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Hi, I need your help to come out to my Muslim (and very homophobic) parents.

I'm a lesbian, 27 yo, in a 3-year relationship and financially stable.

I am currently living with my family, but my gf and I have signed a lease for an apartment.

All the process is behind my family's back, and thinking about when I will move out gives me a lot of anxiety.

That's why I'm asking for your help. If you could share tips on how to come out, how to deal with the anxiety or share your experiences, I can know what's waiting for me. 

I'm not close to my family and I know they won't accept me, but I struggle with the idea of hurting them. 

Thanks y'all!  

To clarify: I want to come out because I want to be authentic to who I am.

I always suppressed my feelings and desires to avoid conflict with my parents.

I'm tired of it, I want to be true to myself. And about my partner, we both are aware of the situation, she gets it and supports me no matter what.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

Being honest and then cutting them out of your life is certainly one way to go about it.

That said, if you’ve been in a relationship for 3 years, do you think you family has zero idea you’re gay, or might they have an idea already?

We often aren’t as sneaky as we think.