not like he has no extra spending money. He told me he doesn’t think he would be able to take me there. He said since my birthday is also in the same month, he won’t have the extra money and how he is a broke college student. I feel slightly selfish for wanting to go to a more expensive place, but we never go out to eat at restaurants, and have never gone to a “fancy” place before. His mom also gave him $50 for something else that he never ended up buying, so I thought he could possibly use that money for the dinner, but he still doesn’t want to. I also offered to tip, which I am cool with. He just keeps saying I have to understand he is broke, but in my mind it makes me feel a little unappreciated. I never expect him to give or buy me anything on a regular basis, so it’s just a little frustrating. Anyways, any opinions? I am super appreciative he even takes me to dinner, but am having a hard time knowing that if I was in his shoes, I would take me there ahaha. Thanks!
EDIT: I should’ve specified. I am lucky enough to not have to pay for gas, my parents are very kind and pay for my tank most of the time since I use it to drive to classes and such. There was one point where I thought I was going to have to start paying, so I told my boyfriend it would be nice if he could chip in $10-$15 every tank. ( A lot of my driving is to see him). He told me that he probably wouldn’t be able to and that I was putting him in a weird position. Sorry, I should’ve clarified I am not technically paying for gas, but I just thought he would be more appreciative of the “free rides” since he doesn’t have to pay either.