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The original was posted on /r/cfs by /u/TheAnimal777 on 2025-01-25 23:45:07+00:00.
Hi, I'm a 42 year old male with moderate CFS, EDS, long covid, dysautonoia, severe depression, anxiety, and besically am doing very very bad in all aspects of life and health. My blood pressure is consitantly areound 80-90 so I'm always lightheaded and dizzy and I was diagnosed with heart failure a few years ago but that has improved. I have been sick since 2021. I was so sick a year ago that I was looking into Euthanasia, but I have improved to moderate now so as long as I don't get worse again that option is out for now.
I also haven't worked since 2022 and have hardly any money left. I live with my disabled girlfirend who is 43 and had a severe hip injury in 2021. She has no income either. We are able to get by because my father gives me $1500 a month until i can get disability which may take years, but we are straight up poor. It's not even close to enough and I worry about when my last $10,000 of life savings goes away in about a year if I'm lucky.
We are also relying on family to help us with physical needs but they are in their 70s, and 3 of the 4 parents in question have health issues of their own. They'll probably be helpful for realistically only 10 more years.
Well my girlfirend told me her doctor said there was a 0% chance of her getting pregnant and I trusted her so I stopped using protection as she assured me it was impossible.
So she is pregnant and wants to keep the baby regardless of my opinion, as it is completely unreasonable. I suspect she did it on purpose because we fight a lot and having a baby would ensure we stay together, but I am not 100% certain.
I'm worried that the child will eventually get taken by the state.
My other worry is I used to be severe and this could send me back into severe and if we eventually break up and I am required to pay child support, they could throw me in jail since they won't give me disability. I heard that if you have zero income and are required to pay child support they'll throw you in jail anyway as it is your responsibility to provide. I can't even take more than 1 shower a week, how can I support a child?
My questions are
A. How screwed am I?
B. Is it possible to receive enough resourses from government to raise a child if disability is not an option since they deny long covid and CFS sufferers?