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Back when I was still swiping, I seem to have more younger men swipe on me rather than older or even equal age. Is there a reason why? Boys who knows unker a little, do you think my personality may throw off older men?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Smart guess: Maybe you look younger than your actual age?

Tak tahu mati punya guess: Maybe you give off sugar mama vibes? πŸƒπŸ»

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Cries over missing the window of opportunity to get a young-looking sugar mama

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Im married sis, if I’m single then ill be queuing along with the rest of the dudes πŸ™ˆ

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

what queue uhuk

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Boys who knows unker a little, do you think my personality may throw off older men?

as long as u don't say

spoilerlanjiao lanjiao
so loudly in a public place should be fine

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

I guess cibai is fine

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

is that what threw you off? HAHAHA

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm superficial as hell. I don't care if you're younger or older. If you look good in my eyes, I'd date you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Do you look good in your eyes?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Well, for one I like someone who is clear about what they want from a relationship and is able to have mature conversation. While not necessarily intentionally looking at age, they tend to be slightly older than me.

There's fewer stigmatization against young men dating older woman these days, perhaps that's why you got more matches with them.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I wouldn't call it stigma per se.. it's more a personal thing rather than what other people thinks of it tbh.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Honestly age doesn’t matter. As long as core values and personalities align, don’t have to be the identical but complementary at least. Also maturity, just because someone is older, doesn’t mean they’re more mature.

Ofc there are limits to youth as well lol. Like I see college/uni girls as literally children and wouldn’t be able to date one myself, but I’ve got colleagues who always creep whenever we have lunch at some food court near colleges.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

See only mah, not the same as dating one xD

It depends on the experience also I guess. Maturity and wisdom, do they always come hand in hand? Agree with the age β‰  maturity bit though. God knows I know men in their 40s who made me ex look like the most sane guy around, haha.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Weeee first comment in this forum. UI needs improvement though imo.

As a 36yo man, I prefer younger woman. Mainly due to realistic reason, women have high risk giving birth after certain age even with current medical technology. So, they might not want to have kids at my age or older. Still, it is hard to say. When you found the right person, you might just go for it.

Anyway, I am a (I think you call us) wizard myself. No problem living alone so might end up single forever. haha

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oof, you're not the first person who refers to the "wizard" but I hope it didn't come off offensive >.<

That what I thought too, tbh. Surely men want younger women, I mean it's all about pros and cons right realistically speaking, haha.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

No worries, I unker d never follow these kinds of "naming" stuff (and most abbr) so don't really care. Haha. A quick google tells me wizard refers to people who are really good at something. Doesn't sound match the context of relationship to me. lol. I assume it refers to people who lacks people skill? Or prefers spending most time themself.

Anyway, I think some older man with kids probably don't mind anymore as they might be just looking for a soulmate that can get old together. Unless they playboy lar.. xD

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

hor.. how you know so well they playboy unker.. unless... xD

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Dramas and movies always got rich old fag like to find young girl ma. xD

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

During old days, older men woo younger because of looks. Those days women didn't work, only there for household, and family. Nowadays, younger men chase older or same. Older women too have own money. Supply and Demand. Household and family not only thing. COMPANIONSHIP key.

Imho. Younger women not as interesting, two-dimensional, lacking Life experience. A fly that lives for only 1 day.

Mind you. Beware the love scams at any rate πŸ•΅πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

aiyo so sad for younger women. I don't think they are two dimensional, rather I think they are very idealistic about how they should be treated. It's very much "I want equality, but in a relationship I am your queen" sorta thing. If you are not their first priority, means you don't love them to the ends of the earth. I mean, yeah somewhat true; I do feel like your relationship shouldn't be the most important thing where you drop everything for them. It's one of your priorities, but not the only one. I think that's the difference between a mature relo and a young one.

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